Reflection 1 After10 Years At Wealthy Affiliate - The Pressure

byLodgerWithin

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5 days ago

Hi everyone

After years of being here at WA, I have a few reflections I would like to share. This is in the hope that some may be going through the same and my talk about how I went round stuff may be of some help.

The pressure we put ourselves through at the beginning

Back in 2015 when I started at WA, I had a lot of buzz and excitement, I still do. It was a fresh start, a chance to build something from the ground up. But amid all this enthusiasm, a sneaky pressure tagged along, the pressure to perform, to have the correct niche, to 'do it right.'

That pressure didn’t come from the platform or the training. It came from inside my head, comparing timelines, worrying about wasted effort, wanting reassurance. It was self-imposed pressure.

it revolved around comparing my timelines to others. I saw peers moving at what seemed like the speed of light, achieving one milestone after another. And there was me, at my snail pace, which felt painstakingly slow by comparison. This created doubt, am I doing enough? Am I wasting time and effort? Seeking reassurance almost became second nature in this frame of mind. The brilliant thing is that the Wealthy Affiliate community tirelessly gives this reassurance. Asking questions is encouraged - a big plus!

There's a psychological game here. The fear of putting all our effort into something that might not pan out amplifies the stress. "Am I missing a trick?" or "Am I smart enough to crack this?" echoes in our heads. It's paralyzing and can often lead us to second-guess or overanalyse each step we take.

The Noticing

I experimented with just noticing that pressure, not correcting it and things tended to settle on their own.

Recognizing this pressure is half the battle. Start by noticing when these thoughts creep in without immediately jumping to fix them. It sounds counterintuitive, but acknowledging their presence without judgment helps. You'd be surprised how this simple act can shift the perspective from pressure to productive calm.

I remember bumbling through my initial online ventures with the same doubts swirling around in my mind. Yet, it was when I started paying attention to these internal nudges without rushing to cure them that I found clarity. Things seemed to slow down, in a good way, allowing clear thought to take the driver's seat.

I now know that it's not about fighting to win the battle and losing the war. I've come to rely on a few steps when facing these moments. First, breathe. Literally and metaphorically, it works wonders. Focus on your unique path and align your tasks with long-term goals rather than getting lost in short-term expectations. Remember, there's no universal blueprint for online success.

Ultimately, understanding this personal pressure and not letting it derail your progress fosters resilience. It keeps your creative journey focused on learning and growing at a natural pace without the internalized race against an invisible clock.

Pressure distorts clarity.

Distorted clarity weakens your work.

I was running away from the 9 to 5 rat race yet creating my own in my mind! Lol. I will give my next reflection next week.

May you achieve all that you came to WA for and much, much more!

Stay curious and keep showing up for YOU.

Cheers

:Midsummer.