My nerves are jumping: asking for support is making me sweat

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It's done. I just emailed to everybody in my contact list: family, friends and acquaintances. Asking them to support me and helping me to improve my website and my rankings. It's made me all jumpy and nervous. And I'm laughing at myself for being such a strange woman.

There's nothing more logical to me than to help others when they call on me. Off course, I'll do what I can, don't worry about it, consider it done. Everybody needs something or somebody at some point in their lives. No judgment here. It's the most normal thing.

Freeze

But that's when others need help. Things are so different when the tables are turned. What is it about asking for help that always makes me freeze? Why is it so much easier for me to interact with strangers all over the world than to lean on people close to me? How am I ever going to build a solid business if I can't ask for help?

The WA community has been helping me a lot. Not just by answering my questions. But also -without you even knowing- by making me ask questions. Building a website, affiliate marketing and starting a business is so very new and challenging that I cannot not ask for help. And so I'm learning. I'm learning to use the resources, support and help others have to offer. I'm learning to actually ask for it.

What do you do?

Of course my friends and family are responding kindly and supportive. My email's been sent less than 2 hours ago and already they come through. I'm glad I found the courage to ask. I'm exhausted though, haha. And it will probably take me more time to get used to asking. But I know I need to get used to it.

I'm sure there must be more people like me in WA. How do you handle it? What do you do to make yourself ask for help, even if you find it hard to do?

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Hi Bianca
When I was studying Dale Carnegie back in 2000 he said: " What is the worst thing that can happen?" The book is Called- How to Stop worrying and start living and well worth the read. :)
I use this when faced with what seems a daunting task and you know what, It never is as bad as our minds trick us into believing
Go for it all and ask and you will receive
Enjoy
Vicki

So true, Vicki. It's what I keep telling myself too :-) After all, how are people supposed to know what you need if you don't tell or ask them, right? It's easy enough. In theory.

Funny thing is, I'm not a worrying kind of person. I believe in myself and I have confidence that things will always work out in the end. But. There's the but --> That doesn't make it any easier for me to ask for help.

It's not worry. It's not pride. What on earth is it? Hahaha, crazy me. Maybe it's my desire to be independent, to be free? I know myself through and through and that's the only puzzle I've never been able to answer :-)

That book sounds really interesting though. I love the positive mindset. Thanks for the tip and I'll make sure to read it. Can never have too much positivity.

Have a great day!

Bianca

Hi Bianca - there is always another great way to look at asking.

How much will we learn and how quickly will we learn if we ask?

Yes, independence is awesome- I too love to find my own way however often when we ask, we get all kind of gold nuggets with the answers we receive and these can and will take us to greater heights.

Be you and be awesome
Vicki

That's a lovely way of looking at it! It's very true we can learn more and faster if we dare to ask.

And I wouldn't want to take away the possibility for others to feel good about helping me, now would I?! ;-)

Shine on, Vicki!

People love to help, especially when they have the knowledge we lack so go for it and empower everywhere we go

Vicki

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