Fear of unknown
Last Update: May 02, 2018

Being afraid

I have been asking myself some hard questions lately and also I have been thinking about reasons why we do things in life, or better yet why won't we do some things. And the reason why I keep doing this like I do, even when I know that I should do something else is fear.

Fear of unknown

I am afraid of change because I won't know what would happen if things were different.

Every time I start to see success I stop, every single time. And I know that I am not alone. Good thing is that these fears are something that we can get rid of, be having trust. We need to trust ourselves but also we need to trust people around us, because there is nothing to fear if we have the support of those that matter the most.

So my advise is that go for it. You will be okay

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DebbieRose Premium
You are on your way to overcoming those fears. Your response to Veronica shows a self awareness to yourself...and that is the beginning to breaking those blocks. All the best to you.
Debbie
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lakesidemom Premium
@DebbieRose
Thank you.
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Nadja3 Premium
Well, You are right... you are not alone. It happens to me as well. Not every time - sometimes. I have learned over the years to trust myself, team members,... It works out. the main thing is -to believe in yourself.
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VeronicasLuv Premium
I commend you for taking time to do some self-evaluation, Virpi.
I would challenge you to go even deeper.

Why do you stop when success is within view? I am very familiar with this sort of self-sabotage, but I needed to go deeper with myself. Why do I do this repeatedly?

What I discovered is that I often feel as if there's just so much that I don't know, it becomes overwhelming. So instead of embracing the challenge, I can often shrink back, because to move forward would mean that I have to take responsibility, which means extra work may be required.

I remember getting stuck when I was going through the Certification, we're talking like weeks worth of being stuck on one lesson! Initially, I just wasn't getting the lesson. But soon, I just kind of threw my hands up as if to say "Oh, well." The several weeks of not moving forward with the training could have easily been reduced to just a week or two, had I taken more responsibility.

Knowing your "why" behind your actions or inaction, could prepare you for when you're in that same situation.

Getting deeper was a tremendous help. I'd love to hear your thoughts, Virpi.
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lakesidemom Premium
@VeronicasLuv
Yes so true. I have gone deep and I know that my fears are related to the fact that every time I have been successfull and doing well in life, it has turned bad. My father died right before I gratuated high school, I got sick with CFS and fibromyalgia 4 months before getting my commercial pilot license and that list is endless. I am just fearful of either having to be even more ill or losing someone I love.
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VeronicasLuv Premium
@lakesidemom
I'm so sorry for my late reply, Virpi. I clicked "like" but meant to leave a comment.

How has this month been for you so far?
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lakesidemom Premium
@VeronicasLuv
Thank you for your reply. Things are clear at this point. Hope you have a great spring and summer.
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RCoppersmit1 Premium
Thank you for your honesty about fear and the way you sabotage yourself whenever you begin to see success. You are right, you are not alone. I have always had a fear of change, partially because in my early life it always came in a negative way. I have learned that change is always going to be a part of life and it does not always come in a negative form. When it does, it is still scary, but I am trying to focus more on what can I learn from it and make my life better. Don't give up or let fear run you, you got this!!
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