It's Mother's Day.
It's Mother's Day and I'd like to wish all of you Mother's, Mom's, Mum's, Ma's, Mama's, etc a happy and healthy Mother's Day with your loved ones (or at least hold them in your thoughts).
Many of our mothers aren't perfect, some are mean, some distant. Everyone deals with their own problems in this life and many of us have no clue as to what is going on inside of their loved one's minds.
Yes, there are some mothers that I wouldn't want to wish a happy anything to, other than maybe happy go to jail day, but at some point almost all mothers loved their child(ren). Sometimes it is us that changed, not them.
In my case I became a truck driver and didn't contact family sometimes for weeks. Now, I look back and see what I missed. I'm one of the people that wish that life had a redo button, but alas, it doesn't. I will always have in my memory things that went undone and unsaid. I'm asking each of you here, PLEASE don't be like me. Cherish every member of your family and show them (don't just tell them) that you love them.
My mom passed several years ago, only about 3 months after losing my older brother. I still miss both of them very much and wish that I could talk to them just one more time. I would again tell them each how much I love them. I was lucky in that I talked to my mom on the phone earlier on the night that she passed away. I never got to do this with my brother or my dad.
When you're a guy many people look at you funny when you tell a male relative that you love them, but if I could see my brother or my dad again I would yell, "I love you" at the top of my lungs. Even more so with my mom.
I'd like to remind those of you that still have mothers that are with us to visit or call them today, even if you are estranged from them. Let them know that you love them even if they aren't perfect. One day, it will be too late.
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Hey Bryan,
You have expressed what needed to be said. You chose the right
tone and I am sure the message was received. Thank you for
posting a really powerful message that I am sure will resonate with all members.
Cheers,
Ken
Hey Ken! Thanks for the kind words. As I've said before, if I can keep one person from making some of the mistakes that I've made it will all be worth it to me.
Best of luck to you in all that you do!
Bryan
Hey Bryan,
You are welcome. I really appreciate your great response and for the like.
Cheers,
Ken
This post is a reminder to everyone to express yourself honestly to those who mean the most to you. This includes Mothers, Fathers and siblings. It will always mean something to your loved ones, even if your gender is male. American men have such a fear of expressing themselves honestly that they often in up in stunted relationships. I say to you be honest with those around you because you can never recapture that moment. I say this as an American man. Great Post.
Jerry
Jerry, Thanks so much for your comment and understanding. I'm not one of those people who care what others think. I will say, do, or wear whatever I feel comfortable in. If others don't like it that's their problem, not mine.
I can't begin to tell you how many people that I know that say either, "My dad/brother never told me that he loved me", or "I never got to tell dad/brother how much I loved him." Why? Because of the fear of what others would think! Live your own life, don't worry about what others think. They don't pay your bills.
I'd like for everyone to have a fulfilling relationship with their families. If you read my profile you'll find that I lost out because I was away from home more than 11 months out of the year. Now, I don't know my own grown children, my grandkids, or great grandkids.
Please don't make the mistakes that I made. Put your family first, and tell them at every opportunity that you love them.
very thoughtful post. My dad is also a truck driver and I know it is rough on my family where he lives.
Thank you so much.
So very true, Bryan. Great post. I wish my younger brother could read it. I'm afraid that someday he is going to be a very unhappy man. I miss my parents as well as my 3 older siblings. It's a hurt that never goes away.
Thanks for the reminder Bryan!! I opened up WA and there was your message. I almost forgot to call my mom. To busy doing other stuff and almost forgot to call. Its all so very true. None of us are perfect and need to seize the moment with are family members while there is still time!
I'm really glad to know that someone acted on this. Thanks for letting me know! Best wishes to you.
Great post, Bryan. I lost my mother a year ago in Feb. at the age of 98. My sister and I were so fortunate to be able to care for her during her dementia years instead of having her in a nursing home. Those memories are priceless. Carol
Carol, I'm sorry for your loss, but I understand the memories that this must have provided for you and your sister.
It just amazes me the way that some people seem to think that there will always be tomorrow to speak to someone and tell them that you love them. Both my mother and my brother were gone in an instant. I wrote this post to encourage those who don't think of their mother's or other family members to take a few moments and let those people know that you care.
I hope it jogs at least one person to do that.
Bryan
Working on it...getting my house ready to sell. Will be painting the kitchen this week. Maybe a little WA on my rest breaks! Carol
While painting is not my favorite chore (and moving isn't even on the list) it should pay off for you when the house sells. Just don't paint any rooms black. I can't tell you how many people paint rooms black.....
It's nice to be able to think about work (WA) as a break, isn't it?
I hear ya. I've lived here for 20 years, and really hate to move, but at my advanced age(!), it's really not safe for me to be isolated on my mountain by myself any more. Naw, never did understand those black rooms! Painting my kitchen white. The biggest job is the cabinets...yuck! Yeah, it's nice to have WA as a break...it's so much more fun! Have a great day, Bryan. Carol
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Hey Bryan,
Your post was the powerful expression of, love for family. Your family knows you love them and are always with you. If I did not believe this, with all my heart, I could not get through my day.
Fortunately, I have my WA family. My own family for the most part doesn't speak to me. It's their choice. I can live with it, not my ideal choice, but the way it is. Years of being gone in a truck did that. I wasn't there for school functions, first dates, or most special occasions. That's the reason I encourage others to put family first. For people out there with families, please put them first, not financially, as I did, but as special people that need your time.
I've never seen an armored car in a funeral procession or heard a dying person say I wish that I had worked more. I have heard numerous people say if only I had spent more time with.....
Don't be like me. I think someone once said sorry seems to be the hardest word.......
Don't be so hard yourself. Someone had to put bread on the table. Our family needs all the time we can give them, but there the realities of life as well. The family ties go both ways.
your friend Sandy.
Thanks Sandy. Not really trying to be hard on myself, but sure want to stop others from making the same mistakes that I made. ;-)