Who are we to blame our parents for their mistakes?

byDenissezl

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10 years ago

Who are we to blame our parents for their mistakes?

I remember I was 16 when I started resenting my dad for all of the mental and physical suffering that he put my mother through my whole life. I used this as an excuse to be a rebel during my teenager times and I used to act always in a defensive position towards most men. I didn't realize I was exactly like him until I got married to a stable and loving man who only wanted the best for us. At that time, I didn't have much to offer since I was living in the victim mindset and I had no capacity to love him unconditionally and add value in his life to help him become the best man for us.

Thankfully, after my divorce I chose the path of personal development and invested my time in reading books, visiting bible studies and surrounding myself with wise souls that helped me understand myself, my dad, and my life's purpose.

The bottom line is that I started to grow up! And take responsibility for my life. I learned that I was not a victim of anyone and that my parents were only doing what they knew how to do. They did the best they could for their level of culture and knowledge. I learned to forgive and be compassionate towards them. I realized they are on a journey too; trying to learn to love and figure out themselves and others doing the best that they knew. I understood that I was no longer a kid and that I had to take ownership of my life. I had to choose between settling with what I learned from them or to get out of my comfort zone and recreate myself. I was inspired to learn all of the wisdom that they couldn't teach me to better myself. In the last 5 years I have evolved incredibly and I can see and understand life beyond what I ever thought possible.

I wanted to share this story because I see people that still can't see how much growing they need to do and still need to be accountable for their lives.

We are not victims of anyone. Everything that happens to you is an opportunity to have a loving experience. You and only you are in charge of expanding your capacity to be compassionate and to love unconditionally. I realized that it all started with recognizing, understanding, forgiving and loving myself first.

In light & Spirit,

Your friend Jipse Soul😉