Refulation or defulation?

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3 years ago

Refulation or defulation? 🤔

I met the other day an old friend and she asked me how was I doing. My answer was a rather vague one:"Well, you know, there are better days and there are worse days. All în all, I'm good, lucky to be safe and sound🙂"

My friend seemed to be pretty content with my answer,but on the other hand, she seemed to be eager to pour out all the details of her busy and strssful life as a daughter who never ceased to please her owns, as a mother and employee as well.🏃‍♀️

Being a good listener by nature (or at least that is what I usually tend to believe) I showed empathy and patience for all she had to say. At the end of all that, I felt like I was caring an invisible backpack with all my friend's worries and problems🙄

But there's a good in all bad and I was more than happy to see my friend laughing and joking after all that confession session and I thought:"All's well that ends well. Life îs not that bad when you let out whatever îs a set back especially negative thoughts"👌

I used to say that my favourite way of refulation îs writing because instead of harming myself or others I use writing as a creative way of dealing with whatever has a negative conotation în my life. 🤪

But I recently read an article where the autor said:"Hey, dude, do not mistake refulation for defulation. The first îs a synonym of supprimation and you refrain yourself from letting out feelings or thoughts or different impulses where as The latter îs The opposite, a synonym of letting out all the above"👩‍💻

I thought about that and I Still believe that writing is a way of refulation, at least partially because whatever might be negative on the inside îs somehow "recycled" though writing and something beautiful comes out în the end😍

An example of pure defulation îs what my friend did during our conversation: the fact that she verbalized, she actually put into the recipient of concepts all that seemed to be an unbearable burden on the inside. În fact, she was just dealing with a more difficult stage of her life🤦‍♀️

So what do you think: which is better - defulation or refulation? I'd love to hear your opinions(and some specific example, preferably☺️

P. S: Sorry for possible mistakes. I wrote this while preparing lunch🤗