Getting Back on the Horse

byNadany

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2 years ago

I am not even sure where to start...Over a year ago I signed up with Wealthy Affiliate and then life happened and knocked me off my horse...or rather blew me off my horse with category 5 winds. Arms and legs flaying, I flew through the air and eventually landed on the ground...HARD.

I laid there for a bit, winded, confused and at a lost as to what to do next, the realization gradually kicked in that I had fallen down, yet again. My body hurt worse than ever; say hello to rheumatoid arthritis. My heart ached; say hello to separation and impending divorce. My mind was lost, say hello to bankruptcy and depression. I felt as if I had lost everything and that I had nothing left to give.

Although my past and my mindset had gotten me to this place, I had learnt enough about spirituality, life and Source energy to know the same could get me out. So, I started with that. I tend to ruminate a lot, as such it wasn't as important to dwell on the fact that I fell but rather to figure out where I wanted to be instead.

I think our bodies instinctively know how to heal if we don't get in its way, so I tried simply observing myself, being real with where I was at. I faced my good points, my weak points, the pretty and ugly aspects of my character and did a lot of soul-searching. I know I am a good person, but as a dear friend told me, "Even good people do bad things sometimes."

It is very easy to point fingers at people and put the blame for our failures on others but that takes the power to change our lives out of our hands. It leaves us subject to other people's whims and tends to leave us worse off. I realized I did quite a few bad things from a place of good intentions. I gave so many people power over me because I needed their validation or approval. Past trauma left me insecure and scared to step out on my own. I would stand up for others but struggle to do the same for myself.

Solution: Get to know myself. Honor my strengths by using them, surround myself with like-minded and positive minded people. I needed to understand myself better and work on identifying my weaknesses and figure out how I can convert those areas to strengths. I also realized that to get to where I wanted to be required I accept that I am enough.

I also came to realize that I could be rather pushy when I believed in something. Almost self-righteous in my approach which could put people on the defensive at times.

Solution: My role is not to force my will on anyone but rather simply plant a seed. Leave the choice of whether that seed takes root up to the person and God/Source energy. I came to understand that 1. People tend to only hear answers to questions they are asking and 2. (There are two parts to this one. It stems from the saying about the fish. Give a man a fish, he eats for the day. Teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime.) 2a. I don't have to give someone a fish if it is not mutually beneficial or they will not appreciate it and 2b. When I say mutually beneficial, I do not mean from a monetary perspective but rather from a place of feeling good simply by doing a good deed. Teaching a man to fish is always beneficial but only if the person is willing to learn. Some people aren't ready for the lesson. Your time is better served just by planting the seed in those instances and waiting for their learning curve to catch up.

I learned a lot during my year away so I will keep it to 3 lessons for this blog entry. The last lesson I will share with you today is this. It's OK to make mistakes. The mistakes are not the problem, the real issue in my opinion, is learning how to move past the crappy feelings that tend to accompany a failure or mistake.

Solution: Recognize when a failure or mistake helps identify a problem or glitch in the process that needs to be adjusted so it can work smoothly. Adopt the attitude that as long as you keep trying, keep moving, keep growing, keep evolving...you will inevitably reach your desired destination. Mistakes give you an opportunity to tweak your process on your road to success. Embrace them.

As indicated by the quote below by Thomas Edison:

“Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
― Thomas A. Edison

I am so excited and looking forward to co-creating with the Wealthy Affiliate community again. Learn what you need to learn from each "seeming" failure. Keep rising and getting back in the saddle, and only settle for the results that makes you happy (once it does not impede someone else's right to their own happiness) and make your failures count towards your success. I intend to do the same.

Love & light being sent your way.

Nadany