Think like a man
I see the drama regarding the way females are supposed to think in relation to their man continues. Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man captivated many and led to the movie Think like a Man in 2012. However, the 2012 movie was not enough as the sequel, Think Like a Man Too, is showing in theaters this summer.
Harvey is to be commended for some of the relationship tips he shared. He has certainly stimulated females to consciously assess the mindset of a man. After all, most of us want to someday find an ideal life-time partner. Some women make no effort to conceal the pain they continue to feel from a series of broken relationships; in pursuit of love, many get caught in a web of destructive relationships with men. Hopefully, Harvey’s book has provided some guidance to females, who find the mind-set of a man to be too obscure and mysterious to understand.
Will Think Like a Man be the Solution?
But my interest of Harvey’s book is fueled not only from agreement with some of his relationship tips. I also have moments when thoughts do not corroborate with his views. Here are some tips mentioned in his book that will not necessarily resolve relationship woes:
1.Be resolute in imposing requirements: The success of stating all your requirements to your man is dependent on the stage of your relationship. There is more permanence to behavioral transformation when change is incremental. So the imposition of a slew of requirements on a man may well create high level of conflict in a relationship.
2.Expression of a man’s love is ingrained in financial protection of his family: This is not easily demonstrated by highly stratified societies. In periods of high employment minorities may find it difficult to find or sustain a job. A man may take on domestic responsibilities in an effort to contribute to the welfare of the family. Such an observation indicates family protection transcends the financial agenda.
3.Every man approaches a woman with a plan: Even if the game plan of a man is to have a short-term fling with a woman, reciprocity is what sustains this engagement. Simply put, there are women that would prefer a short-term relationship if the gains are fulfilling, rather than a marathon, with a boring creep. Harvey needs to realize that not every woman is desirous of a long-term relationship. Besides many relationships begin obscure and unsure but evolve in permanent partnerships.
4.Women should show open communication as men are not mind readers: Well perhaps this is the stage where men should think like a woman, with an aim to understand our mind-set. Women are known to be more expressive than men, so pushing a dialogue may well be risky. Lest you forget, women are sometimes chastised for being excessively talkative when a man wants silence.
Message from the Think Like a Man Too?
I have not seen Think Like a Man Too. I have no clue if this sequel will deepen my debate or put my mind at ease. However, I am prepared to sit back and watch the sequel. I will no doubt conduct my review and share with you.
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Great concept. I like it. Would make a lot of things easier.
(this comment by an "old geezer) :-)
John
It is facinating the difference in the way men and women think. Interesting subject. Good job!
I puzzled too by our tardiness in understanding that by nature a man's thinking will forever be different!
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There is one thing that a man doesn't know, it's how to express their inner feelings. I tend to express my feelings more than my husband, and reassure him that there's nothing wrong with saying how you feel. Men need to be hugged more - that'll make them feel more open to expressing their feelings.
Jen it is so interesting that men sometimes bear so much emotional pain because of lack of communication. Yeah men really need attention for good emotional health.