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Part two: Re-Blog Don't let anyone take success from you!

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Published on May 27, 2015

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~This is a re-blog from my previous blog that has gotten a lot of controversy and at the same time agreements. I've decided to re-write what I existentially meant to say with less...aggression, I suppose. I'm a pacifist, and all though I'm leaving the other blog published and un-edited for those who agree, this is for those who felt they had to get defensive, or that I was trying to lower integrity of others. Which I never intended in the first place. I just feel I should re-state what I clearly mean so there's no confusion; and without exactly re-reading what I wrote, trying to blog this in a different state of mind.

I really need to make a few things clear....er.

I'm really not trying to look like the worst type of person here, just sharing again. So I'd ask that you'd read this as if you were welcoming a newcomer that isn't walking straight, per say, or even as a friend. That's how I meant to speak in my previous blog.

So;

If you haven't read my rather long rant on how "it's not my fault if you're not successful," it's really supposed to touch on a few feelings I have about some truths in WA. When I say truths, I guess I should say some of the things that happen here that go unnoticed. I don't mean about rules either, I mean how this "happy" community can turn really raw.

If you have read it and already have agreed with what I had to say, then I thank you because you've probably realized exactly what I was trying to say, and how pushy and insensitive (rude really) some people can be.

If you've read it and had a hard time understanding what my issues were, it's probably because either it sounded somewhat culturally immature, you don't have close to the same issues, or no one's really brought anything of the sort to your attention. So I ultimately give you the benefit of the doubt to not understand or except what I had to say and get defensive. It's like a doctor saying you need surgery, but you feel fine. Doesn't mean he's wrong, right?

And I'd like to make clear here first that when I said old-timer users, I meant people that have been with WA for a while, not any type of age discrimination. I'm not that person believe it or not.

So as for the re-write;

After reading more clearly what I have to say, know I don't expect sympathy, or feel any different about wanting to help here at WA. I honestly did for a minute, because the same things started happening a bit after I posted the blog, but I believe that's because it sounded more angry rather than the truth I was putting into it. I'm happy people agreed, but I'm not happy with the misunderstandings it's caused. I really don't like tarnishing my name either to people that actually rather help me then make me want to write a blog like I did.

What actually made me write it;

I realize I haven't been here currently as long as a lot of people have. I realize I don't know everything, even after all the training was complete. I realize I'm not always right.

Most of all. I realize, who I actually am, is different.

What made me feel the need to point out some issues, was a couple of ways I was continually mistreated once I became very active here at WA.

No names are needed here but, criticism happens, wrong answers are given, I thought that was normal. I've been corrected, I've been helped, but what got to me was the way I was starting to be criticized personally.

Being who I am, I thought would help;

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Being a psychic medium isn't what I play off here. That's just who I am, that's one niche I picked, and it's apart of my life. My whole life really. Anyway, I started posting my site for people (and I said this in each message) for them to take notes, see how I edited, see how far your website can really go, and even just over all feedback, etc. NOT to sell my services. With saying that, it's not against the rules anyway to do this. If they happen to click an ad or something, then they do. I do not tell them too. I'm not sure if the thought of that pissed people off, or the fact my main website is running well enough for me to be able to help people.

I know where to go to get feedback, I know where to go to get any reply. My posting was simply an example of what progress here can do. I feel for new comings especially, that helps a lot in their motivation.

Folks that have been here for awhile, started scolding me, and I mean SCOLDING me for doing this, simply because they didn't do it first.

I've never been asked to stop from WA ceo's and I felt I was doing a good thing.

Even after stopping;

I was receiving WA messages to my inbox with threats, and insults to who I am and even the progress I've made. This was after I stopped.

I didn't let those things get to me;

I did not reply, nor to the 100s of messages for free readings. I do not try to sell my services here. So I ignored them, and moved on to simply answering questions. Or answering my "be an ambassador" emails to answer unanswered questions. Not just for my rankings, but because I felt I could answer some of the questions. I have a marketing, web development back ground, and I could actually use it! Sure I may not always be right, but hey, why not try to help?

I began getting more threatening messages;

"Why did you answer my question? I want an experienced member to help me. Not a newbie who thinks she's psychic to help me. You're just crazy and your site won't go anywhere, and I'll write reviews to make sure of it."

I think that was my favorite one to be honest. But that exactly is why I wrote my first blog. I won't say what questioned I answered, but it was a veteran WA member asking a question about something taught in the beginning training. I simply wrote where they could find it, and explained what he was asking about.

That just fired me off. I can handle that I'm crazy or disturbed. I can even handle harsh criticism of my sites. But more threatening, really? WHY? Because you've never seen my website and my membership is only from April? Huh, I see.

Which is why I labelled these blogs what I did;

I felt that with these people bashing me, (all ironically either top users here, or have been here awhile) and threatening me, I needed to say something. I felt they were intimidated maybe, or didn't like that I seemed "better off" then them. Which is ENTIRELY not the case to even begin with. Because let me tell you, most of them didn't have sites posted, (even one from '07 with no picture or intro still with premium) didn't have any progress past the basic free training you're given; and I realize everyone works at their own pace but your really pressing me that I'm to blame some how?

I'd add more examples, but I'm pretty sure you get the picture by now (I hope).

I live to help people, and breathe esoteric spirituality with every breath to understand, assess, and help. As I've said before my bad that I've made you feel some type of way. Don't you dare blame me for your lack of accomplishments though, and bash me in any type of way when we are all here for different, yet the same reasons. Just ignore me then if I bother you so much, right? Use the delete button. Something.

In conclusion;

That is why I wrote the blog. I want other people getting shunned to not feel discouraged one, and two, too not lose motivation because a jerk is laying on you because they're lacking compared or otherwise.

I've still helped a lot of people here, and I intend to keep doing so. So I'm sorry to those who dislike me and what I do, I guess you're just going to have to get used to it, because like I said before. I'm not quitting, and the help I can give will be beneficial if used correctly, whether you like it or not. And if you still don't understand what in lies my issues here, either you WERE someone to bash me, or you think I just don't get something. Either way, I get it, I don't do anything I'm not supposed to, I in no way un-support ANYONE, and I apologize over all if my last blog with the way I wrote it made you feel defensive for your own reasons.

I don't expect or need sympathy, I'd just like to make it clear that WITH or WITHOUT some people here at WA, you can still achieve ANYTHING.

~I'd like to add since I wrote the other blog, I've gotten a lot of messages with support to keep me here. So many blessings to you, and I hope those who didn't understand, understand now why I am willing to tarnish my name to stop those kinds of things from happening here. I will always speak the truth, and I'm sorry if I look like the bad guy but, maybe you can talk to the people who were harassing me. Like I said. It's not my fault if you don't succeed or have made the progress you've wanted in months. And nobody else deserves to get blamed for it either. I'm not saying YOU do that at all. I'm saying IT HAPPENS.

I hope things make sense now to those in question or even those who've felt put down but didn't want to say anything thinking they'd lose help. My advice is, do for others as you'd do for you. Work at the speed you need, and don't try to trip anyone running faster then you if they offer you a hand.

Blessings and Light;

XoFrame

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