The Fear Of Not Taking Action

Starting with my own personal experience, I found myself unwilling to take that first step. Either because, it may have been something someone had said or did that took me right out of focus. It could also be miseducation. By taking in some quiet time and meditation, the root to my problem was fear. What was it that had me so fearful? Was it the fear of not having the money to pay my bills, having more debt or living homeless at a shelter?

Well, to my surprise it was not any of those things. My biggest fear caught me by surprise and not once have I ever given it any thought. Yes, this fear kept me from moving forward and taking action to do numerous things. It is the root to why family and peers aren’t there to give us the support we want. Especially when venturing in to new challenges. That fear is called “abandonment”. This fear go’s way back to those early child hood days. You remember, those days when you wanted to be accepted by your peers. But, something was always holding you back. Yes, sometimes our parents and school professors are guilty of this act too.

You see, people sometimes would put distance between you and them. The reasoning for this is because; they don’t want you to know how wrong or unfamiliar they are. Especially, about what is being said or told by them. They have that same fear too. The fear of showing incompetents to peers. We had those times when someone would challenge us to do things we may not want to do. But, we end up doing them anyway because we don’t want to feel cowardly or show that look of fear. The con here for those “do or dare” challenges is that they are usually fixed. They also tell you that you must get it right the first time. There lies the problem for most of us who really wanted to learn and master certain skills.

I failed many times trying to learn various academic skills (business) in school and employment. I was made to believe that if I could not get something right the first time, I would be denied working privileges. We all don’t have the same learning curves for mastering various skills. When put under this kind of pressure by uncaring peers, family members and school professors. Some of us would back away and not face the challenge. Again, no one needs to take on fixed or foolish challenges that could damage ones reputation. One must take a challenge that is chosen by them which would allow growth and development based on one’s learning curve.

You are starting fresh and new. Your learning curve plays a big part in mastering what you are learning to do. Don’t allow yourself to be con by an “Opportunistic trickster” seeking to take advantage of your lack of skill and Knowledge to a challenging task. Just let your learning do the rest and feel the flow. Let nothing keep you in confusion. Become your own personal developer.

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