And There Was Light.

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5 years ago

Mindset is Everything

No matter what you do, what field you're in, what job you have. Regardless if you have great education, bad grades or if you dropped out of school. Whether you're healthy or ill. Surrounded by loved ones or alone.

Everything comes down to your mindset.

Five years ago, my mother lost her battle to cancer, and what a fight that was! What a warrior! She had been fighting for over 25 years with this terrible disease.

First, she was hit by 2 skin cancer, Melanoma was one of them. For those of you who know about skin cancer, it's the worst and most villain one. Then, it was lung cancer, followed by breast cancer and finally, bone cancer. Ended up generalized cancer. She took her last breath the 19th of March 2014 around 7am. I was 23 years young at the time, still a kid that had no idea what to do with her life.

A New Life Begun...

That day, was the first day of a new life, but I didn't know it yet.

It nearly took 5 years to realize that a new self had emerged from this tragedy. A new me. There was now a "Before" and an "After" and nothing could ever change that.

Year 1 = Denial. Total denial. Could not believe this had happened and always had the feeling she was just out for groceries and that I would see her on our front door at any minute.

Year 2 = Anger. Profound anger. Angry at the world, angry at the system, angry about everything, everyone and the universe for taking my best friend, my sister, my confident, the most important person in my life away from me. Forever.

Year 3 = Pain, despair and depression. I have no idea how many times I cried, but I cried a lot.

At lunchtime, on my way home (living 10 minutes away from work allows me this wonderful privilege), I would be driving and I could not stop the tears, they just had to go out.

The pain had to get out. So much suffering. My heart was broken and all I could feel was that terrible void created by her absence.

I felt terribly lost, not knowing who I was anymore, wondering what this life is all about.

Year 4 = Awakening. Slowly, very slowly, I started to regain a taste for life. Smiling didn't hurt as much. The vale of negativity slowly lifted to allow sunlight to touch my soul once again.

My mindset started to shift.

After being a victim of this heartbreaking event, I began to understand.

Life throws you obstacles all the time and it is up to you to overcome them.

It all starts with a positive atitude.

A dear friend of mine, who also lost her mother to cancer told me one day:

"The hardest challenges are given to the toughest people"

That resonated in my mind since. It is SO true.

It's Never Too Late To Change

During year 4, the awakening year, I was hungry for information. About what? Specifically, I could not tell, I just needed to see different opinions, hear stories, watch documentaries and comprehend my emotions. And so I did.

Binged watch many videos about life, death, spirituality, universe, cultures, economics, space, time, just to name a few...

Slowly, I was waking up to become a new person. The person I am today. The one typing those words for the whole world to see.

So much change has occurred inside me since that day, I can truly tell I am not the same person I was 5 years ago as I would've never shared this story before.

As terrible this event may be, and trust me when I say it is the worst thing I ever had to endure and go through. It is also the most impactful yet, greatest, event that has happened to me.

It allowed me to evolve so much as a human being.

Now I feel more complete, more full of life than ever before and that empty void, is now filled with positive energy, gratitude and burning passion for life.

Empower Yourself

Now I know this post does not have much to do with WA, affiliate marketing or doing business but sharing this critical part of my story, is key for me.

During her battle, never have I ever heard my mother complain about anything. Never did she say she was in pain, tired or had enough of seeing countless doctors appointment after appointment.

Her mindset always had been positive. She always smiled, cheered us up, helped us as much as she could without ever asking for anything in return.

Her generosity, kindness and love drove me to become the strong woman I am today.

All this to say, no matter what happens, you are the master of your destiny and only you have the power to change things.

No matter what obstacle life throws at you, remember that :

"The hardest challenges are given to the toughest people"

If you are facing an obstacle, it's because it had to happen.

You had to live it and go through this.

You are much stronger than you think you are. Much more resilient. You can face the worst storms of this world and you will overcome them, if you set your mind to it.

We have a very little amount of time during this life, let's make the best of it.

Believe in yourself, believe in life.

Everything happens for a reason, they don't say that for nothing.

Thank you for reading, thank you for your time, whoever you are, wherever you are, may love surround you, always.

Should you ever feel lost, sad or like nothing is working the way you want it to, do not hesitate to reach out and ask for help.

Mum, I thank you, from the bottom of my heart. For evertyhing. For being you. May you rest in peace for eternity.

Love always,

La Puce.