You Never Reach The Destination
In life and, in everything, there will always be someone who is performing better than you or achieving more than you. There will also be things that do not always work out the way you want them to.
That is life. Accept it. Become resilient.
Instead of focusing on getting to that end place, (hich will inevitably keep changing as you move along), put most of your energy into your experience of the journey and not arriving at your destination, at any cost.
If you focus on the positive aspects of your journey, you will find yourself, just like the geese in formation, moving more swiftly towards your success.
Ask yourself:
- What am I learning?
- How am I growing?
- What have I accomplished?
- Who have I helped and supported?
- What can I improve and do better?
- Where should I apply a different approach?
In other words, move your attention and desire to compete, inward.
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Babou3
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Thank you for this very interesting training.
It's true the competitive spirit has led men and women to surpass themselves. These personalities made us want to surpass ourselves.
Because seeing these people achieve the best of themselves it simply made us understand that it is also possible for us. We also have our best to achieve. The important thing is to do it in a healthy way while keeping our values as you explain it so well.
Ingrid
It's true the competitive spirit has led men and women to surpass themselves. These personalities made us want to surpass ourselves.
Because seeing these people achieve the best of themselves it simply made us understand that it is also possible for us. We also have our best to achieve. The important thing is to do it in a healthy way while keeping our values as you explain it so well.
Ingrid
Thokozile7
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Thank you Cassi for another great post. This is great and relevant training not only for the business world but for life. Thank you for pointing out that it’s okay to be competitive as long as we are competing against ourselves. We all want to be better today than we were yesterday. And we should consistently strive for that.
PeterN1843
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Excellent post Cassie! I love your writing style.
There will always be someone who's better than we are. We need to accept that.
You're right about the positive attitude we should keep, so as not to doubt ourselves.
Competition is good. We learn from it. It makes us stronger.
Be better today than you were yesterday.
Peter
There will always be someone who's better than we are. We need to accept that.
You're right about the positive attitude we should keep, so as not to doubt ourselves.
Competition is good. We learn from it. It makes us stronger.
Be better today than you were yesterday.
Peter
ASchultz1
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Let's be honest. If there was no competitive people in this world we would still be living in the dark ages.
We would still be living in cages dressed in loin cloths. There would be no going to Tesco (a large supermarket in the UK) for food. We (or the men at least) would be going clubbing. And I do not mean at your local night club but hunting animals with a club to get your next meal.
Look, as long as there is civilisation man will always look for ways to progress in life, i.e to make life easier. This is where competition comes in.
There are always sections of society which says that is not a good thing, then they would whip out their smart phone (the phone made by Apple, Samsung, Motorala etc the world's most competitive companies) to play the next video game.
Without competitive action we would be nowhere.
Aubrey Schultz
We would still be living in cages dressed in loin cloths. There would be no going to Tesco (a large supermarket in the UK) for food. We (or the men at least) would be going clubbing. And I do not mean at your local night club but hunting animals with a club to get your next meal.
Look, as long as there is civilisation man will always look for ways to progress in life, i.e to make life easier. This is where competition comes in.
There are always sections of society which says that is not a good thing, then they would whip out their smart phone (the phone made by Apple, Samsung, Motorala etc the world's most competitive companies) to play the next video game.
Without competitive action we would be nowhere.
Aubrey Schultz
richardgb
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Hi Cassi, another great post - but sorry ... this response is about me; but there could be a useful message in it for some. When I was young I competed in a number of sports (and other competitive disciplines over the years) and won trophies in a variety of things, I learned that winning provides a short-lived high, and after a win often attracted jealousy or resentment from others. being perceived as the best at things was my motivation for trying to win but the real value/satisfaction came from the competition rather than any reward.
Over time I learned to focus on competing against my previous results rather than focusing on beating others and developed a sense of humility (or gratitude even) for the opportunity to perform. I also learned to not keep secrets... if someone asked for help, ar first I was not always helpful, but as I matured I learned to give as much as possible to help others improve. Eventually, I experienced far more satisfaction from seeing others results than I ever did from experiencing my own previous wins.
Over time I learned to focus on competing against my previous results rather than focusing on beating others and developed a sense of humility (or gratitude even) for the opportunity to perform. I also learned to not keep secrets... if someone asked for help, ar first I was not always helpful, but as I matured I learned to give as much as possible to help others improve. Eventually, I experienced far more satisfaction from seeing others results than I ever did from experiencing my own previous wins.