Negative patterns of communication - A Family Affair

byErickaP

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Updated 9 years ago

Something happen last week that really made me want to blow my top. I said something someone did not like, then they said something I did not want to hear. And on and on it went from there. You get the picture. Do you have constant negative patterns of communications flowing your way? Well, last week the light bulb finally came in my brain.

Everyone makes Mistakes

I understand why it took me so long to realize that “attacking” someone verbally is wrong. Then there is the “silent treatment” passive aggressive thing and the “touchy” defensive individually you cannot say anything to. I really wish I could say that this is something I leave at the office but, no. This is my family.

Yes, my family would not win the academy award for the most dysfunctional family ever but, there is much room for improvement. We all make mistakes in what we say to others. How do you deal with it?

The Big Goal

I never want to purposely treat someone unkind or disrespectfully. I believe most people on earth are good and breakdowns in communication come from misunderstandings. So last week when I wanted to let the other person “have it”. Something made me stop and say, “Wait a minute, it was not my intention to upset you."

But, here is the next problem. When you say something or have an attitude that is unknowingly offensive to someone, what can you do if they don’t want to talk about it?

I believe you can talk through anything, “clear the air”, and be at peace with everyone. What do you do when you want to heal a broken relationship and the other person only wants to win?

As for me, I'm continuing to say and be the successful person I deserve to be and help others along the way. Fortunately, I finally realize Abraham Lincoln had it right when he said “People are just as happy as they make up their mind to be.”

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