Hi Slavka first of all thanks for reaching out to your fellow members that already is a great head start rather than keeping it all in and placing more pressure on yourself.

You have many great thoughts already given to you and can be easy for many of us to say to take charge of what you do and when to do it.

But in fact, that is also true and one that is needed to get control back into your life not just online but in life in general.

Yes, we all know life can be tough and at times curve balls are thrown at us mostly when we don't expect it or want it at that moment.

There is so much to do but one thing that is needed is to first focus on yourself, you are number one on the list nothing else really matters remember that this includes your health and mindset everything else comes second regardless of what needs to be done.

The more you stress about all the things that are needed to be done the more pressure you will place on yourself and in the end the less will get done which as you know can eventually lead to you start thinking of giving up even though you don't want to do that.

Once you realize you come first then focus on making a list of what secondary things are on your to-do list.

Write them down in order of priorities sure many will seem they are all on the number two list after yourself but this is where to start taking control of what to do.


Create a time schedule and allocate either certain times of the day or hours to do one task only with nothing else on your mind.

Much like doing research on a topic you don't visit FB or YouTube to watch other things or read text messages and chit chat but focus on that one particular job and allocate all your time on that for a set time period.

Do worry about any training you already know the basics and know you can always either re-visit a training should there be a need later or go to a new lesson but stay on track with those priorities you set in your planner.

Don't do more than what you can handle at the current time as you get yourself back on track you will be able to speed up the process along the way just work at your own pace one at a time.
You are not trying to be a jack of all trades and in the end become that master of none.

As you mention in another comment to see the whole picture of a puzzle you need to place one piece of the puzzle one at a time. some may seem like that fit at other times it will fit then perfectly and the more you done one at a time the closer you become to seeing the whole picture you are working on.

I am not going to say it is easy or a quick fix which it isn't but if necessary be the turtle and not the hare and also know there is no race you are in.


Yes, you have a regular job and of course, that already takes more time away than those who don't regardless the first step is you and always will be you as the number important part in life.

The second part is in the list you will make and then allocate what is the first priority and then give a time frame to do it.

If you run out of time that day or for that time frame you make fine, get the rest you need and there is always the next day to work on completing your tasks.

If you haven't finished it that day then do it first the next day or when you have the time then finish it off before you go on your second list of tasks.

Give yourself a break in between even if it is to walk around the house or around the block weather and safety permitting.

Take the break and regular ones not saying every ten minutes as that can easily be abused and then becomes an excuse.

Just say ok I will do this for an hour or two then take a short break and either finish it off before going on to the next task at hand.

Hope that helps Slavka and remember this!

We all believe in you, now it's time to believe in yourself and really believe, not just say it but imagine it, feel it, live it, and become it

Andre

Hi Slavka. That is a lot of stuff to do. I have read through a bunch of the suggestions and I don't think there is anything I can add. So I will echo Rachele.

You are the head of your household and need to take care of "yourself and it" first or you will lose everything.

I hope this does not sound lame, but maybe you turn this problem into a pie chart to help you prioritize better.

I hope this helps.

Blessed Be

JD

Luvie,

When circumstances begin to affect our mental health, it is always advisable to do a quick assessment and always make sure family obligations come first. Don't make a decision that puts your family in jeopardy.

You are, essentially, the head of your household so that is where your responsibilities come first. When I was a single mom, I had to put my studies off to the side. I returned to school when I was financially able too.

Right now, you have a choice between what you need and want, and needs will trump wants every time.

Go by your gut, it is almost always right.

Your friend,

Rachele

Slavka,

I suggest that you make two lists:

1) My Essential Needs and 2) Secondary Choice

Put priorities first. Which is most important?
Would you be able to accept a lower rank in Google?

Which choice would make the most sense, all things considered.
Ultimately you have to follow your highest intuition (your gut).

Rachele

Slavka (not slave!), do what you can do as you can. You're only one person and there are limits. As Susan said, prioritizing should help, but be careful how you do that lest you put something off that you will need for YOUR future. Income is important but being a slave to it will drain and ruin you. Pick well, friend.
Asking the community for help in this is wise and shows you are a person of principal. Take time to think this through and the right combination will come to light.