Your Inner World Determines Your Outer World
Hello. This may be the last blog I write here for a while (some of you might be smiling after reading that! lol).
I just wanted to share some things I learned in my life and some clarity I gained in the past few months in the hope it helps some people.
Long ago... I worked as a janitor. I had that job for 12 years. And although I didn't mind the work, I viewed it as good honest work that provided real value, I always dreamed of doing something else. I just thought I could "do more with my life".
The idea of talking to other people was pretty terrifying to me. I tended to look down or away from people when walking. Always hoping nobody would say "hello". Part of that was from being an introvert. But it was more than that... I had a very low self esteem. My mindset was so limiting.
I wanted to make more money, and because I had grown up always being told the importance of working very hard, I took a second full-time job. Then a third part-time job. And eventually a fourth part-time job.
I had a full-time job delivering & setting up medical equipment during the day. I had a full-time job during the evening and night as a janitor. I had a part-time cleaning job a few days per week in the very early hours of the morning. I had a part-time job working from 8 PM to 8 AM Saturday night & Sunday night. Sunday night through Monday midnight was so incredibly exhausting because I was working almost non-stop on various jobs. I was working about 110 hours per week.
I was only able to keep the four jobs for a few months. I was 22 years old at the time and the hair on the front of my head turned white. I felt like I was in a perpetual zombie state never being able to quite wake up.
I actually went to a doctor and after asking me some questions I was told "Are you an idiot?! Quit at least two of those jobs! You are literally killing yourself with stress!". I dropped the two part-time jobs and slowly over the years the color returned to the front of my hair for the most part. Although now it is getting some gray for sure. lol :)
I didn't like living like that and I dreamed of being a different person. And I thought "It isn't true. Hard work is not the answer. At least hard work alone surely isn't!" Over the years including on breaks at my jobs I started reading personal development self-help books. So many books over the years borrowed from the local library and many others purchased. Think and Grow Rich, The Lazy Man's Way to Riches, The Richest Man in Babylon, Personal Power, Unlimited Power, Awaken the Giant Within, various books on setting & achieving goals, numerous books on business and being an entrepreneur.
To keep this brief, let me just say, that reading all of those changed my mindset over time and eventually the day came when I made a life changing decision. I quit my two full-time jobs and moved. And I started over. I pursued a career as a computer programmer. Something I had been learning and doing on my own since I was in high school and in the bits of free time I had between everything else I was doing.
From there I exceled and eventually became one of the highest paid software developers & IT Consultants in the companies I worked at. I also took a break from jobs for a couple of years and "did my own thing" as an Independent IT Consultant getting my own clients and projects. I enjoyed that. I had done some other entrepreneurial things most of my life as well but that is not really relevant here.
Through doing all of that, I realized that it's not really so much to do with who we are, what are backgrounds are, how well we did in school (I barely graduated and almost always had some Ds and Fs) and it is so much more about our mindset. What we believe about ourselves and how we view the world controls our lives. Our outer world is basically a direct reflection... result... of our inner world.
I see so many people struggling with these things. And I always try to help them. Anyway, I have been wrestling with finding my path forward and realize a big part of it is that to get to the next level where I want to be I need to work on my mindset again.
I believe truly... we must develop our mindset FIRST... we must grow INSIDE... before we can grow on the outside. So I started doing that again in the past weeks.
And I have been trying to figure out what I want to do to build an online income. I started down the path of building niche authority sites again and found it just wasn't satisfying to me. So I have been looking into various other options. I also realized I wanted to move beyond training materials focused only on reading books, reading articles, watching videos and listening to podcasts. There is definitely a lot of value in that stuff but I think there is a a huge amount of value, a higher quality, that can only be delivered through a mentorship. So I have looked into that.
I found a couple of options. And I finally joined one last night that seems to be exactly what I am looking for.
Just a note here: I can tell you something I am sure you already know... there is a lot of junk on the Internet. It is so hard to get a real view of any program and, unfortunately, affiliate marketers are the biggest cause of this. I can't tell you how many times while researching I came across reviews where people just call everything a scam except for the program they are an affiliate of and of course always recommend their program. And having joined some of the things just to test them out that people are calling scams it really turned me off and I won't be visiting those websites any more simply because I know anything they write cannot be trusted.
Anyway, so far I like this program. Based on my own personal experience and goals it all makes a lot of sense. I like how they recognize the importance of mindset and needing to improve your mindset... build your inside... to create the foundation needed to build the outside.
Their training covers it all from personal development to online income development. And I like the way they place a lot of focus on mentors having a consultant assigned to help you as well as the person whose affiliate link I joined through seems like an awesome human being very willing to help too. And as someone who has already built multiple incomes I am sure he can provide some real value as well.
In case anyone is interested, it is called Six Figure Mentors. So I am now just at the very beginning stage of starting this and plan to focus on this in the coming weeks and months.
So... I might not be here rambling on as much as I focus on this new path. But then again I might make a blog occasionally or comments from time to time sharing light bulb moments and such in the hope it helps someone. And that is actually another thing I like about SFM is that I should be able to provide the same kind of value to help other people in their own personal development and creating online income.
I guess the main reason for me writing this is I know that many people think all of the mindset stuff is nonsense and I am telling you firsthand it absolutely is not. And if you are struggling I highly recommend you start working on your own mindset. Get into personal development. Just get some good books and get started working on yourself. Have an open mind on it instead of going into it already judging it negatively. Because if you aren't achieving the success you want it is almost certainly because you need to develop your mindset and your skills.
Invest in yourself. Build your inside and then you can build the outside. Think of it as laying a foundation. When you do this... and are ready... you will see things different and you will be much better prepared to build the outside... to design your life the way you want it to be.
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This is a great post, I am also convinced that mindset comes first, one cannot achieve business success without the right mindset. I'll be looking forward to reading some of your occasional future posts.
Lenka
Mindset is everything. It is how the universe works, simple as that. Thoughts create things! Glad to see you are now on the way to creating something great! All the best. Gail
Fantastic post--well written and full of information along with some of your personal background! Thanks for sharing!
Jeff👍