Refusing To Focus On The Negative and Keep Moving Forward for 2018
I wanna talk about how NOT to focus on the negativeinfluences for 2018. However, do to so,please humor me in allowing me to share with you two brief stories of anexperience that just recently happened to me:
Story 1:
Recently, I came across a blog from a community member (thatI can’t seem to find now) where he was frustrated with the fact that people don’talways return the favor on the Give and Take comment thread. There were quite a few people who responded thathad apparently experienced the same thing. I thought on responding in kind, but for some reason, I decided against it.
Story 2:
A fellow WA community member was looking for some comments on his site. He said he’d return the favor; so to help out I went to his site to comment. Upon reading his
page, I saw that I strongly didn’t agree with the subject matter. Not only did I ‘strongly
disagreed’, it went against everything that I do believe in. However, instead of not responding at all, I decided to help a fellow WA member out in an effort to give him some comments, I simply replied: Thank you for the post. I didn’t have extra words to give him
in the comments because as I mentioned, I had completely different contrasting
views on his subject. Unfortunately, I didn’t see the need to tell him that.
Later, I informed him that I left him a comment and askedhim to return the favor. I wouldn’t havebeen offended if he had responded in kind (‘Thanks for the post’).
Imagine my surprise when he sent me a personal messagestating the following:
"Please review the subject of how toleave an effective comment. I cannot except a
comment like yours that simplysays "love this post".
Sorry"
Needless to say, I was quite taken aback. Especially sinceI attempted to help him in spite of having a strong didn’t point of view. Finally, to add insult to injury, doyou honestly think that he left me a comment in return?
I responded to him, in so many words, that I wasn’t fazed atall. Truly, I wasn’t.
What Is The Point of All of This?
How many people would allow this slight bump in the road stopthem moving forward? Yes, I give websitecomments to people that don’t return the favor. I follow FB pages to individuals who don’t return the favor. Nonetheless, it’s the people that do returnthe favor that helps push me (and you)forward toward success. It’s THOSEindividuals that I choose to focus on as opposed to the few bad seeds.
Some will focus on the negative and slowly begin to put onthe breaks. Why do I know this? Because I was that person about 10-20 yearsago. I allowed people’s negative viewson what I was trying to accomplish stop me and slow me down from reaching my goals.
If I continued to focus on negative individuals, I neverwould have finished school, started a business, or even joined this community. Believe me, in my present and the former personal circle that I had, there werepeople who actually tried to stop me from achieving those things. Fortunately, many of which are no longer inmy life.
Focus On The Positive
In addition to the point above, people can tell thedifference between those individuals who are most helpful and those who are not. It’s something about them that just ‘breatheslife’ into others. My focus in 2018 isto be one of those people. Yes, I have abusiness to run. Yes, I have a goal tobe in the top 2-4 pages on Google’s search engine; but who’s gonna make thathappen for me? Yep. You guessed it. God first and YOU!
My goal is not only to reach the top but to see many of you reach it as well. For me, that means the following:
- Giving comments that I might not get a response to;
- Like/Following pages to those that might not like/follow me back;
- Accepting feedback that doesn’t tickle my ears;
- Moving forward when acts of kindness are spoken against negatively
Why? Because thereare going to be plenty of you who do feed my website thus you’ll feed into mysuccess. There are going to be plenty ofyou who do like and follow my social media pages. There will be plenty of you that do appreciate what I and others have to offer. That’s what I choose to focus on.
Refuse To Focus On The Negative
If you don’t know, there are many people who can’t see thegifts that they have; the people that they’ve helpedbecause they are busy focusing on those who meant them no good. Those who had ‘not so nice’ things to say.
I refuse to focus on the negative. I refuse to focus on those who DON’T giveback. I’ll instead focus on thepositive. I’ll focus on those whodo. I’ll focus on your success. I’ll focus on you. Make your focus the same.
Have a happy and prosperous new year.
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The comment section is designed to get a detailed comment to your website and not just an attaboy. In this case if it was something you disagreed with commenting on I would not of bothered. It isn't mandatory. The person was probably just as offended by someone who wrote 'love this post' which is why they responded as such. Neither were right or wrong here but we have to use common sense because we are dealing with people and some have thicker skin than others.
While I have a different perspective, I respect your point of view.