Speak Your Voice

byTipnyl

119 followers

10 years ago

I'm here to say hi to you all and I'd like to share my reasons as to why I joined WA.

I've had some revelations just recently which has changed my life quite substantially. One of the reasons as to why I named this post "Speak Your Voice".

I've realised it is so important to Speak Your Voice. What I mean by this is to be authentic to yourself and be the person you want to be. You can Speak Your Voice but in such a way as by meeting your needs without offending the other person. Another thing I learnt but I think always knew deep down inside is about being aware of oneself and for other people.

I haven't really known who 'me' was, up until only a few months ago. Hard to really explain how this feels but it has taken many hours, days, weeks and months along with lots of time on the clock to work on finding me. I've had to question why I've made some of the decisions I have made and why I haven't been able to make decisions properly, why I say yes when I really mean no and then sometimes resent saying yes. Trying to fit in when it doesn't really matter and just doing things to make others happy while putting aside what I really want. The uncanny thing is I have never really known what it is to say and do exactly at times what I want for fear of upsetting others and for not feeling accepted.

Everything began to pileup on me because although I really love helping people, and I am an extrmely empathetic person I had to stop and ask myself "Who am I exactly?" All this going on had me stop and almost fall in a heap - in which case I did - because I just wasn't coping with life and I was tired really of not being noticed for me but being over stepped and over seen sometimes. But then again if I wasn't being meor speaking my voice, how could anyone else have known who I was.

Anyway so as to not make this post too drab it has been a very exciting revelation because once I figgered this out and learnt to lay down boundaries by saying yes and no and by taking me into consideration a little more, I've slowly become and still becoming me.

So coming to WA is a big effort for me because although I am fairly independent I am not use to asking people for help. I'm not the best at learning new things and I tend to give up when things get too hard - in whichcase I don't want to do that here.. It takes me a while to grasp things but I am going to give it a good shot.

I want more than anything to be a better example for my two sons. I think I've done a good job as mum to them but to become financially independent so I can give them a bit more - really - I could ask for nothing more than to at least do this.

So I believe this might be the intital stages of my first wesbite. Helping others to see their validity and that we all have a voice.

I love the community here on WA and I look forward to this new venture and I hope I might be able to give back to you also when I have a bit more knowledge on my side.