The awesome fun in feedback
Giving feedback is so fun!
Since a little girl I always wanted to hunt around other peoples houses - where did THAT door lead, and what was in THIS cupboard, and what books are on the shelf, and what does THIS key do.. a house is a tapestry of stories waiting to be discovered.
Since giving feedback on the feedback platform, Ive realised a website is literally your shop, but not in some detached chainstore way - its PERSONAL. Its like the old fashioned bay windowed high street store with perhaps a couple additional rooms out the back and the owners flat upstairs. Everything about it is unique, quirky, telling a story about the shop keepers passions, inspirations and customers, from the bell that sounds as you walk in to the feel of the wooden floor to the way the shopkeeper smiles or nods or grunts.
I got to nose around in other peoples shops, with paint still drying and obvious heart ache over what to put where. Other shops were looking rather polished with several customers already browsing and exchanging banter. Some were like a well greased wheeler dealer type affair, and others were bursting with so much enthusiasm and information it was like walking through one of those book shops with not only the shelves overflowing, but piles and piles of books on the floor, the window sills.. All to be lovingly catalogued and put straight.
I came away with;
*a LOAD of ideas
*More confidence in realising we are ALL building from scratch
*Faith in how unique we all are so I can be too
*This really is personal. You are selling yourself.
And then it was time to receive feedback..I left it a day, did one more hour of editing, put it off for a bit longer. A recent post 'published beats perfection' was ringing in my ears, and translating in my mind as 'feedback beats no growing!'. So I tucked away my ego and pressed 'yes'. Then I hid for a day. I got the little red dot of 'you have feedback'. But the weather wasn't right for reading my first feedback just then. Later on, I couldn't read feedback in case I then didn't want to eat my lunch. I couldn't read feedback JUST before work, it might put the whole day in a bad mood.. not sure what my mind was imagining; a Darth Vadar like character lurking at the feedback desk?
For sure as hell, there is no worse critic than the one in my head, whom I live with every day, so what on earth was I afraid of?
I finally just read the damn feedback. It even started with something like, 'If IM really honest..' oh GOD. Breathe. Its OK. I will survive this. I NEED it. I NEED to get over receiving adjustments and criticism if I am going to survive online.
..and the 'feedbacker' went on to say loads of encouraging things, and even apologised for not knowing anything about my niche, but she got drawn in anyway. That I will take, thank you very much. In fact, I was a little disappointed there WEREN'T any adjustments! Besides needing visuals.
I received feedback, no one died, Im looking forward to more as my website grows, and ALSO I am looking forward to taking a stroll down the 'high street' where my community are busy building, (building a better world?!) creating and sharing lots of cool stuff in many weird and wonderful ways! I'll be taking notes people, and hope I can return the support!
Have a fun creating day all x
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I've been working in the OR for almost 20 years, I know all to well what criticism is and how it makes you feel. When you first start out you brand new, and you don't know where anything is. Your what is referred to as the "fresh meat" You will be initiated in. First you must deal with your OR Circulating nurse who may or may not help you. Then you will ask a random question that is common knowledge but you don't know that and you will get the look of " did she really just ask that dumb question? Oh let me tell you, it's really awesome on your first day. Lastly you have to deal with your surgeon. Lord forbids if he is a yeller with no patience. You will be yelled at even if it's not your fault. It really doesn't matter it's still your fault. On this day the scissors won't cut, you won't have the right sutures and you won't have all the supplies on your table that you need. I have been well tested in my field. I've worked with some really tough surgeons but I've learned a lot and also learned not to wear my feelings on my shoulders. I'm tough and I don't give up easily. So please wealthy affiliate family please send any advice as well as constructive criticism my way. I can take it!!!
Thanks.