Silence The Negativity

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Updated 5 years ago

I once worked with a person who regularly told me I was worthless.

I'm not kidding. We'd be talking about something or other and I'd mention my next great plan to finally become financially successful. Then he'd tell me that the reason I never succeed in any of my passive income attempts is because I'm a loser, I'm worthless, I'm stupid, etc.

The thing is, I wasn't stuck at the job or anything. I had the freedom to leave the job at any time and get another one with similar pay.

Yet every day I'd go to work and listen to him belittle me. I did this for years.

My question for you is: Would you choose to work with this person if you had the freedom to get away from that kind of negativity?

I should also mention that most of the time I don't think this guy even realized what he was doing. He was kind of just an all-around negative guy, but I wonder now if he actually thought he was helping me. He would disguise insults inside motivational tips: "You know why you're never going to be successful? Cuz you're a loser who will never get off your butt and do something with you're life. Winners aren't lazy pieces of crap like you are."

How would you feel if you found out you were this type of person for someone in your life?

I once lived with a person who regularly insulted me and degraded me.

Some days were good, but most days there were little comments here and there. "You're so stupid. You're so dumb. Why are you like this? What is wrong with you?"

The thing is, I wasn't stuck at that house. There were plenty of places available with similar rent.

Yet every day I'd come home from work and listen to the insults and the snide comments.

Would you choose to live with this person if you had the freedom to get away from that kind of negativity?

I think we all know the obvious answer. Some of you are probably reading this in surprise thinking, "How could you stay around people who are so toxic?"

I know if I saw someone else in the same situation, I would think they were crazy for staying in that kind of environment. I would ask myself why anyone would put up with that kind of treatment every day of their life?

I've asked myself the same question. Why would I choose to have that negativity in my life? If I could work with someone and live with someone who was positive and who lifted me up and who could see the good in me instead of only the bad, why wouldn't I choose that?

So I did.

I stopped being negative. I stopped telling myself that I was stupid or that I couldn't do it or that I should just give up. I stopped telling myself that I was a worthless piece of crap. I stopped judging myself so harshly when I didn't do things absolutely perfectly. I realized I wasn't really helping myself with those "motivational" insults.

Instead, I started noticing the good in myself and pointing out my strengths. I started pumping myself up and motivating myself to do better and do more. I started taking more leaps of faith, one of which was becoming a premium member here at Wealthy Affiliate.

I silenced the negativity, because no one deserves to be around someone who's going to treat them like that.

I still work at the same job (while doing Wealthy Affiliate on the side).

I still live at the same house.

I still work and live with the same guy.

But he's nice to me now. He believes in me. He wants to see me try my best and succeed. He's there to help me pick up the pieces when everything comes crashing down. He's always ready with a piece of advice or some quick motivation whenever I need it.

None of us wants to be around that negative person, and we definitely don't want to be that person.

So don't.