When "Mean Girls" come in.

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So, during a moment of buyers remorse over the annual cost I was flooded with two things: Amazing Support and "Mean Girls." Unfortunately, it is a reality of life....and WA. Ultimately, I stayed the track and eventually was able to reach out to Carson. It was an amazing decision. I feel like with the help from other members and Carson really leading me in the right direction.

I can't even begin to express how grateful I am that I got such amazing support. I had an inbox flooded with advice and motivations and with people experiencing the same thing as I was.

Fear. Panic. Anxiety. A Mentor (referrer) who you are not connecting with. I was not alone. You are not alone.

I will keep it brief regarding what brought on the mean girls: Buyers remorse after six months of being "inactive" on Wealthy Affiliate, forgetting much of the training, I had a couple of very serious tragedies this year and felt completely lost when I tried to come back, so I instantly felt that twinge of "OH NO! WHAT AM I SPENDING $299 ON!?" At the end of the day, the choice to stay is a smart one. A good decision. So, what's wrong?

There are some "Mean Girls" out there, who can not or refuse to acknowledge his or her negativity and condescending remarks. It happens in real life, so I'm not sure why I was so shocked when it happened here. Most of it is because typically, this community is filled with support. But it WILL happen! You can respond with kindness, you can ask them to stop, you can reiterate that you'd rather they contact you via inbox, and you can delete their comments or replies.

Please, do NOT let these people take away from this experience and opportunity. Have hope!

I made the mistake of letting these types of people get under my skin. What I should have done is just moved past what they were saying and just went to the next person. They don't matter at the end of your journey.

Are you lost? Did you forget where you left off? You can ask the community. Find a few people you see are more than willing to help and reach out to them. You might be a "Mean Girl," inside and maybe those are the types of people you will need to push you ahead. I took a couple days of reflection and ultimately was reminded that I am in control of how I allow others to make me feel.

So, basically. Don't give up hope. Find the types of mentors that are good for you. Mentors who mesh well with you and the rest cast aside. If you need that type of push that refrains from friendly, there are those mentors out there. If you need someone who provides you with basic auomated messages but lets you find your own way, there are definitely those there too. If you

want help, but are afraid to ask questions for fear of "Mean Girls," please, reach out. Shoot me a private message.I have an inbox full people who want to help and are willing to help! I am just restarting my journey here at Wealthy Affiliate.

You can achieve success here. They have all the tools and one of the best parts? Carson and Kyle (the owners) really do help you when you ask! You are not brushed off and even they do believe you are being a bit sensitive, they will only inspire hope in WA. You can do it. If you need a real mentor, there are people aside from the one who referred you.

You got this!


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Christina
I was a paying member since I first saw this site. I had a three year period when I couldn't access WA due to circumstances beyond my control - from 2015 - to recently (2018).

In September of this year ( 2018 ), I came back earnestly with the intent to make this work for me. I began Bootcamp. I saw a post from Boomer08, and questioned him about where he got the information that interested me. He said it was in OEC training, and he told me to complete that first before I worked on Bootcamp training.

I did as he suggested. To my surprise, I saw that I had completed almost all of Level 1 training. I forgot almost everything I learned; so I started from the beginning.

I never received harassment of any kind, and I refuse to harass anyone. I took full responsibility for not advancing as far as I should be. I have been a member of WA for 10 years, and always paid my membership because I recognized a great deal when I saw it. So my lack of advancing further in my training, is my fault, and no one else's.

I was really happy that you decided to give WA your best shot instead of quitting. Put all that happened to you in the past. Interact with those that send likes and comments to you. Build your trust and authority among all members, and yes, even those who you feel harassed you.

All this is just my opinion.

"Never give anyone advice Just give them your opinion. If you give someone your advice, and they don't follow it, your feelings might be hurt. If you give someone your opinion, and they ignore it, it does no harm to you". Author - My Father.

Hi Christina, I am glad you sorted things out and are able to continue your journey here. There will always be those that are negative. Don't take it to heart or make it your problem. Smile and move on.:) Cass

Christina,
I do know exactly how you feel, and if you ever
need any help please send me a PM - I will do
the very best I can to help you promise :)
I have taken a back seat lately to helping in Live
Chat and been working behind the scenes to help
members with PM and on their profile pages instead.
Other than that I just do my own thing working on
my websites and being happy in my own small
world.
So sorry this happened to you but glad that I could
connect with you.
Susan

Thanks Susan! You are definitely one of the people who I know is willing to help.

I am honestly really thankful that this happened to me when it did. It was basically too late to leave! I was trapped here. If I hadn't already paid the annual, I would have totally left WA. Thankfully, it happened when it did. Which allowed me to realize that yes, I will face those kinds of people and even here! So, I didn't have to miss out on this opportunity!

It gave me the push I needed to reach out to Carson and Kyle. So, while I was so hurt by those people (or more realistically, I allowed myself to let those people's words matter), it was a reminder to focus only on the people who genuinely want to help and which people are just looking to "rank up."

Christina
Leave all that behind you, and focus on moving forward. I talked with one of the people involved, and the person really liked your writing abilities. I did, too. Build up WA with positive comment. Don't be negative, please.

Remember what I said about gaining trust from other members. You will be OK.

Chuck

I have no interest in gaining the trust of others who are condescending or unkind, those are the things I'm "leaving behind." They don't matter and I allowed them to have that power over how I felt about this program.

This post isn't for people like you, who can easily and comfortably move beyond that. It's for people like me and all of the ones in my privates messages who feel the way I do, but do not feel comfortable coming out to say so.

This is to let them know, they are not alone and that there are people who will help them without making them feel insulted. I not necessarily "leaving it behind," but I did learn from it and I will share it with others.

There are enough people on here that we should all be able to find others whom we connect with. This blog is for those people. We can own our mistakes, but when you're being surrounded by what you feel like is negativity and unkindness it's easy to give up.

This blog is going to stay up so that people can know they are not alone. Regardless of "misunderstandings," there are plenty of ways to help people without making them feel torn down (Just like so many people helped me without trying to tell me to "get over it," or that it's not rocket science).

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