Blocking Out Naysayers and General Negativity

byNiaSabelle

214 followers

8 years ago

Hey peoples,

Okay so this is going to be a message for all of those who feel like the people outside of the WA community aren't showing you as much support along your journey. People who would rather you stick with conventional work, those who don't believe you can make it as an entrepreneur, those who laugh when you say you want to make it big online, and do what "put in your model site" does but better.

I have one major thing to say to you, only you have the ability to change your life. Do not let THEIR narrow point of view hinder you from achieving YOUR vision. Naysayers are the type that impress their own insecurities and negative self talk onto others to keep them down at the same low vibration level they are at. They come in many forms. It could be your friend, mother, father, aunt, uncle, grandparent, sibling, wife, husband, fiancee, co-worker, whomever and they always always say they are "doing it for your sake".

Does this sound familiar? "I'm just trying to lookout for you", "you tend to make stupid decisions", "you're not cut out for it, you'll be wasting your time", "our family is not business minded", "you're better off applying for that job at that store", "we haven't been drinking in forever, forget your stupid website and let's go someplace", "don't you need to be smart/to have a degree to make websites?", "a website is hard work (proceeds to list all the cons for discouragement)" among a few. On and on it happens every time you bring up the subject about being your own boss.

Now don't get me wrong some concerns might be valid, and will originate from a loving place, but how to tell them apart?

Decoding Naysayers:

1. They sound condescending every time they talk about your ambitions.
2. If after their remarks you feel bad, awkward, or guilty, about something that you didn't even do wrong and you don't know why you should feel this way.
3. You feel like they are trying to monopolize your time whenever you schedule a day to work on your site and they know about it.
4. They always put down your accomplishments and minor victories instead of celebrating them with you.
5. They always jokingly introduce you as the "entrepreneur" as if it was something to laugh about then move the conversation to something else.
6. You dread having to talk about work around them and being around them because you just know they will put their two cents in and ruin your day.
7. They seem to be conveniently forgetful about the topic of your website even though you told them a dozen times yet they remember the stuff they actually care about.

This list can go on forever and it probably does for someone out there. Certainly there are those who are genuinely curious and might say things that initially sound like naysaying but isn't.

Genuine People:

1. You tell them you're an entrepreneur and they ask you questions about your business without sounding condescending. Some questions might be uncomfortable in the moment (lack of knowledge or facts), but they spur you to do more research and as a result improve your business strategies.
2. They wonder about your motivation and what drove you to be an entrepreneur and they pay attention to what you have to say.
3. They point you to successful people in the same industry even though they might not be familiar with their work.
4. They take you seriously when you set your goals pretty high.
5. They don't laugh at your ideas unless you're deliberately making a joke.
6. They remember what you told them you wanted to do for your work, and send you to different related articles about it on social media.
7. They keep you in their prayers/thoughts/meditations or help you out even when they worry about what you will do for bills (if you left your job).
8. You feel good and are comfortable speaking your mind around them.

The later is so much more better to be around than the former. Negative people in general with suck the everything out of you. So how do you deal with someone who is a naysayer? It might be easy for some and harder for others. For one, you might be living with them so avoiding them is not an option. Or you might be working in the same environment which is also unavoidable.

Here are several ways to keep your energy from being throttled by negativity and negative people:

• Some keep crystals or gemstones that dispel negative energetic vibrations on they persons and draw in good vibrations. Good luck charms work for that same purpose.
• Some listen to affirmations or self-motivating audio tracks from successful people they admire, and those can easily be found on youtube and even on amazon prime.
• Some use prayer before starting their day or meditation to keep them centered.
• Some surround themselves with a protective bubble of positive energy. You simply have to envision it.
• Some spend time with their pets to keep their spirits up.
• Some listen to their favorite songs to set the tone for the day.
• Sometimes you have to remove yourself from a negative situation where that is happening around you.
• Sometimes you have to have a serious one-on-one talk with the person in question and make it clear that your work is important to you and that you would like to have their support, but if they can't accept that then perhaps you will be seeing less of each other.
• Sometimes you just need to dance like no one is watching. It's plenty beneficial and you don't need to be a perfect dancer to do it.
• Watch something that makes you laugh so hard you get happy tears.
• Spend time with positive people who support you.

I mean I could go on. There is no reason why your dreams have to suffer so other people can be comfortable with their life choices. They fear you leaving them behind and having no other excuses left as to why they are not doing better for themselves even though they always talk about doing better. All talk and no action is all it is. So don't fall for it. Keep your head up and look dead ahead of you.

You need to have a singular tunnel vision of where you want to end up at the end of this journey, and you need to keep that in your view. Clip a picture of your ideal (house, car, vacation, etc), and put that as your desktop background so you see it every time you use your computer. Post encouraging notes for yourself with post-its and tag your monitor with them. Have a vision board if that's your thing. The key is, you need to visualize your success. The more you think and see yourself as a successful individual the more things begin to fall into place. The more you believe in yourself the more you will discover that it's not so complicated after all to get to where you want to be, and the more you will change your life to achieve your ideal. So keep on running this marathon, and drinking your water, but don't give up just because someone else who claims to know the extent of your abilities doesn't think it suits you.

Best wishes

Nia