Asking for Help is Not Always Easy
When we ask for help, one of the first things that occurs is our resistance that we even need any help. Its not always easy to ask for help.
I don't need any help, I'll figure it out!
Or some version of...etc.
As solo entrepreneurs we try to do EVERYTHING, and its not only not feasible, it's a Herculean task to take on by ourselves.
Sometimes, we wait too long before asking because our ego tricks us into thinking we can do it all, yet, logically, we need to recognize when we DO need help, no matter what it is, all we need to do is ask for help.
Help is All around you here, at WA.
Reach out and ask someone you see may have the answer for you and ask them.
Or submit a question and reach out to the forum. Somebody will either know and tell you, or point you in the right direction for the solution.
There will always be someone who knows more or has more experience than you, and the reverse is also true.
You can help others as well as asking for yourself.
Do not be afraid to ask for help, it is not a sign of weakness, asking for help is a sign of Strength.
So, be strong, ask for help to get you over whatever hurdle you are facing.
Rudy
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Great post Rudy and so true, asking for help is all too often a last resort!
I've found when I have asked for help or advice it has always been forthcoming and useful.
The fear is of asking a "stupid" question or appearing lazy.
Sometimes we just have to get over ourselves and admit that we don't know.
Rick
For sure, Rick.
We dont want to appear like we don't know what we're doing, even if that means rhat we keep fooling themselves.
Rudy
Very true...I find as I get older I'm beginning to relax those barriers a bit because the sad truth is that we can't always do the things we used to do with no effort. Asking for help certainly gives us practice in WA, because as you say, there are lots of people here who know more than we, and who are willing to reach out a hand.
Think of it this way -- you are actually helping others by allowing them to help you, because it adds to their own accomplishment. We are told we draw good things to ourselves in this arena by giving help to others...so give someone a chance to improve their own situation. Also, what better way to learn something completely than by helping others to learn it as well.
So true, Fran.
We learn something even when we share our own knowledge.
Or, we get an a-ha moment to finally see what we were missing, all by being 'of service' to someone else.
It does get more difficult to manage everything ourselves, and learning how to reach out and ask for help lightens the load. Plus, we learn how to delegate when we let someone else carry that portion.. a win-win!
Rudy
I believe this is the way our society has conditioned us… to be “independent” and “individualistic.” Years ago we live as communities or even tribes where helping each other is necessary part of life and comes naturally. In fact, the leader role is to help everyone. Today, we have evolved… hopefully to be less selfish and help each other. I will say a good next step is “Inter-Dependence”
You're right, and its a shame that don't share our knowledge and skills the way we used to.
We have become overly competitive as well, instead of melding, we isolate.
Thanks for your comment!
Rudy
Thank you Rudy, I've always struggled asking for help. This was probably just what I needed to hear :-)
Asking for help signifies Humility! It depicts admirable character! It is not in any way a sign of weakness.
Inspiring post Rudy!
Cheers,
Maria🌹
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This is so true!!
My daughter tells me often that if I would just ask for some help, someone would assist.
I am definitely the hard-headed gal who waits till the last minute and everything is in shambles, or I end up carrying something that is way too heavy, etc...
And you nailed it, it is all about pride! My pride may kill me one day lol.
Stacie
Here's how I see it, now that you know, your awareness brings you one step closer to changing the old behavior.
Rudy