Let's change the way we comment on each other's posts!

One of the features I like the most is SiteComment. For a simple reason, As a beginner, I have a problem to get visitors to my website let alone to get comments.

What I see as the problem is that everybody is just making sure that comment is long enough and on the subject and usually full of praises to the author, so no rejection happens.

I admit I do it similarly because at the beginning I wrote a comment asking questions and disagreeing with an author. My comment was rejected hence now my comments are not really what comments are supposed to be. Same applies to comments which I get from fellow WAs. To be honest, many comments appear as fake, and they will not help our case at all.

I agree that everybody has right to control who and how comments on their websites.
Problem is someone complained about being banned from commenting because of too many comments rejection.

I strongly believe that it would be in my and everybody's else advantage if comments which we make on each other's site get more engaging, asking questions and disagreeing.
In that case, we would get the opportunity to extend our post by replying to questions and disagreements.

Maybe, there should be, apart from options approve and reject an additional option meaning:
"I don't like it, and I don't want it on my site, but I don't want this member to be banned from commenting !"

This way, we would get a chance to get some real discussions on our websites which would be very beneficial for us.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject,

Regards,

Alex