Generosity Compromise and Damage Control

byThomas128

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7 years ago

Generosity, compromise, damage control. Three phases I've gone through that I've broken down.

Generosity

Generosity is great when its not taken advantage of. Being generous is part of human nature, of course. But so is the non recognition of it. Or, on the other hand, being over gratuitous for one's generosity. Fine lines are among us in every corner of the world. Being mindful is nice to. But are the others? When you just opened the door for someone. Then you're waiting in line to get on the bus and somebody cuts right in front of you. Fair? No. But that's ok. They just don't realize where they are. I have been generous a good portion of my life but not so much on a monetary level, sometimes yes, but mostly in doing things for people spontaneously, making things, going out of my way, the extra effort, day to day events that are considered to be the "norm" in the activities of daily life.

In this way I have realized that I fall into the over gratuitous part of the equation. This stems from certain actions in formative years that end up taking its toll through the emotional limbic system. The limbic system is where the "essence" flows in the mind, mainly, and throughout the body by various channels. And then can and more than likely will play out in physical health declination. Many fall victim to this operation and can find themselves in dire straights in their adult years. And sadly enough without even knowing the root cause. Over compensating occurs when the "guilt trip" is introduced. Saying you're sorry for something that is in no need for being sorry for, and such, Tthe system is fighting for survival by means of appeasing the occasion in fear of the battle scars being opened again.

Compromise

Compromise merges with the over gratuitous by means of turning into lending out property items. Such as lending tools out, musical instruments, cars. Items that you work hard for, and take care of. There seems to be a "magnet" to how this all transpires. The domino affect. So being generous from the heart, loaning "friends" you're personal, hard work paid for stuff, ends up not coming back. Then, when you confront the situation, it is turned against you and suddenly it's you're fault for being "nice". Or something is said like, "oh its no big deal, don't worry about it". As time goes on, you're working harder and harder to buy the things you've lost back, while trying to prevent these things from happening, and still wanting to be, generous. And, actually, STILL being generous. Some may think this is the "survival of the fittest". That's ridiculous. We are conscious beings and the one's who pull this stuff don't stop to think about how would they like it if it were done to them. So compromise ends up being letting go in a way that is non progressive and continues to downslide.

Damage Control

Now I've come to the place of "no more". Damage control. Saying no, actually verbalizing it works, but it still isn't enough for some people. Sometimes it takes the silent treatment, even after arguments. Saying no to even owning things anymore may have to be implemented, for a short time hopefully, in order to make a bold statement. Saying, "if you just want things from me, and you don't want to bring them back, I will no longer own anything. Then all I have is myself to offer, and it appears to me you don't want that". And that is just the materialistic side of it. It is hard to repair the damaged limbic system. So damage control is necessary in order to proceed with fixing the system, to recognize that it's not "you", to say "no more". Be in solitude however long it takes to have this be recognized and are able to get to a point that you can uphold the maintenance.

In conclusion, this brings me to where I'm at with Wealthy Affiliates. At Wealthy Affiliates, we can operate in this manner of solitude. Not everyone is in this boat I know. I'm stating that Wealthy Affiliate is a non-discriminating company, that provides the opportunity for anybody to utilize the awesome system, tools, instructions and services they have developed. I have gone through the phases I stated above and thankfully with doing a lot of self-help work on my own, for a good many years, saying no to the manipulations, I found WA and am extremely happy and thankful that I have.