Anger management
“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” ― Aristotle
Everybody encounter suffers anger again and again. Sometimes we can control it, sometimes it control us. How we monitor manage and control your emotion?
Anger is commonly experienced emotion.
Anywise, the power of anger is dangerous without any control. Many catastrophes include relationships, reputation, physical and psychological health.
This is 12 steps, How to control anger.
WHO is Mr.Anger and Mrs.Angery?
• They are unpleasant emotions in many degrees, from displeasure to rage." The common cause includes feelings of disappointment, error, unfair, hurt, harassment.
Vary anger range to many degrees from different reasons.
Up to you, your respective response to your emotion, handle situations and solve the problem.
Why can many people not control anger?
Because anger also blocks brain to find best solutions and choose bad choice, produce poor results.
Test: How well can you management of Anger
Many reference studies found that some joining between anger and emotion like depression and anxiety
There are 12 strategies for management and control anger.
1. Recognize That Temper
The first thing is to detect your anger and honestly accept a problem. This recognition will allow to plan and make a solution.
2. Recognize the problem
Ask yourself what cause anger what is the problem?
Develop a plan to drain properly.
3. Use Your Support Network
Your close friends, family and your love can support and motivate you if you let them know about the resolution of your temper. You can reduce stress when you tell and release the story to people who care you. This also helps you control your anger.
4. Arrest the Anger
• Body control by taking a deep breath
• Stop your mind.Then Count to 20 before you respond. This is the way to break the anger cycle
• Positive thinking and image to stop negative thoughts
• Go out and find a quiet place to separate yourself from trigger
• Do something like hobby for enjoying yourself such as play a song, watch movies or video, make daydream about anything you like When calm down, you will see the positive side to respond without anger.
5. Use Empathy
View from another site, suppose if you were that man. You will more understand them.
Everyone makes mistakes, and they learn how to improve.
6. What is funny in Your Anger
Try to find the humor in your anger. Laugh at yourself and relax with everything. For example, when you're angry because your wife talking something annoying you and not true blame on you. You just think that the teacher “Wife” teaching you how to manage on the temper and be calm to yourself. Think that she may have abnormal hormone level that makes her emotion swing. The level of sugar and fat are rising make her brain vessel occlude and result from non-function brain make her though miss from the true and anger from misunderstanding.
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Would you mind if I use this idea? I went to classes for four years on this. Doesn't sound nearly close to the way I learned it and everyone calls me a pro. I stuck with it until I was able to run the classes myself, and they let me. Lol. Still have each lesson in sheet covers. Is that as asshole move????
DO the best you can, It is best for you.
If you happy to do, It alway ok.
You can control your mind, you will win all situation in life.
The life is not hard, but control your mind can practice.
I've always been obsessed with taking advantage of bettering myself mentally, emotionally, and physically. I sometimes get called to fill-in for a substance abuse counseling session if the therapist cannot make it. This was a great idea, as I'm a pro at keeping myself mentally wellrounded, as well as helping those who have severe mental disabilities. I've overcome my mental disabilities and they call me "Our #1 Success story" hehe. Thank you so much!
Best way to calm down in a heated situation, take a deep breath thru the nose - keep in for 20/30/40 seconds - breath out slowly through mouth and tell yourself to relax, repeat a couple of times until you feel relaxed and calm.
You must train yourself up until you start to do it automatically. What happen when you get angry / upset or whatsoever, your brain had only the small space of your skull to set out - further then the skull the brain can't go - so any of these things can happen in a instant - heart attack, stroke and thrombosis, or you kill someone to get relief of this anger feeling.
The moment when you hit the brain with a good doses of oxygen, the brain start to relax and you start to feel calmer, you can function better. When you started to calm down just take a step back and look again to the situation, most of the time you will laugh for yourself - because there were no reason at all to get that upset, you handle the situation better and walk out of it as a winner!
REMEMBER!
Take a deep BREATH!
And stay a WINNER!
When you know what is happening to you with a sharp mind or "mindfulness". The brain can not mix all factor to ANGRY.
Sometimes anger is not as negative as people think. It injects some extra power in the body and mind to want to correct the mistake. If this power is misused then anger becomes dangerous. Thanks for sharing.
Emotions are a normal human response. Anger is an emotion, and we, as human beings, are going to Normally have this emotion as well. Anger can be good. #1: It lets you know that something is wrong. #2: You know something need to be fixed. #3; The ABC therapy module. A: Actions B: Belief: C: Consiquence. (Which brings us to The mindfulness technique.)
A: Something happens. B; Your THOUGHTs about it C: How you deal with it.
Now, Changing your thoughts on something from "Never, Always, This is the worst thing EVER" is more difficult than people think.
I simply do not believe 6-12 hours of anger management teaches anyone anything but how to make "get through it because court made them", or "probation". But some people want to fix this.
And it doesn't take 12 weeks, practice, know your anger scale, and don't ever let it get passed 5, after 5, your anger is too easily. Coping Skills, Coping Skills, Coping skills. You're NEVER alone. ONE thing you NEVER do though, Go to a "friend" who makes you feel like you're right... who eggs the anger on. They will escilate your anger to a 9 or even a ten, then, it's out of your control, anyone elses, and you've done something horrible. We need to know our good coping skills and our bad ones and always KNOW your anger cues!
Anger cues can be phsyical: Hot red face, shaking, heart racing, pacing, slinching your fists. , Cognitive, you can't stop thinking about it, it wont stop going over and over in your head.
These are cues your anger scale is getting over 5 and you NEED to be mindful enough to be AWARE before it gets any higher. Know yourself. Physical, Emotional, and Verbal abuse of any form is NEVER acceptable. EVER. Cussing, that is verbal and emtional abuse. Hitting something to "take your anger out"? What if that "something" isn't there next time, it could be you child, your wife, your boss. Anger management teaches us how to think before we speak, before we act. It teaches us how to communicate Assertively, Resecting your needs and boundaries, and listening, respecting the other persons needs and boundaries, and coming to a conclusion that works best for the both of you. Can help you out in your relationship issues... can help you out professionally. It's a powerful manual. I love your comment
Anger is natural, normal, and IS ACCEPTABLE. The way you manage it is the difference between needing help, and being aware of youself enough to know when to walk away, make sure it's completely gone, come back, and use your healthy comminication skills (I States, Respecting and listening to BOTH sides calmly, NEVER using the word YOU before a sentence, as that makes the other defensive and then you're down the same cycle)
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I like your philosophy!
Thank you for your attention.