Liar Liar Pants on Fire!
This is going to be a short post. I have some other matters to attend to in my personal life so I don’t have time to elaborate on the subject as much I’d like.
Anyway. How do you do deal with pathological liars at home and in the workplace?
My brother-in-law is a pathological liar and he’ll blatantly lie to everyone about subjects no one even questioned him on. What’s unfortunate is that my nephew, his son, has adopted this behavior.
A while back my nephew told me he was interested in joining the Air Force, I let him know I’d set him up with a recruiter but he has lied so much about various things it put me on edge. I understand normal teenage lying, but his is severe, enough for us to put him in therapy.
Anyway, I don’t tend to sugar coat things and I let him know that I’m not sure if he would be a good fit for the Air Force. The first thing we learn is our core values which are “Intergrity First, Service before Self and “Excellence in all we do!”
Integrity First
It may seem small now, but he could put someone’s life in danger by giving false information, especially in military matters.
Any advice on how you dealt with pathological liars?
- Ibrahim
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Well... I think through advising and reminding, the young ones will be able to change for the better. However, of the person is already much more mature, getting them to change is very challenging. This is just from my personal experience...
Hi, in the work place i generally confront the individual that lied to understand why the behavior took place. I ask that they do not repeat, if they do i just move on because these types of people can not be trusted and are toxic and not productive. Good post.
One problem I find with people like this is that they believe their lies are true. If you confront them they will tell all the lies under the sun to prove their innocence.
It does seem to be an ever-growing problem and personally I have not found a reasonable way to deal with it other than confrontation.
Derek
Yes, it makes me think of that “Seinfeld” episode with the lie detector. George says “It’s not a lie, if you believe it.”
It's a challenge. One of my hypnosis clients wants help with lying, so I'll study the issue. It's not one I dealth with before. Good Luck!
I knew a guy like this. I subtly pointed out some of the lies by adding truths and making him contradict himself. After a while his lying decreased. He was a work colleague. Regards mike
I have met two in my life, the first one I just moved on from but the second one I called her on it. She started to change, so maybe it worked.
Like you I pointed out how much she would hurt herself doing this and that people noticed and didn't comment but would not want to be around her. She seemed to get it. She was really shocked to know that people noticed and didn't trust her because of her lying.
This is something you can help with, it's his whole life you are talking about.
Perhaps ask him how he would feel if you lied to him knowing it would go bad for him but just didn't care?
Hope this helps. It's a tricky situation.
Lily 🤔
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Unfortunately, when people spend their lives lying about anything and everything, it is very difficult to change them. I think it has become a habit in his life. Lying must reassure him in a way, they are often people who have no confidence in themselves and who think that no one can appreciate them if they show themselves as they really are. When lying becomes a second nature, it often becomes an uncontrollable impulse in the lives of these people. I wish you a lot of courage because if he does not want to admit his problem, no one can help him.
Ingrid