What Mom Never Told Me About How People Change

Last Update: January 12, 2018

Last week, I made a huge decision brought about by circumstances I would never have expected, the reason I wasn’t as active as before, here in WA. I know people change. What I didn’t know, is that people can change like how we change clothes, often and sudden. I could blame my mom for not giving me a head start; however, I cannot blame her for people’s actions. And I certainly can blame no one if things don’t happen the way I assumed it to be.

I cannot expect people or situations to remain the same, change, as they say, is the only thing constant in life. Despite that, what I’m now positive about is that the control to change our future is in our hands merely affected by the choices we make, by making a decision to be accountable with our actions and knowing and sticking to who we are. So that when things change, we still have ourselves to depend on.

For this reason, I realized what good it can bring if I continue thinking about how things should have happened. Past is past. What I have, where I am, and who I’ve become are the only bare essentials I can carry as days go by. There’s no way I can let other people control how I should carry on. And there’s no way I can let the past dictate my day-to-day affair.

Thus, I grabbed my pen and paper and went back to doing what I’ve enjoyed doing since last month when I get started. Here I am again, minus the people and circumstances I used to be around. Might not be as active for a couple of months, but this is just temporary, to cover the transition I decided to take. Just like any endeavor, external factors are not in our control, but the decision to do the things that will move us forward is in our hands, it all depends on us.

People change. Deal with it.

May we all have the courage to make that decision to take action and change the circumstances that are holding us back to move forward, no matter how huge a decision it can be. 2018 has just started, we still have way more than 300 days to achieve the goals we set for this year. Let’s all make it happen!


All the best,
Jenni

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reesa12 Premium
I commented on your post Who needs Some Kit Kat and again I find myself really liking what you write. You give hope and a need to want to change and feel better about yourself which is an on going process that never ends.

Reesa
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jenni1309 Premium
I read and replied to your comment on the "Kit Kat" post Reesa, and as I'm commenting this, I really feel happy knowing I can relate to you in a positive way.

Reading response like yours really make my day. I hope you're having a great day as well!

Regards,
Jenni
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Megachile Premium
Reminds me of my favorite saying:

"You cant control the waves, but you can learn to surf."

So much of what happens in life is completely out of our control, but what we can control is how we deal with what life throws at us.

From your post it sounds as if you have recently made a courageous decision regarding the direction you are taking. Congratulations on taking responsibility for your life with such confidence.

Best wishes for 2018 Jenni, I hope you find the success you are looking for.
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jenni1309 Premium
Thank you. Best wishes to you too. :)
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VeronicasLuv Premium
I'm just now seeing your comment, Jon. I really like that quote; that really is a great attitude to have.
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VeronicasLuv Premium
I commend you, Jenni, for taking the necessary steps to be in a healthier environment.

I just shared a quote on one of my posts the other day, that I think is very appropriate to what you just shared:

"Look at the word responsibility - response-ability - the ability to choose your response."

Dr. Stephen R. Covey
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Megachile Premium
love it
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jenni1309 Premium
Thanks for dropping by Veronica! :)
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DEversley Premium
Hi Jenni!

This is a superb life-lesson filled with much wisdom and determination. You are very right about forgetting the past etc. and choosing to succeed. Press on to reach that prize that awaits you.

David
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jenni1309 Premium
Thanks, David. :)
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MKearns Premium
Holding a steady course will pay off long tem!
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