Who said you could call me "Sexy"? Inspired by an event from WA chat
You hear about it all the time: "Someone called me "Sexy" at the bar" or "someone called me "Sexy" in the hallway at school". But honestly, even as a woman, I've never experienced too much of that. I know that most times when I've been called "Sexy", I've put myself in a situation where I should have (and, in most cases, did) expect it.
Imagine my surprise when, after helping a new member of WA earlier today, he turned around and said "Thanks, sexy!"
WHAT?!
WHO gave him permission to call me that?
What made him think that on a business site, that was an appropriate thing to say?
I will not name drop, because that is not the point of this post, but this comment sent my head spinning.
The question was a simple enough question: "How do I make a website?" My answer? "Click the green Get Started button. All of the basics are explained there!" Apparently, that warranted him thanking me while calling me "sexy", as if that was my name.
Let me just say that I did not know this boy. I call him a boy because his behavior was not that of a man, it was that of a boy. The messages quoted above are the only messages that I have ever exchanged with him.
There are many other things he could have called me. "Danni" for one, or "xdannigirl", or, if he decided to check my profile, he would've seen that "Kristin" is also acceptable as that is my real name. He could have even left out my name entirely and simply responded with "thanks," which would have suited me just fine.
For crying out loud.
Normally, I swear like a sailor. Ask my boyfriend. Ask my mom. Ask my sister. Ask any of my friends. Ask anyone who knows me on a personal level.
Why, then, do you think you won't find a single cuss word in this post?
The reason you won't find a single cuss word is because this website is a business website. That's right, a BUSINESS website.
I don't think I should have to say this, but guys, for the sake of all woman, please treat us with respect. We are not objects. We're all business people on this website, and we need to behave as such.
The person talked about in this post knows who they are. If you're reading this, please never address me again, unless you can do so with dignity and respect. That is what I deserve, and that is what I demand.
Sorry for the preachy post, but I really needed to get this off my chest.
~ Kristin
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Very true Kristin,
I applaud you for taking a stand.
There is a time and a place for many things and many things there are no time and/or place that are appropriate and that's one of them.
Thank you Kristin for your reminder to us all that we all deserve and should give each other respect.
Tony
Not at all preachy Kristin, but fully justified. How dare he call you that! I hope he's reading and hanging his head in shame - an apology would be good too! Keep your head up, you're doing great :)
Thanks, Jude! This kind of behavior is something I would only accept from my boyfriend, and even he's smart enough to reserve it for the appropriate times. His compliments to me mostly include "you're pretty/smart/funny/cuddly/caring/loving/etc". Want to impress a girl? THAT'S how you do it.
Hiya Kristin, I totally agree, in a business and learning environment it's inappropriate language and very uncomfortable. Fortunately I think most of us here understand that and for the few that don't I hope they read this. Cheers Tracy
Rock on. Sometimes chat does get a little risqué, but that is in response to how the chat is prevailing at the time. And when it steps over the line, someone steps in to call a halt.
I saw this happen and was somewhat astonished. I consider all who are part of this site business partners and colleagues. Sometimes, I don't even know their gender. Nor do I care. Keep on with what you are doing. And don't let one person ruin your day.
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Hey Kristin, I just joined and noticed that you were following me. This is the first blog of yours that I've checked out and I would like to say that you did a great job standing up for yourself. You are 100% correct. This is a business social network and should be approached as one. This is a great place to hang around and get things done. I do see that it is a great community and many people are serious about why they are here.
I am sure that person wouldn't call their female manager/boss "Sexy" on their first day of work. Anyway, great job for sticking up for yourself!
Best,
Will
Thanks, Will! It's just kind of creepy to be called stuff like that when you don't know the person lol. If you want to find someone to call Sexy like that, go on Tinder!