Feeling Words - Why You Feel as You Do!

Can You Learn Something Useful About the Feelings You Have?

Yes, you can learn to understand why you feel like you do! You can learn how to control and change your negative feelings of anxiety, anger, and depression. Unfortunately, it is only in the emtional area that man has made few advances. We as humans are still emotionally imature as we were centuries ago.

So, how successful has your emotional education advanced? Ask yourself the following questions. Affirmative replies may mean that you could benefit from some more training in this area.

1. Are you concerned about the love and approval of others? Do you feel depressed and anxious when you feel like others do not like you? Do you spend time trying to please everyone else? When you do, do you have little time left to get what you want out of life? Do you feel unloveable when no one seems to love you?
2. Are you obsessed with doing well at everything you do? Do you get upset when you fail at something you wanted to accomplish? Do you avoid activities that might be fun becasue you feel that others would laugh at you if you did poorly? Do you feel worthless when you are not successful?
3. Do you feel angry with others when they do things to you that you feel are bad? Do you get upset when someone who commits a crime that does not get punished? Do you criticize and verbally or physically attack others who do or say things that you feel are mean or stupid?
   
4. Do you feel guilty, depressed, or sinful about some things you have done in the past? Do you still have feelings about things that happened to you as a child?
5. Do you worry about dying from having an accident or something else that might occur in the future? Do you have bouts of worrying that are so severe that you get sick? Are you afraid of dogs, snakes, insects, other people, test taking, airplane flights, or speaking in front of a group of people?
6. Do you feel helpless and at the mercy of other people, frustrated and powerless to do what you really want to do?
7. Are you unable to do your work or get any enjoyment out of life? Do you put more effort into avoiding a task you don't really like to do than actually doing the job itself? Do you put things off as long as possible?
8. Do you feel incapabe of making your own decisions frequently ask others for advice, and dependent on someone or something else to take care of you?
9. Do you worry about other people's problems, get upset when someone close to you has something bad happen to them, or outraged at the injustices in our society?

Feeling Words = Change Those Feelings by Changing What We Think

I propose that the emotional and behavioral problems such as these may be the result of irrational thinking and that we can change these feelings by just changing the way we think.

I am betting that you are able to control most of your activities. You have a choice whether you want to go out and take a walk, go to school, go to the store, or stay home due to your emotional state. You can plan ahead to take trips that you want. But, you may have problems with things like smokong, drinking, or overeating, but you can control most of what you do.

You are also able to control your thoughts most of the time. Even though you may think about your recent adventures, you can refocus and change your thoughts so that you can focus on what you need to at the moment it is needed.

Your Feelings Seem to Have a Life of Their Own!

I think we can all agree that your feelings sometimes have a life of their own. You may want to feel calm when you talk to someone who you don't like but you feel angry with them any way. It probably feels like you can't keep yourself from being afraid by just deciding to do so. It may seem that your feelings are instinctive responses to people or events over which you have little or no control.

It may seem that your psychological pain is caused in the same way as your physical pain. That is, you may believe that you have no more choice about feeling anger to consequences when someone calls you a name than you do about feeling pain when being poked with a pin.

How About Not Experiencing the Emotions at All!

If this is all true, that is, when someone called you a name it could really make you angry, then it would seem you only have two choices: to experience the anger and express it by reacting to what the other person said or did to you, or two, to experience the anger and supress it by pretending that it did not bother you or that you even enjoyed what was said about or to you.

If there were really only two choices then it is clear that expressing anger would be better than supressing it. Keeping all that inside ourselves is not healthy for our long term phychological health.

But, here is the good news! We have a third choice. Why experience the emotion at all? Why feel it in its intense form? Someone can create pain for you but you don't need to feel anger! In order to understand how this is possible we will have to look further at emotions and why you feel as you do.

If you would like to know more about this topic, please leave a comment below that you would like me to continue with this discussion. I think this topic directly relates to how you can be suuccessful here in Wealthy Affiliate.

You must overcome your emotions and self-talk to break through and be successful in your endeavors for a thriving online business.

Be Blessed and Press on . . .