Why Can Life Be So Cruel Sometimes
Why is it that the good people in the world get dealt the rubbish hand in life and all the bad people just seem to just pass through life without any problems?
You will be wondering what I am talking about but I will enlighten you in a minute. You may not agree with me on the question above but that is purely just my way of thinking about life at times.
So, back to the reason for my blog here. Just a week ago my dad was told that he has unoperable cancer. In October 2020, the doctors found cancer in his bladder plus a blockage in the pipe that links the kidney to the bladder. He did get an operation in November where they removed the cancer from the bladder but only had time to take biopsies from where the blockage was.
He was then informed by his own doctor that his kidney was only working at 11% and that they would probably remove the kidney. This he was ok with and had no problem at having only one kidney. However, at a follow up appointment for the previous surgery they said they were only going to bring him back in and remove the blockage.
He then had an appointment with his consultant who said they were going to remove the kidney plus the connecting pipe which had cancer growing in it. He had been advised the date for his operation was 23rd February. He got himself psyched up, only to find out on Monday the operation had been cancelled.
He was asked to go in to see the Doctor on the Friday. My mum and I went with him and got the devastating news that it was too dangerous to operate because the cancer was growing outside the pipe.
Basically, now it is just a waiting game and wondering how long we have left with him. It is very hard to not get upset when talking to him but he is such a positive person which helps.
My dad is an 82 year old who has had no real medical problems and has always kept himself active over the years. Always willing to give help to anyone who needs it and never complains about anything except his football.
dThis was a huge shock for us all but we will take it one day at a time and enjoy every minute of the time we have together with him.
We are at the end of another week everyone so have a great weekend and
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Hi Cheryl,
I am so sorry to hear about your dad. Sometimes life is very hard almost impossible to understand. This is the very reason we need to be grateful for the things we have and rejoice in the times we get to spend with our families and loved ones.
It is so important for you to try your best to remain strong.
My prayers for your dad, you and your family.
Blessings,
Michael
Thanks very much Michael. It is often hard to understand what life throws at us sometimes.
I have always been a person who loves to spend time with family and especially at Christmas.
I am doing my best to stay strong and I try not to dwell on it as the not knowing how long he has is the hardest part. My brother lives in Brisbane and he can't get an international flight till next year at the earliest. Not knowing if he will see our dad again is heartbreaking.
Thanks for your prayers.
🙏🙏 for you and your family, Cheryl! Each day of life is a gift, and this tragic news only makes each new day more precious. God will take your father when he is ready and not a minute before, so have faith! I still believe in miracles!
Jeff😉
Thanks very much Jeff and it would be a great miracle believe me.
It definitely does make every day we have to spend time with him all the more precious. I just want him to make it to July 2022 as it is my mum and dad's Diamond Wedding and as I said to Michael, my brother and his family live in Brisbane and can't get a flight until next year because of the coronavirus carry on..
Thanks for your kind words and prayers Jeff. xxx
Hi Cheryl, one of lifes complexities, a question which I am sure we all ponder on from time to time, especially when we are confronted.
Feeling for your dad, you and your family, it is hard to keep on top of things. Take care, your close out says it all. We all need to make the most of every moment, it is a gift.
It is a question I ask myself a lot Alex.
Thank you and it is hard to keep going but I can't let myself dwell on it as my dad is such a positive person about it all and he asked the Doctor how long he had left as he told him he still has his dishes to do. He doesn't like to see us sad and if he does we get told not to worry about him as he is not scared of dying. He is more thinking about us being left when he is not here.
I most certainly will spend as much time as I can with both my dad and my mum as my brother lives in Brisbane and can't get a flight back till next year.
Thanks for your kind words. xxx
Cheryl,
I feel your pain and frustration. I've been going through something similar with my sister-in-law who recently was diagnosed with end-stage renal disease (age 61). She's single, no kids and my husband is busy dealing with his own less serious health issues. So it's on me to sort things out for her cross-country. We're in CA. she's in NY and it's not safe to fly now.
Deep breaths and gratitude for all that's going well in our lives is how I'm coping.
Best wishes for your dad and your family.
xo
Erica
Thanks Erica and sorry to hear about your sister-in-law.
That must be so hard when you are so far away.
You are right though, we do need deep breaths and gratitude to cope with what is going on just now.
Sending you best wishes and hugs. xxx
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So sorry, Cheryl. I'm not sure any of us have an answer to that. All I can hope for is that at some point, we WILL have all the answers to our questions. Until then, we just have to do the best we can and enjoy the time we have.
~Debbi
Thanks Debbi and I agree that we will never probably get an answer. Hopefully one day though we will be able to get an answer to any questions we have.
Unfortunately at the moment with all this coronavirus carry on and lockdowns it is not quite as easy to meet up with my dad. I will make sure that I do see him at least once a week and I do speak to him a lot on the phone. xxx