Grumpy is back
Hi WA peeps
I haven't managed to get online for a week. And I'm missing you all.
However was feeling guilty about not paying it forward...so I logged on and tried to help as many people as I could in 20 mins available.
Someone had asked a question. He hadn't had an answer in 3 days so I thought I'd help out. Especially because I knew the answer and could send him specific training on the subject (not done by me...but another fabulous WA member)
I thought I was helping this guy...but should have read his initial question ...as it was RUDE. Basically said don't reply unless you know the answer and don't answer unless you're specific. I actually saw his rudeness as a cry for help ...and I know that feeling...being so desperate for help that sometime you do and say things not normally in your nature.
So I replied. Told him exactly what to do to solve the issue and sent him some WA training which showed him step by step how to do exactly what he wanted.
Today I got a reply. It was even ruder. Basically he asked me why I bothered to respond as I hadn't answered his question and he still didn't know what to do. He said I was not specific and he asked for specific.
I admit to responding bluntly....I asked him if he had even bothered to view the training I sent to him *he hadn't otherwise he'd have solved his problem*
So....I was hugely annoyed. I helped this guy. I spent time resolving his issue I sent him very very specific training. I could have spent the 20 mins I had helping others and answering other questions. But I helped him.
HOWEVER
this is learning to me
Life we know is a mystery
We connect with others
Some connections are positive
Others are not
BEEN THERE DONE THAT
Why did I get upset. Should have ignored.
SO MY LOVELIES...
My message is....we will meet all types. We will offer our love and friendship and guidance and support ....and sometimes it won't be wanted.
So don't stress (like I did)...just move on to the other 99% of WA members who are brilliant and give more than they receive. Occasionally you'll come across life's energy vampires...those that suck and demand your time and blame you when they fail. Just remember Every time you help or support the majority of decent folk they will appreciate it And pay it forward
Just remember if you get knocked KNOW that it's not your issue. It's the knocker who has a problem. Do not let anyone impact on your esteem. You are brilliant and successful and the assistance you give others is awesome in everyway.
Now go succeed and wave at your vampires on the way past....
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Hope that don't deter you from helping up. I am needing your help any moments. By the way have you try the Nasi Lemak. Pls go with Satay. Regards Sadie.
Always here to help you my friend...if ever needed. P.s. I am getting fatter by the day. Nasi lemak every breakfast and love the satay. I'm now having dinner - Roti chanai and ayam Kari x
Yes I seen this rudeness first hand the other day...I was going to reply but I seen how rude they were with the other member trying to help them I didnt even respond..Hey we all here to help one another no need to get rude with people..
I like to vaporize 'em with my light...:vampires don't like that very much :-) So happy to see your name in my inbox my friend. Hope you're having fun in your new life and that all is going supremely well. :-)
Lol. Much light being sent his way. Hearing the shrieks now. Lol. So glad to hear from you to my friend. Life is good...great in fact...everyday is positive and fulfilling and thats a welcome change. Thinking of you x
Smiling seems to be part of my DNA these days. I'm supremely grateful for that. So nice to be in this place. You know my scars and story more than most. To think less than 1 year ago I was....well. ..I was a bum that bums thought a bum. With the grace of the universe, the help of some incredible people *u being way up there* who made me see another side of humanity and the warrior in my pocket I managed to close the darkness and hope again. With hope came some light. With light came a little more self respect and with that a little self belief. And with self belief I allowed myself to cry to sob to break. And when I broke I broke ...the me of 4 years ago...he died and hit rock bottom in every sense of the word...and you and others saw through my crap and told me you understood and believed and valued me. Do I sound truly emotionally crippled? Anyway I am just forever thankful to have closed a chapter and forgiven myself. No longer do I feel I deserve to be viewed as scum. No longer do I feel the need to punish myself for failing. No longer do I do anything and everything to block pain and make me immune to the world. No longer do I go to sleep praying to someone to release me and not let me wake. Today I struggle with feeling worthy today I miss my love. Today I regret my past choices. But today I wake happy. I sleep wanting to wake to the world. And I accept that tomorrow will bring what it brings. It won't always be great. But I know I will survive. So after a long winded reply I just want to say thanks. To you and all others of my WA family you saw me through the darkness and made me believe in me again. And none of you probably truly know what you really did for me. If not for you I would not be here or drawing breath.
Our paths were meant to cross my friend....and I am so glad they did! It's never one-sided.....when I look into the mirror that you hold up, I can see in myself the places that I still fear to tread and you remind me of the incredible joy and freedom that awaits beyond those fears. I've struggled my entire adult life with the confidence to successfully work for myself by expressing who I am in the world. Because of this I've believed I've had to be a slave for others doing work that dims my light and at times almost puts it out. So, while you have stood up, dusted yourself off, picked up the bat, and basically hit the ball right outta the park, I'm still just holding the bat and afraid to swing it when it comes to my own fears in this area. It's just the deep seated fears I have around security, which is hilarious because on the level of where I mostly live I know that security is just an illusion. If I wasn't a Mom, I think I wouldn't be so afraid. It always comes down to the fear of not being able to provide for my daughter, and that's where I become paralyzed. I may be able to tap into others at a level beneath the surface and see what's going on, but it never works on myself! That's why we need others and their mirrors to look into, and so I thank you so much for that, Jason. You are a living, breathing, hugely inspiring example of what can happen when we simply 'let go' and allow life to show us who we were always destined to become. Big, warm hug my friend. You rock. xo
Hi Jason, that was well said (written) I probably wouldn't have been so diplomatic ...but that's me, my mouth has got me into more trouble than I care to mention !! All I can say is Bigger Fool Him. Hope you've settled in ok, and enjoying it there. Take care.
Regards Fawlty.
Thanks my friend. All is great here. Let's hope his journey here at WA lets him see the value on offer to him everyday
With such an attitude I am not surprised that nobody replied to his question in the first place ... I know I wouldn't even take the time to do so.
I have never been confronted by such negativity and rudeness here and I can say it's more of the opposite but yeah, I guess some people will never learn ;)
Moving on is the best thing we do in those situations.
We do what we can to help, but not everyone is kind enough to admit that. It's very sad, but we all learn with this.
I'll never stop helping if I see people that need it. Regardless of their response.
That's Why you will succeed
Never give up on folk
There are some who need you...even if they do t know it now
J
I agree Jason some people want it done for them and we are not helping as they need to learn for themselves, it could be he was not specific in his question, ksara as I say , shame someone feels the need to be that way.. oxygen thief's as I call them .. I was brought up with the principles manners are free so use them often it brings positive results... have a good week
Absolutely. Manners cost nothing and are a good way to pay forward. Oxygen thief is great
Agree entirely
J
This is the first 'negative' I've seen on here, so all in all I feel this site is full of brilliantly positive, helpful people. That's my experience so far anyway. I guess in the whole scheme of things there's bound to be one or maybe two, but as you quite rightly point out it's their problem not yours/ours. Thanks for sharing.
Maggi
WA is full of amazingly positive people who are brilliant. Don't let my blog Change your opinion. 1 in thousands is ok ratio. Lol
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Hi Jason,
Please remember: 'Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.'
Keep on helping. I know people will appreciate it.
Shally.
If you are ever in Johor bahru (JB), drop by Singapore. You can take a bus or drive through there. I don't like Singapore weather (lived there for about 4 years), but the food is so good! A real melting pot of culinary delights and delicacies. A mix of Malay, Indian and Chinese, with western food that is tastier than what I ate in Australia. Just an idea for you.
Shally.