Good Days, Bad Days
Introduction
Good Evening to all you wonderful people at the Great WA Family, as always do so hope that you are all keeping both safe and well.
The title says it all, some days I have been fine in mourning the loss of my wife, other days I have hurt like I have never known that it was possible to hurt.
The Last Few Days
As you ca imagine I have had a lot to do since my last blog. Hope that I do not repeat myself too often , with the result that I bore you all too sleep.
My daughter and I have submited some sixty plus photographs for the order of service, we have seen the proof and apart from a couple of snaps it really is lovely, thay have made a fantastic job of showing different aspects of Yvonne's life.
Today I got my daughtrer to print out the reading that I have to do, for those who know their Bible it is a reading from the Gospel according to St.John, Chapter One, various verses.
Not too difficult, it is November since I last read from the Bible at a service, but hope that all those years that I did so will stand me in good stead.
Some days I feel reasonbly all right, getting on with what needs doing, even done a little gardening, other days it has been far too cold too venture outside. Also I have felt far too tired, just cannot shake this feeling of tiredness all the time.
I have managed to sort out the dining room where Yvonne was as they have taken the bed and all the other bits and pieces that they provided, making the dining room into a hospital ward. Must confess that it has helped as i was expexting to see Yvonne in bed every time that I went in there.
It is still very hard not having her here anymore, suppose after fifty five years it is going to take more tha a couple of weeks to realise that she is not coming back. It is helping that she has not been here since early November, but not a great deal.
I have had some wonderful sympathy cards, in some cases from people who have surprised me with their messages, very kind and thoughtful.
A few weeks ago I had an invitation to the Chair of the Council Annul Dinner, it is something that I have not be able to attend for a longtime, a Councillor who I have known for many years, when he heard of Yvonne's passing said that I should attend as it would do me good. Thought long and hard and have decided to go, not sure if I am doing the right thing or not, an always can leave early if I get upset. It is not until the end of March, as it is formal, black tie etc, it is the sort of function that I did used to enjoy attending.
It has been a while since I last wore my dinner jacket, just hope that it still fits!!
Did make the effort to look at some work, but do not have the heart or energy ate the moment, no doubt I wll get there eventually.
The Next Few Days
This will be concentrating on preparing my self for the funeral on Wednesday at 1300. I just hope that I can be stong for the family and they for me.
It is no use pretending what I hope to achieve, because the answer is not got a clue.
On that note:
Be happy, healthy and wealthy.
Please do stay,
God Bless
Stuart
Recent Comments
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Hi Stuart
losing a loved one is so very hard for us that are left behind. i lost my firsy born son and still mourn him after almost 40 years. I am not sure if it becomes easier, but I have accepted what happened and do not let that define my life.
There is so much love and joy in this world that we must just keep moving forward and help others even when we feel like giving up.
Your trials and tribulations have somehow brought back memories, and that is not a bad thing.
I can see you have a great group of people who are trying to help and i would fully embrace that.
I hope you don't mind my candid thoughts.
Steve
Steve,
Love your candid words, we must always speak as we feel, we lost a daughter when my son was born, that was fifty-five years ago.
We have to learn to help an comfort each other,
Stuart
Hi Stuart
I am so sorry to hear of Yvonne's passing please accept my sincere condolences. I am just (today) becoming active again at WA and on my website/online business after a long hiatus. I haven't posted or been on WA since November 2021. I recently retired from my day job so I now have more time for website etc.
My thoughts are with you and your family and especially for the funeral on Wednesday.
With sincere best wishes
Andy
Hi Andy,
A very warm welcome back to the WA Family, hope that in your "Retirement" you will flourish on your site.
Many thanks for your kind comments.
Kind regards
Stuart
Hi VH
You will have good days and bad days for a long time. I have friends that are STILL grieving after many years yet some started dating after a year or two.
Both are ok. Everyone is different.
I'm sure you'll do fine with your reading. Just remember to breathe. If you can't make it through, well, that's ok and understandable too. Don't be hard on yourself. This is a lot to deal with after being together so many years. I can't even IMAGINE.
I think it's a GREAT idea that you go to the dinner as well. Again, I'm sure you will fit into your dinner jacket and will look amazing!
Will be thinking of you Wed.
Always
Your VW
Hi VW,
As always many thanks for this, do appreciate that it will take time, if, in fact ever to get over Yvonne's passing. But time can be a great healer, one thing is certain she will never be forgotten.
I practice my reading several times a day, old habits never die away!! Will not quite be from memory on Wednesday, but will not be far off. As for breathing have my usual chest infection, co have to be careful, my daughter wants me to have a good haircut, which I refused to do, in case it makes matters worse, a trim, OK.
Not sure that I will look amazing in my dinner jacket, but we will see. One thing I bought my first one in 1967, this, is only my second one which I bought in 2011, not bad eh!
Have a wonderful week dear lady, take great care.
God Bles.
As always,
YourVH
God gave us all strength today, it was a truly wonderful service, the children did their Mum proud. The flowers were superb, the grandsons and their partners sent a heart-shaped tribute, he kids and inlaws sent MUM, very moving, mine is now on our last dogs grave.
Take care,
Always,
Stuartr
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Stuart, I do admire how you are handling everything with so much strength, even on the hardest days.
Grief comes in waves, and it makes sense that some moments feel heavier than others. The order of service sounds beautiful, and I do think attending the dinner might be a good way to honor both the past and the present.
If the jacket doesn’t fit, well, that’s just life’s way of keeping us on our toes! Thinking of you as you prepare for the days ahead.
Kind regards,
Boris
Boris,
So very many thanks for this , it is a great help as I having one of my moments, but keep going.
Best wishes
Stuart