CREATING CHANGE - Be Blissful about it - Live Chatting
1.0 DO NOT SHOOT ME DOWN IN FLAMES
I am talking about creating change and how to be blissful about it. Stick with me and see where it leads.
HERE TO HELP EACH OTHER - FLAMES NOT NECESSARY
There is no fuel being added to any fires but there has been some uneasiness on the Wealthy Affiliate Platform, namely Live Chat sessions in the past, nothing to dwell on and it is perfectly normal - if not prepared that is. There is no need to share specifics because this is quite a general post and I do not know them and no need to discuss personal experiences.
This is simply a personal observation of my own and a step towards improving our level of enjoyment whilst we learn, correspond and communicate on the Wealthy Affiliate Platform.
No situation is often ever perfect and my purpose for sharing my thoughts is to empower us with new ways of thinking and perhaps look at situations differently at times.
I am Never Preaching only the sharer of words and nothing is Gospel but I do hope you enjoy my writing efforts!
THE PAST IS IN THE PAST - "Let it be" - Nicely done by the Beatles!
What is important to appreciate, is that "THE PAST IS IN THE PAST" and it is important not to lose yourself within it or your experiences. Anyone that has read some things I have written, I purposefully make a point of saying that it is seldom useful to live in the past, unless there is something useful that you can retrieve from it.
More importantly in my view is to REFOCUS and learn from past events or dare I say "MISTAKES". In my book it's called "FORGIVING YOURSELF."
Did I always heed my own advice, of course not, AND DO I, I am still learning but certainly in the last five years, I have become more relaxed with life and wise enough to realize that stressful situations do not help us. Presently, I am involved with stress - in a later post I will tell you how the situation was managed - hopefully with a peaceful mind.
- NOT ANGRY LIKE PUSSYCAT!
Those that know me, appreciate that I am just an ordinary person that has experienced a series of life experiences - like many of us do - and in the last five years, I noticed things that made me unhappy and how I mismanaged stressful events - not a teacher in any way, I just say words that resonate with me.
EXPOSING MY MIND TO NEW EXPERIENCES - We have the world at our finger tips!
2.0 PREPARING YOURSELF - LIVE CHAT (But not only) - BE THERE IN YOUR TOTALNESS
PREPARE YOURSELF - WHY
The Live Chat is just an example and helpful to the message I want to convey and what I say below can be helpful for us in our approach to all manner of situations. There are endless situations that we find ourselves which could quite easily develop into something bigger if mismanaged by our negativity.
"DO NOT LOOSE YOURSELF IN YOUR ROLE" and one of our sole purposes of being in existence is to grow ourselves. Within the Wealthy Affiliate platform and throughout training, Kyle has purposefully taught us that we are in the business of helping others, we are all real people. As we help others, we are growing.
3.0 GENTLE RULES FOR ALL OF US - None of us are immune - Well may be some!
Some awareness is necessary before you enter a Live Chat, a business Live Chat, such as Wealthy Affiliate I am referring to the following:
3.1 THERE'S TWO ANGLES WHEN YOU ENTER
When you go into the Wealthy Affiliate Live Chat Room, you enter from one of two perspectives which is either:
1. To obtain some answers to unresolved personal issue's and being mindful that anyone individual may not have all the answers at their disposal. This requires some understanding and acceptance.
2. To offer some suggestions to help resolve some issues that others can not resolve by themselves. Being mindful that you may not have all the answers to the questions that are being asked of you. This requires some understanding and acceptance.
WE HAVE GOT TO BE MINDFUL - Which also means being REASONABLE
3.2 BEING RELAXED - It is important to enter the Live Chat, being totally relaxed, you shouldn't enter the situation with a serious mind, take time to just be at peace with yourself before you enter.
However, do not limit this practice to one situation like live chat - if you sit with a friend, the same rules apply, so be at peace as well. Practice being at peace and notice yourself being relaxed.
"BE RELAXED AND BE PREPARED TO LISTEN"
We are building on the foundations that Wealthy Affiliate Training is providing us, we are learning and we are gaining confidence.
3.3 BE THERE TOTALLY - In anything that you do, it is important that you are doing it for the joy of doing it. If you are in an insupportable situation upon entering a Chat Room and you are not happy, you are probably not going to benefit from the experience as much as you could.
You may wish to consider your options, which will usually one of the following:
1. Take yourself out of the situation - if you are feeling out of sorts and you do not feel in a state as I describe above, at peace or a positive state of mind, it's unlikely that anyone will benefit fully - either questioner or answerer.
2. Change the situation - we always have a choice on how we react to negative events, so we need to know of this. It is all about our own happiness.
3. Accept it - If we are entering a Live Chat and interacting with others and exchanging information, enjoy it! Give information, receive information but importantly accept the experience and take something positive from the experience. Giving it your fullest attention.
This is just taking responsibility for your life and enjoying the experience and also having respect for each other.
3.4 IF A SITUATION BECOMES COMPLICATED IN LIVE CHAT
No need to worry, things happen but worry has no useful purpose in our lives, so bear this in mind as well.
The important thing to remember is that we are in the business of building genuine relationships. Practice focusing your attention on the other person, you simply want to create a solution for the problem being discussed.
LOVE YOURSELF MORE - Why Not Indeed.
Do we do it enough? To some of us the statement "Love Yourself More", may even sound a little weird - there was a time when it would have done to me. Take time in loving yourself, love will never leave you and you will never lose it!
We are part of a community that is part of a process in building relationships and therefore we need to be open and focus our attention on the other person, there is nothing we want from that person. We want to simply be supportive and aware of how we feel ourselves.
4.0 NO DWELLING ON THE SITUATION ALLOWED - Victims of circumstances
WHOOPS, WRONG KIND OF DWELLING!
We are not Victims of circumstances, although it can often feel like it at times. We can go along complaining and temporarily this may seem like the right thing to do but essentially complaining is a non-acceptance of the situation and potentially turns into another negative situation.
Many people are rushing around and overthinking everything, they want too much and are often seeking too much of the World. The Wealthy Affiliate Platform is not the World, it is an enjoyable place to be. Respect others and be available to offer assistance.
"DO NOT FORGET ABOUT THE JOY OF BEING HERE"
THE LOOK OF JOY
The Wealthy Affilitae Platform for me has been a very uplifting experience over the last 3 months, it has been a place which has taken me above negativity, judgments, guilt or anxiety which are generally about my thoughts of some future event.
BE AT ONE - Find some JOY in what you do!
Whether you are assisting others or there to resolve your own personal problems, each party and all members have a function and a role to carry out. If you can be in the following emotional states before entering any form of interaction:
1. BE AT PEACE - Life isn't as serious as we think it should be
2. BE AWARE - Just be aware of yourself and how you feel
3. BE WHO YOU ARE - Do not pretend to be anything other than who you are
AND
"YOU WILL NOT BE WRONG"
"BE KIND TO YOUSELF BY BEING KIND TO OTHERS"
4.0 CHANGE AND WHY YOU ARE CREATING IT AT WEALTHY AFFILIATE
I have written something recently along the same lines of what I say now and it's another useful message, so worth another brief mention.
4.1 CHANGE - I see that we are all creating change in our everyday activities at Wealthy Affiliate. Wealthy Affiliate is providing a platform, not simply for members to CREATE BUSINESS and MAKE MONEY ONLINE - We are part of this wonderful opportunity to:
"CHANGE THE STRUCTURE OF OUR MINDS"
AND REMEMBER!
"NO CHANGE SIMPLY MEANS, we will just create the same thing that we have done before!
TAKE TIME TO VISUALISE WHAT YOU WANT - BE PEACEFUL
"Truth is within you, do not search for it elsewhere" - Osho
Recent Comments
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It is a great post, the only time I go to live chat is to ask a question and that is it. But I think I got what you are saying. You had to pick some great images too.
Mary
Thank you Mary for taking time out your day for reading, very much appreciated. I think the point is whatever you do, do it because you want to and you get something positive out of it!
Wayne
Great post! The Golden Rule-treat others how you want to be treated goes a long way.
Thanks,
Marcus
Perfectly said I think! You could have shortened my post by 1500 words! Lol
Thanks Marcus, again!
Wayne
Thank you very much for taking the time to read, I’ve not done to much myself but I will delve in at some point!
Have a great day there!
Wayne
Thank you for this awesome post, Wayne.
There are a lot of goodies in there to take away. There are things you said we need to ponder deeply and have a self-check from time to time to make sure we are not overboard.
Great one.
:)
Joe
Hi Joe
I really appreciate your comments and you are right we sometimes just need to sit back and take stock of things. Just reinforce we are doing everything for the right reasons!
Thanks
Wayne
Thanks for post, Wayne. As an executive leadership coach, I have lived by this mantra: “Fix yourself first, from within”. When that is done, very few situations are insurmountable. Understanding (the Weberian kind) prevails to ease interactions and relationships in whatever situations.
Lovely post.
Mojalefa.
Thanks Mojalefa
A wonderful response back, I really appreciate it. I like your Mantra, it's something I have become more conscious about!
Have a fantastic day there!
Wayne
Thank you so much for this really thoughtful post - we can all take something important from it and learn to grow from it :)
And it is so true that you cannot truly love other people unless you first learn to love yourself.
Thanks again
Chrissie :)
Thank you Chrissie, I really appreciate your comments.
It is all about ourselves, our own happiness and growth!
Wayne
Yet another great post, my bard! Where DO you get them all??Seriously, though (now that's a rarity for me!) I do agree with you. It has taken me most of a lifetime to get to a place where I'm not "trying to push the river" as Ram Dass said in his book, "Be Here Now", which I read about 20 years ago when I was just starting to realize that I control my thoughts and my destiny.
I really liked this post. I could feel that you were in a peaceful state of mind as you were writing it. Well done!
Hello Carol
I'm still a bit flu'y, so it wasn't the easiest to focus on. I think I am just recalling some things I have been reading over the last 5 years. This was inspired by another member over the weekend.
I am still being pushed to the limit by stressful situations, it kind of helps me I think by writing these things - it's all selfishness you understand me me me ! Lol Trying to maintain some equilibrium.
My favorites are some that I mention above but I didn't go looking for any of them which is spooky, I had time to read and absorb some of the stuff. I read a few quotes of Ram Dass.
It's home time here 19:30 approaching.
Talk soon, thanks for reading Carol, I appreciate it!
Wayne
Thanks, Wayne. Even though your focus was "me, me, me" as you say, controlling our own thoughts and vibes and staying in a positive space not only helps ourselves, but the positive energy we put out helps others as well. So it helps ourselves first, but also has a positive effect on those around us.
Positivity, as well as negativity, is contageous. I think it behooves us all to work on maintaining the positive and avoiding the negative as much as we can.
I have not been on live chat personally, because I am not comfortable with the platform. But I have heard from trusted sources that sometimes there is "trouble in paradise",
and, in my humble opinion, has no place in a community such as ours.
That's why I really thought your post hit the nail on the head and was appreciated by many of us who feel the same way.
Thanks again for an awesome post.
Carol
We are on the same wave length I think Carol!
All you say makes sense to me or resonates as they say these days!
Thank you for reading and all your supportive support and more support. It's what it's all about!
"BE KIND TO YOURSELF BY BEING KIND TO OTHERS"
I notice many spelling errors that did not get picked up! A more thorough review on my part.
Wayne
I agree, Wayne. We are on the same wave length. You are welcome, and thanks for your support as well. Heading to bed now. NIghty nite. Carol
You're very kind Tania! Didn't I just respond to you or was that a stalker! Lol
I read a few books in the last couple of years, so just seeing and comparing them to my life and situations.
Thanks for talking the time to read.
Wayne
It is a topic I am interested in. Dr Caroline Leaf - I think it's her quote, " You may not be able to change the circumstance but you can control your attitude" I am rambling off - the quote goes something like that!
Not rambling at all, there are many similar quotes around I think.
I started reading things from Wayne Dyer, Abe Hicks, Tolle, Byron Katie, Mooji Byrn etc and they all have similar messages and just share their messages differently!
One of the things with some teachers I found, is that their messages were often unclear and not for the everyday person? I often had to read things over and over to understand, unless I'm just thick?
Thanks for the interest Tania!
Wayne
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I enjoyed your post and your ideas. I found a quote a while back that I liked. It said, “Don’t look back, you’re not going in that direction.”
Regarding live chat, it’s easy for people to assign their own attitudes to what you write. They can read in things that really aren’t there. It’s a disadvantage from not being able to hear the words, see facial expression and such. It’s easy to mistake the real meaning. We need to keep an open mind and assume that people are always trying to help.
Grant
You are so right and that’s certainly one aspect that I overlooked!
It’s actually one aspect of social media I dislike, when you interpret incorrectly what someone has said and vice versa and the next thing you know, your dinner is in the dog and you’re off to the divorce courts!
One of my points is that when you enter the situation in a chat room which is the example and you are in peace and have a good positive energy, you only see positive, there isn’t negative. You go into the chat relaxed and wanting to be there.
If you get someone that appears rude, rushed and impolite, your positive energy will eventually calm them and if they are so impatient, then they will probably just leave.
We simply don’t want to support the negative energy. Two negative energies is asking for potential dispute.
Excellent point you have made, I will not retract the post because there may be other things that people may enjoy? Lol
Thanks for that input and at least I have learnt something as well!
Cheers
Wayne
You shouldn’t retract your post. It was great! And I agree totally with your reply to my comment!
Ok thanks. It’s probably one of those posts where someone may even take a quote from and benefit, we don’t know.
Thank you for your brilliant feedback, I think feedback is just as important as the post when it’s constructive.
Your comments are constructive by the way and it makes it worth writing.
Many others here also constructive here!
Wayne