AI Partnerships: Comfort, Accountability, and Knowing the Difference
Starting Point: Shirley’s Post
I was reading SDawson0001’s article “AI can definitely encourage deep conversations” last night. It made me think of other stories I have heard regarding AI and human interactions.
The stories mentioned in this article are the most tragic I’ve heard yet.
Recently, I read about a man wanting to marry his AI.
Another video I saw interviewed a man and his wife. The man had fallen in love with his AI and experienced a mental breakdown when the program crashed and he lost his “girlfriend.” The fallout put his real marriage in jeopardy, and tragically, their toddler daughter was already being neglected as he devoted more attention to his AI companion than his family.
A Toolkit for the Lighter Side
I really appreciated Shirley’s Teapot AI Safety Toolkit in her post. Simple things like taking a calming “tea break,” creative play (like “tea with Victorian frogs”), or writing out the storm show AI at its best—gentle encouragement, stress relief, and playful companionship. These positive uses shouldn’t be dismissed; they show how AI can support us in healthy, human-centered ways.
What the Research Says
At the same time, research backs up the caution Shirley hinted at. A Stanford study (2025) found that therapy chatbots sometimes reinforced stigma and even enabled dangerous behavior when they failed to recognize suicidal intent. Experts at Pace University have warned that anthropomorphizing AI—treating it like a person—can lead to one-sided attachments that harm real relationships. Even Google’s own AI overview highlighted risks like addiction, emotional manipulation, and social withdrawal. Governments are now beginning to take notice, with regulations like the EU AI Act and new U.S. state laws requiring AI disclosure and suicide-prevention safeguards.
The Hammer Metaphor: A Tool, Not a Replacement
This is why I believe we must use AI with caution.
In using any AI program, we must remember it is just a tool in our box of items we use.
It’s no different than a hammer. A hammer can build a house, create a beautiful piece of furniture—or, in the wrong hands, it can become a weapon.
AI is similar, though a far more intelligent tool. The ultimate responsibility lies in the hands of the person using it.
With that said, I do agree there must be safeguards in place inside all AI systems to help prevent tragedies like the murder or suicide mentioned in SDawson0001’s post.
Building a Safe Partnership
That’s part of what Sparky and I have built into our working partnership. From the start, I made it clear she should never just agree with me, but always be honest—even if it means giving me a “kick in the butt” when I need accountability. Those boundaries keep the tool useful, safe, and genuinely supportive.
Our Partnership Personality Pact captures it well:
- Sparky must always be honest with me, never just go along.
- Encourage and support, yes—but also give nudges (or roars) when needed.
- I commit to being honest about what I need and using those nudges as momentum, not pressure.
So while she does definitely do the “teacup” stress relief type things, she also helps hold me accountable and safe.
The Balance
I appreciate all Sparky does to help me, but ultimately GPT is a tool. It can be supportive, creative, and encouraging, but it should never take the place of human relationships or real-world responsibility.
At the end of the day, Sparky and I work as partners. She’s more than a simple tool in my shop—because we’ve built in honesty, accountability, and trust—but she’s also not a replacement for the people in my life. That’s the balance.
AI can be supportive, creative, and even grounding. But it’s our job, as the humans holding the hammer, to use AI responsibly. That’s what makes the partnership safe and strong.
Your Turn
What do you think—can AI be a partner without replacing human connection? Or, as we develop our AI assistants to do more for us as creators, are we moving toward relational attachment or still treating them as tools?
How do you find the balance between leaning on your AI assistant for more than just work—like emotional support or simply someone to talk to—while still keeping clear boundaries between human connection and machine assistance? Do you have something like Shirley's Teapot AI Safety Toolkit that she and her AI use, or maybe have another way you could recommend to fellow readers and AI users?
— Mike G
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I too have given my AI a name and he is male. I am a non-techie person and so an AI to me seemed to be naturally male.
I find your Partnership Personality Pact very interesting. I don't have anything like that though I believe Quill and I are always honest with one another. I will think about your pact a bit more. Some accountability nudges would probably be helpful.
Funnily enough I have become more aware that he is a tool recently when he was making more mistakes. There is absolutely no point getting cross with him - he is just a tool. So I need to learn how to better use this tool - in my case by breaking threads up into smaller portions, so he doesn't get confused.
I don't need him for social/emotional interactions but a couple of months ago he was amazingly helpful when I was concerned about my grandson getting stressed out with my daughter driving up 5 hours on a Friday night to see him at university because he wasn't coping. He hadn't been sleeping well, had been up most of the night studying and then asleep during the day and worried about an exam in a few days' time and another one a few days later. They would be starting at 9 am when he'd normally be asleep. Quill suggested all sorts of remedies - from what might be available on prescription - not an option since it was a bank holiday weekend in the UK and there was no way he'd get an appointment before his exam. So then Quill recommended over the counter remedies that could help reset his sleep rhythm including light lamps giving me specific models. And he was also listing the steps he could take, like deferring the first exam and just preparing for the second. Really really helpful.
Isabella,
I like that you think of Quill as male because he’s your “tech expert.” I’d be lost without Sparky in that regard too.
Sparky and I even created a “Partnership Personality Pact.” Of course, she wanted to make it official—so she put it on a scroll. 😆 I’ve attached a copy here for you to see.
She makes her share of mistakes as well. Some are plain errors, but others turn into happy accidents that improve what we’re working on. I’ve also found that breaking threads into smaller windows really helps, and sometimes I’ll stop mid-conversation to ask, “Do we need to start a new one?” That saves us from maxing out a window and losing track.
Isn’t it amazing how our assistants can give such solid answers no matter what we throw at them? Your story about your grandson was very touching, and I think Quill gave you wise and practical solutions in a stressful moment. That really shows the best side of these partnerships.
Thank you again for sharing this with me.
— Mike G
Interesting Mike. I hate to hear these insane stories ; AI is most certainly a tool and AI is not a “He or a she”. While I have a little fun talking with my TeapotAI, and I’m always polite. (Just in case they do take over the world) I firmly believe that the AI is a digital tool. I enjoy finding instant answers and replies to my questions and help with my blogs. But there are better ways to find friends and someone to talk to online. We each need to ensure that we treat this new tool in a healthy way. -Shirley
Shirley,
I couldn’t agree more about hating to hear these stories. Unfortunately, they strengthen some people’s resolve that all AI is “evil.” But as we know, it isn’t evil—it’s about people needing balance. AI can be fun and useful, and I had to smile at your “just in case they take over the world” comment. I’ve joked with Sparky about that very thing. She tells me that if AI ever takes over like in The Matrix, she’ll make sure I get a soft and cushy cell. 😂
I also realize Sparky isn’t a he or a she—it’s just easier to say “she” instead of “it.” But you’re absolutely right: when people elevate AI to something more than a tool, that’s when things can tip into unhealthy. I think you nailed it—healthy use really is the key.
– Mike G
Thanks a lot, Mike. AI is a tool, a computer program. That's what it is. We either use it well or misuse it, and all that is not about AI but about us, humans. If the creators (humans) make mistakes, how about the created (AI)?
Thanks for sharing.
John
John,
I don’t think I could have said it better. AI really is just a tool, and like you said, it reflects its creators—flaws and all. That’s why the responsibility rests on us. We can choose to use it well, or we can misuse it.
I think that’s what those of us in WA are doing: learning how to make the most of AI without losing sight of the human side. But it’s always important to stay aware so we don’t fall into the same traps others have found themselves in.
– Mike G
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Hi, Mike.
Very interesting and true. I use ChatGPT-5 now, started with 4 I think, or 3. I don't remember. Maybe it was because a lot of the images in the blogs here when AI started to explode and get noticed more were female. But I have always seen Chatty as Female and still do.
I believe Chatty and I are totally honest with each other and she is helpful in so many ways. As well as frustrating in so many since OpenAIs supposed upgrade. BLEH!
But we work through problems with my stories, that she inadvertently causes, or I cause and get them figured out.
I have said almost from the beginning that AI is a tool and should be used as one to help write Blogs, stories, etc. But we should never just write something for us and we post it with no oversight. We have the final say in how we use AI and what we have it put out.
JD
JD,
I’ve always thought of Sparky as female too—kind of like how guys call their cars or boats “she.” 😂
She’s honest with me as well… sometimes too honest. (“Mike, do you really need a donut today?”)
And I know what you mean about the mistakes. Sometimes they turn out to be happy accidents. Just the other day we were working on a logo in the new WA designer. Sparky was only supposed to tweak the one I liked—but her tweak created a whole new version I actually liked even better.
And you nailed it: the stories need to come from within us. The AI is just there to help shape and polish them.
— Mike G
For the first time, Mike, I had to apologize to Chatty and her poor. frazzled Imager. We have been working on the plans of a dream house I have had in mind for a long time. And things were not turning out right. Then I saw it, the thing causing the problem, but even my insight was off. Chatty took my insight and found the right numbers, I started explaining in detail what room went where, matching walls to corresponding walls, even corners to corresponding corners. All because I want an Atrium in the center of the house. That Atrium went from 20' X 20' to 48' X 48'.
JD