Where did you come from ?
I have been thinking about how we all have come from some place different. You know, where we where born at and who was our father and mother. Does it make any different s now and how it may have effected us. I was talking to real good buddy of mined today who is 74 years old and is a millionaire with his assets---cash property and stuff. I found out for the first time his father never wanted to give him any credit, you did a good job son. He said," he could never please him no matter how good of a job he did". I knew he was for the most part, not real happy most the time, most of his life. Today after he finally open up, I realized he had the same feelings as I did have. I say, I did have, because I now know I can do anything and do a great jobs now. The ones that are born in a life of no money families and the ones that are born in all the money families can have the same type fathers and mothers. We can come from any where in the middle as well and have the same complexes . Not good enough and can not seem to succeed because we cant seem to shake off the raisin from our parents that seem to mold us to what we are when we enter the Adult world.
Where did I come from? I came from A small town in Mississippi and was born to two odd people who where About 26 years apart in age. My father was 50 when I was born and was a unlearned Irish man. His Father father came here from there. Not sure where my mother came from. I really never got to know them, I now know that . What they did was give me to a woman who turn out to be my half sister because we had the same biological father. You see my father had been married before three times and two times my biological mother. I was 16 months old when my sister took me in.
They where poor in education and in social living --just backwards in so many ways. This man had 17 children ---16 birth and one adopted. Now two of them where twins but where still born. So, 14 -2 -1 makes 17 that we know of.
When I was about 9 years old I learn that the person I had been calling my grand paw and the woman who I called grand mother, who I did not see much , was my biological parents. That all my ants and uncles where my sisters and brothers, that my cousins where my nieces and nephews and my mother /father was half sister/bother-in-law.
That all my people where uneducated. That even in many cases made fun of people who had education. My DNA father had birth defects and passed them on to all most all of us. I had 7 half sisters and one half adopted brother and 4 full blooded brothers and 2 full blooded sisters.
Some day I will write a blog about my DNA father and his defects from DNA that he passed on to us.His almost becoming the world feather weight champing of the world, in the USA. With a record of 149 fights --142 wins 96 knock outs.
I have learn from my life no matter where I come from, that if is to be it is up to me. Yes, It really did set me back and took many years to become an over-comer. Just think a man & woman gave me up --and woman & man took me in raised me and as it turned out was the best thing that ever happen to. They raised me as there own and due to losing there only child at birth by myself.
Looking back it was the best, because I would have probably end up dead or in prison with my DNA father causing me to fight him. I know now he would have killed me or me him, he was just mean much of the time and that is why he was a great fighter. Anyways, I came from a place and it was for the reasons of the one who decided it.
I was talking one day to an man from another country about this where did we come from in the earth life. I realized he was mad at me because I was born here in the USA. He did not like me because I was an Irish man as well. Then it hit me he was even mad at me due to these facts. So, I said "sir, as for as I know I did not have a choice where I was born and to whom I was born and what race I was born in, you will need to take it up with one responsible for all that.
That day I was set free of many things because I was mad about it as well. I did not like any of it and did not see the big benefits that he was saying it all gave me over him. All my life, up tile then had been a big pain for me. I am just now ready to live and have a family, go to school to learn, help other with real love and want to. This I know now, I have a great wife of 37 years and good children, G-GGs TOO! I still have my DNA defects, flaws and not always right about everything in life.
I do know this, I know where I am , who I am and what love I really to have for all people. I will not let where I came from have power over me and control over where I end up. I tell new folks this when we meet what I heard a high school friend say one time. If you want judge me on your bad and good past experiences I want judge you on my bad or good past experiences. We can inter face with each other on our experience with each other and let that decide what and who we are to each other.
So where did I come from? It does not matter any more and the sooner we get that the better off we will be.
I have Peace in my life and that makes me successful in my definition. I am successful not due to my things or what is in my mind or what other did to me or I to them, but what is in my spirit. In there I have peace now. It is not because of me that I have it, it is because I was set free that day and I know what is in me now that gives me my peace. Everyone must find it for there self. I hope and pray you who need peace get it.
It is 2:28 Pm here , so I will publish !
In some small way I hope some one receives help from this blog.
Please Tell us where you came from--your story below in my comments box it could help others.
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"If it is to be, it is up to me." These words really resonated with me, but this post as a whole contains a very important lesson. I just want to thank you for sharing this encouraging story. I read it in its entirety and there is beauty hiding just beneath the surface of the words. You are so strong. It is truly inspiring.
My life story lies somewhere in the context of Kelly Clarkson's "Because of You" or Carrie Underwoods's "Blown Away" and a host of others. I won't share it here...as it is triggering and I am still working to completely overcome as you have.
But I cannot thank you enough for the lesson. Its a reminder to be truly thankful for what we've been given--because all that we have is just the spark we need to go on and do great things.
Hi lo24X7and thanks for your kind words-----you made me LOL with this--( My life story lies somewhere in the context of Kelly Clarkson's "Because of You" or Carrie Underwoods's "Blown Away" and a host of others ) It may not be a LOL matter to you though ---so, I will say it is so true and many of us feel that way, as well.
Now, to overcoming, it is in letting the past be just that , and live in the now so that your tomorrows will be as you want them to be.
" I just say each day now okay you in the mirror will do what is right, I am the spirit of you --your mind and body --so, you will have a great day and learn how to do those things need to make my tomorrow great.--- you will be good to others and to yourself. ---You will not be the problem, but the solution. ---you will not let the pass control you on how to act or react to others. ---you will say no to the things that is wrong for you and yes to things right for you.
Now, you in the mirror have your instruction and will stay on track., you got, okay, come on--- lets go meet the great day ahead of us, O --by the way--I will see you in the morning to advise of what you will need for it.
Your Boss--the spirit over my mind and body !!!
PS< Hope this helps and thanks again for your kind words!!
You are stronger that you think ---so, start thinking for yourself that you are what you think and say about yourself.
croninweb
Thank you for sharing your story. Goes to show that your past and where you came from do not matter. What matters is what you do in the present.You can blame your past all you like but the only thing that will do is preventing you from living your life at the present.
I've had a normal life I guess with stable parents who have been married for over 25 years. Yes, our family have got typical family problems and arguments but at the end of the day I'm grateful that my parents have done their best to support me. I moved out of their house about 6 years ago in the hope of becoming independent and finding my own path. I had mixed results, in some ways I think I'm more accepting of myself, people and things in general. However, financially I was very unwise and accumulated quite a bit of unwise debts which forced me to eventually move back to my parents' house for the time being.
I considered this a failure for a long time and felt ashamed that I had to move back with them. Now, I've accepted the fact that yes I did screw up but I could no longer see why I should constantly beat myself up mentally for that. Right now my focus is to make a place for myself in this world, get myself and my family in a financially comfortable position then leave to pursue worthwhile endeavours in life such as living 12 months or more in foreign countries to learn their languages, cultures and dances :). I am learning to be more present day to day and not letting the past nor fear of what future may bring dictate my behaviour. I am here at WA to create the life that I envision and I thank everyone here as we are helping each other to reach our individual goals.
Hi fxhans21--- thanks for your reply and you said it and keep doing it. The only shame is not facing up to the bullies of life no matter what or who they are. I find what you did was what was needed --you admitted to being unwise and now are working on it.
many people will advise you all kinds of stuff and most of it is just stuff. They all seem to know what to do, until it is time to do it. They are tough until it is time to be tough---they are great at something until it is time to do that something.
My four step process to completing any task works for me--it is 1--Identify-2-evaluate-3- organize 4- expedite and those words keeps me on point. Make a plan with those words and you will be on time for you goals and will finish the task. If you need help with it just PM.
By you admitting, adjusting you now advance with the right way or your plan and do it no more that which you admitted to.
hope that helps
croninweb
Very impressive story!
I was born in Athens, Greece, 67 years ago. When I was in my late 20's I immigrated to US where I lived for about 30 years. Now I live in Canada. I was born and raised by my biological parents. But both my ex and current,wives were adopted. I have not contemplated the importance of this fact. If it is a coincidence or it happened for a reason. I never had children of my own because I did not want to have them but my second wife had 2 daughters which although I could not adopt, because they did not want it, still I feel for them like they are my own children.
I grew up in an impoverished from the WWII, country and were very poor until I was 16 years old. My dad had a regular job in the water company but because both my mom's and my dad's relatives were poorer than us my father was helping them with some money and in order to have enough money his had side business too. I started helping him with his side business around my school schedules when I was 7 years old and I continued until I was 19 years old. My father was one of my role models and I have adopted some of his virtues such as being a "giver" a hard worker and a self made businessman. Although we did not have money back then, still my parents would throw a little party every Saturday night and they would dance and laugh with relatives and friends with a few measly snacks and a lot of wine.
My life was full of problems and obstacles but I overcame all of them, Now I am starting this Internet marketing business because I have the intuition that this is a profitable business. I don't do it because of the money - I am retired - but I do it so I can have something new to do. I have to have goals until my last breath. I am perfectly healthy. Starting a business needs hard work and creativity and it poses a challenge. I have a lot of creativity, I am used to hard work, I have gained knowledge and experience on a multitude of issues and I have huge self esteem. But I like what I do to be fun. If I feel that it is not fun, I just don't do it. When my profession for which I studied became a burden because It was not fun anymore, I just left it and I demoted myself from a Merchant Marine 4th officer to a dishwasher of a NYC restaurant. That did not bother me at all because it was something I CHOSE, and because I like to be free to do anything I like with my life as long as it does not harm my fellow human and other beings.
When I arrived in NYC I happened to live in an Irish neighborhood. In Greece as it was the custom back then, If we saw someone we would salute them, say hi or good morning, even if we did not know them. That's what I did in NYC and I created neighborly friendships quickly. Because most of the neighbors were either of Irish descent or new Irish immigrants, I created friendships with Irish people because they were so much like the Greeks I grew with before I Immigrated to US. Irish people or at least the ones I befriended are extroverts, fun and joking loving individuals especially when they have a drink. That' how my other role model, my mum's brother was. He was a " drink and be merry" guy but he had a very good heart. So because of my NYC experience with Irish friends I have developed a fondness for the Irish people.
Therefore I am very happy for your acquaintance Ed :)
Eddie M --Well your story is a great one as well and thanks for liking the Irish people too. Hey, they called me Eddie when I was in my youth. LOL It was because of my name Edward.
I am impressed with your life, we all have one to tell , a story. I know the Greeks are tough people in that they work hard, at least one s I know. I want to reply more to you and will. I need to go cook the wife some food. Lets keep up and if I can help just PM me.
To my new friend--- Be merry and have a glass of wine for me, Liked the parties yall had every Saturday! Hey maybe we can have one sometime? LOL
Great story and you could actually write an amazing book about your life story. I cannot honestly say that I feel bad for YOU; although I do feel bad for what you had to GO through. With that being said, i believe in life before and after death, and that we are here to fulfill a path that we planned before we entered this life. This is in order to learn and advance our souls. I've heard it said many times, "The strongest souls are the ones who live the hardest lives." That helps in a lot of situations if you really believe it and think about it. Because if life were too easy, what would our goals be? What would we really be learning? I think everyone goes through horrid, painful times; as well as things that don't make sense, and seem way too harsh--for our spiritual advancement. If we just get our minds focused on the right things, then we can achieve anything. You are absolutely right about it not mattering where you are from. I can't relate to your story fully, but I can kind of understand. I found out at the age of 9 that my Dad wasn't my bio father. My real bio father, was my older brothers dad. (My mom had left him after getting pregnant w/ me). He refused me before I was born and my Dad adopted me. So never once have I regretted or wished that didn't happen. I believe everyone is put into our lives for a reason. Either for something good, or something bad. Those are our lessons. Although as a child growing up, it is, indeed, something you question and wonder about. It is also a very normal thing for a person to have some sort of issues from these types of situations--whether they dwell upon it or not. For instance, I never felt sad about my bio father, or dwelt on it. I did wonder why though. I'm currently 27, and just figured out a couple of years ago that I have abandonment issues, trust issues with men, and don't want to get attached. I thought long and hard about why I am that way, and I realized the connection. It all rooted back to me thinking subconsciously about my own bio father 'not wanting me'. That's when I was able to start working on my 'issues'. I am very sorry that you went through the hardships you went through. However, I am so happy to see you are helping others because of it!! There is nothing worse than a person dwelling on their past. What is the point? And if your dwelling on negativity--guess what? That's exactly what you will get back. Law of Attraction. SO....since you are sending out positivity, that is exactly what YOU will receive in return. Our minds are much more powerful than we can even begin to imagine! Sorry this is so long, but I get caught up in this stuff, and I loved your story. (Just an FYI, you may want to really think about writing a book, I was in awe hearing what you went through.) Thanks-- Amber :)
Thanks for the kind words and your right about not feeling sorry for me. My life is great now and as been for along time .
No I like the fact it is long and about your life as well. It is something you say that about writing a book because wife is doing that very thing and is half way done. It is about her life from her child hood to our children lives. It will be a historical Fiction. 90% true though.
You said ( I did wonder why though. I'm currently 27, and just figured out a couple of years ago that I have abandonment issues, trust issues with men, and don't want to get attached. I thought long and hard about why I am that way, and I realized the connection. It all rooted back to me thinking subconsciously about my own bio father 'not wanting me'. )
You nail it and is what nearly all have said to me when it happen to them.
I Glad your better!!!:-) Would like reply more but need to run right now maybe later--
Thanks so much for sharing your story!!! It is good to know and hear it from them. I know many people havr many issues but we never hear about it. Being online and not seeing in person is only half of it. This is one way to get to understand others here at WA. If any one is not ready to share right now --no foul no harm --is is fine!!
Croninweb
Hey croninweb, you're welcome. Well about my life, just a little here to say something to your question. Well I am the elder of my parents' children, I have two brothers and one sister. They are great and we get along very well. My dad is retired cop, now he enjoys walking and surfing internet. My mom do domestic tasks and cares children for a family. One of my brothers is nurse as well as my sister, and the other one is commercial man. So I come from, let's say, a middle class family.
From my dad I received Spanish culture, well language principally. But always I have been in Catalonia and here is my identity. Catalan people are a good combination of Mediterranean sensibility and Continental-european reason, so it's great. Sometimes I head that someone calls us as the Germans of the south, funny. We live in the richest area of South Europe, for that Spanish government doesn't want to permit a referendum for independence, but it is other question and it doesn't matter now. I grew up in Catalonia, Barcelona it's capital city, very good culture, good weather, good heritage, good business, good people. As well I visited parts of Spain, because of family. There are good people in both lands, politics is other matter. I speak and write in Catalan and in Spanish, I write things to publish and I am glad.
Well when I was teenager I was a lost boy, no goals, bad student, I was confused. Why? My parents? No, they had defects like other parents, but they tried to give me the best, they were patient and they loved me. It was my fault, bad decisions. Then I decided take better my life, I was working and I started to study at evenings, I finished high-school and then, never before I thought such thing, I went to university. Yes I got my degrees and stuff, but really I learned more by myself reading and investing my time better. Time is goal, use time well, to love your people, to love yourself, and to make happy people with your business!
Just a briefing :)
WOW I am glade to meet you here and thanks for being open with your life. I will see-ya on the inside here later. great information ---Thanks again!!!
Hi croninweb. Thanks for your writing, it's admirable, very nice, very sincere. I like this samples of people that shows themselves us real people of flesh and soul. It's very interesting your exposition. Permit me comment something, around some things that sometimes I thought concerning me. Yes it's a real fact that the familiar background wights a lot on a person, you said ADN, yes, it's the familiar baggage that we carry up, for good or for... let's say to improve our person. Sometimes I had kind of negative feelings about my lineage, about my Spanish roots, because I'm Catalan and I have both roots, and Catalan marks me more my identity (Catalonia is a nation different than Spanish). What thinking deeply then it's doesn't matter too much, about the origins, because the will of a man or woman is farther than a sequence of ADN, of course the family roots with pros and cons is important and define a lot, however it's not definitive, and psychological science and sociology proofs that. I am here starting my business online around writing, mind and stuff, as well I work as social worker. I see many times nasty familiar stories of people we attend, we attend children in social risk, with hard lives, fathers that hit them and serious matters, but then they can change this role of life, they are not condemned to repeat the same schemes of behavior as their parents, they can solve this "ADN", they can get rid of this bad behavior, with help, being involved by good thinks. I like this phrase of Socrates or Plato, I don't know now, but it is something like this (in my free translation Catalan --> English) "we are such things with which we are involved " So if we approach and we fill our mind with good things, we jump that "ADN", maybe it demands time and effort, but it's for sure. Thanks
I have a picture that I've had since I can remember displayed in my house. I never understood the meaning of it until I grew up. "We create our tomorrow, by what we dream today." (It doesn't say the author). So, I love your phrase at the end of your response, because that's what I try to teach others as well. I would love to keep up with you and your inspiration. Positivity feeds off positivity :)
After reading that I realized I had loving parents not that I didn't know this before but never really thought about it.
That may seem harsh but they are no longer around and there are many things I would have liked them to see and share with.
We can't change who we are or where we came from but then again would you really want to?
I have many friends all from different backgrounds and even though some I know had a really tough time they all said the same, "we wouldn't be where we are today without it".
Neil
Thanks BIGs It is so true----we can only make the lemon aid out of the lemons---we cant unscramble the eggs. I have known you on here for along time and remember when you was needing to stop for a while ---I remember that we that saw the post about and came together and help to keep it from happening and it did not. You have been a value here for along time and I know that it was and is still a value to have here as one of the WA family. I said that for this---Where ever you came from does not matter to others when you are helping them, all they know you are helping. I great respect for your rep. here at WA. It is all I know about you. I decided to open up now here to give other a change to know me. I want to know more about all here and hope the WAers will open up to. Thanks for reply If I can be of help let me know. I am loving me some WA today..
I have read your story and can feel for you, where you are coming from and how in the end we are all part of where we come from because it lives and dwells in us. The environment we were brought up in is truly part of us and our parents and peers thoughts and actions also have gone a long way to shape the way we feel and act too. Even though we are individuals who make our own choices.
There is also the genetics. Some of the things which we have inherited from our parents and the long line of our ancestors who have gone before us. Im sure this would be a long discussion on its own, maybe best left for another day.
One thing that interests me is how some information seems to be passed onto others automatically who may not even be in touch with each other.
Have you heard about the experiment where a monkey was taught a certain technique of how to peel a potatoe before eating it on an isolated island. A month later they discovered that the monkey had taught all the other monkeys the same way of peeling. What realy spooked them was finding that other monkeys on another island some distance away were also using the same method of peeling potatoes even though they had no means of having traveled to that island and back nor any means of communication, apparently. What do you make of this?
Thanks for your story and I have no thoughts on it yet but will think on it. Where did you come from? thanks for the following as well .
Mushikita, I love that. Isn't it also strange that since as far back that we know of; all civilizations, countries, communities, etc, in all different places--each established some sort of religion/spirituality (call it what you will) When you look into the beliefs of all different civilizations and cultures--although their 'beliefs' may be quite different, the stories are very similar. For example, there are numerous 'Noah's Ark' stories in different versions. There is also the symbolism of the snake. The snake symbol can be found all over the world, and from ancient times. Why were people who never met coming up with ideas and symbols extremely similar to one another? Why did they all believe in a Supreme being or Supreme beingS? I personally believe it is in our minds. Our minds are the most powerful thing on this realm. I believe in the Law of Attraction, among many other things. We think all day and night, whether we realize it or not. Our thoughts are a form of energy (as everything is energy). They are sent out into our universe (or this realm--as I like to think). It's like the affect someones negativity can have on another person without the negative person really even having to say a word. What ends up happening is--you unknowingly, start becoming negative as well. It's language of the mind. We all are a network of souls. We communicate so much more through energy than through words. That's what I think was the reason for the Monkey experiment. Just a thought.
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Thank you for sharing your story and I am so glad you have found peace in your life as there are many people out there who have not gone through half of what you did but they cannot forgive themselves.I never judge my fellow man or woman because I don't know what might have happened in their life to make them like they are today.Life is sometimes a harsh teacher but look what happens when coal is put under pressure....the result is a diamond! And that is what you are croninweb!
Thanks so much --That is very kind words ---I know you have a great spirit. Thanks for being you and helping others. --You are a diamond for sure. Hope all that you do will come back to you 100%. (:-)