Is My Child A Bully? Parental Fears
When you discover your child is bullying others, you may feel a variety of strong emotions. These reactions and emotional responses are natural for parents who want to believe that their children would never intentionally hurt or harm another child.
No one wants to admit the possibility that their child is capable of bullying behavior and most parents will think ‘no way, not my child’
Children may not always recognize their behavior as bullying. They may see it as “just having fun” and not realize the serious impact it has on another child. But what is the truth?
If you think your child is bullying others, it’s very important to start giving attention to that problem now. The only person that can get through to a child, is his own parents.
Your child needs help! They need all the help their parents can offer them. Sit down with your child, be a good listener and avoid blame. Try to find out what the reason is for his behavior.
Although bullying is an emotive issue, try to remain calm and not become angry and defensive. Explain the importance of treating people fairly and with kindness and respect.
Why do some kids turn to bullying? This is a question many parents ask themself over and over again. Questions like 'Did I do something wrong as a parent?' 'Where did I fail'?
Most things start at home. Maybe there are older siblings, extended family members, or parents who use aggression or intimidation to get their way.
Can you the parent be held responsible if your kid is a bully? Generally, parents may be responsible for their "minor" children's behavior.
The best way for you to avoid any liability for your child's actions is to talk to them about the dangers of bullying and be available to your children from day one, to discuss such issues.
The effects of bullying can be both physical and emotional, and they can last for many years. It can also result in long-term behavioral health issues, which no parent wants to experience.
Helping a child to recover starts at home, and a child’s entire family needs to be patient and supportive during the child’s recovery.
When more families are creating support structures for their kids and are educating them on the best ways to deal with bullies. It allows the kids to feel more confident to stand up for each other and prevent anyone from being bullied.
Do you think your child is a bully? Do something now. His or her life is precious. They need us, our love, and support from the day they born.
They are there because we wanted them to be there. We want them to be the perfect parents to their children one day and of cause the best husband or wife!
O yes! It can be possible with our help and loads of love. Make that move, don't ignore the signs, before it is too late.
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Hi Edith,
A great and very important post. Bullying has become a huge problem and there are a couple of sentences in your post that I think is very important, "Although bullying is an emotive issue, try to remain calm and not become angry and defensive. Explain the importance of treating people fairly and with kindness and respect."
I think bullying is an imitated behavior, and handling the child is so very important. Getting angry in most likelihood will not fix the problem. Finding out the source of this behavior is so very important to find effective strategies to stop these very negative actions by the bully.
Thank you for the share.
All the best,
Michael
Very well said, Edith! Especially in these trying times which is already hard enough on the kids as it is!
Jeff
What I would add is that if it is not addressed bullying manifests itself in so many other areas such as emotional bullying and of course in the corporate space. If the behaviour becomes ingrained it is so much harder to expunge. Hopefully awareness and qualification to identify signs early on can prevent bullying taking hold later in life.
Hugh
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Having experienced this in my own childhood, I always made it a point to watch carefully with my own children.
My brother and I as identical twins were bullied so much, yet our parents taught us to never take it personally.
In all we found many ,were envious of our close relationship with each other. We learned how to turn this around in a way that helped others realize what they were doing, and became friends the rest of our school days, and many who matured and became friends over the next 55 years.
Our careers benefited by what we learned through our empathy to others most of all.
Wow! You are a true inspiration to everyone!. I wish people can read this. I wish you more succesfull years ahead.
Greetings
Edith