If at First You Don't Succeed.

byNadany

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9 months ago

I wish I could blame my stagnation on the aftermath of last year's trials but that would not be completely accurate. On retrospect, the effects of what I am living is likely more the effect of poor planning, lack of discipline, commitment and a few personal truths I prefer to keep private, for now at least while I work through them.

I have tried to regulate the above for years on my own and often found myself patting myself on the back, saying you'll get it right next time....Next time my a*%! Without a willingness to own your flaws or weakness or areas you need to work on, you are likely to keep making the same mistakes. This can eventually lead to your dream simply fading away.

As many do with the coming of a new year, I spent some time reflecting on what I wanted to manifest in 2025 and what good I learnt or gained in 2024 that I wanted to carry forward into 2025. The process let me to some hard but revealing truths.

1. I am really great at planning but suck at executing and completing things
2. I am great at doing things under pressure or because it is a family necessity but have bee horrible at doing it for the simply joy of living or wanting to fulfill my dreams.
3. I am a pro at letting myself of the hook with a go-to answer such as "Sometimes bad things just happen"....or "Well if I wasn't so busy, I would have gotten it done." or, and this is a really good one, I often hear, "Maybe it was just not meant for me." or "Maybe God doesn't want me to have it"

Since I believe in Spirit and believe in the Law of Attraction...It finally became clear when I was ready and willing to face my reality, The only thing stopping me was me. I had to put effort into changing my "truth" so I could create a different reality. I had to own the fact that accepting excuses, true or not was not yielding what I wanted. They were ways I used to allow myself an out from claiming responsibility and taken charge of my life.

So with owning that realization, and definitely not wanting the life I wanted to experience to pass me by, I made the decision to take the bull by the horn and I put a few things in place to get me on track and remain consistent.

1. I balance out my time with research and planning with "doing". I create a schedule for week, Sunday to Friday, where I break time chunks of my time so I can visually process how my day is going to go. I try to keep it a little broad so I don't get loss in the details and fall back into over planning. I say instead, for example from 9am-5pm-work, 5-7-relxa, prep dinner, 7-9research, work on my business etc. Saturday is my do whatever you are inspired to do today, type of day. :-). I love that day and it does wonders for recuperation. Now, my focus is not on planning but doing my best to respecting the time frames.
2. Schedule as much as possible into my calendar with alerts with a few days lead into where possible. Also took a look at why I handle things in such a stressful manor and recognized there are just dome things I abhor doing. As such I procrastinate. A fast approaching deadline or negative consequence then makes is possible for me to get it done....or I could just automate some things, or do a little at a time over wider time span, making it less daunting...hmm there's a thought.
3. And lastly, accountability. I reached out to a mentor and asked if they could be an accountability coach for me. Every week we meet to review the previous weeks plan regarding my business evolutions and review what was achieved on the target list and what wasn't. He encourages me with the elements I did succeed and review the causes and potential solutions for the parts I haven't. This is very helpful in keeping me moving forward. Sometimes I take baby steps and at other times leaps and bounds, however I think the most import part in all this is that I have never given up, and constantly strive to make my dreams and goals my reality.

Please note, there are many aspects of my life I love and enjoy, so it is not all bad. I just also want to experience all those good stuff in the house of my dreams, the trips to foreign lands as seen in my dream, being help people because I am and feel abundant. I want every time I take in my "NOW" I see the truth as in my dreams, as my current life.

So lets see where these new approaches will lead me...I will keep you posted.

Nadany