We love our parents ....
As some of us know, when our parents get to a certain age the tables turn, by this I mean we become the adults and they become more dependant on us. They now put us through the worry and sleepless nights that we gave them when we were young.
This morning we were given a phone call to say mother in law had fallen out of bed and had been taken to hospital, she now has a lovely black eye and a gash under her eye - its sad that she rolled over and fell out of bed, but she is so lucky to still have her sight. She was given all clear by hospital and husband and sister in law took her back to care home.
Well .. next we get a phone call from my sister, asking is mam with you, answer.. no! so the panic button was pressed and the tom tom drums went into action to find out if mam was out and about with one of the grandchildren.
My mam has emphysema and cancer in her eye and a few other problems. Being a retired nurse she refuses to give up her independence and bought herself a little mobility scooter, she has her mobile phone and her ipod and has been asked to ring us if she goes out.
Neighbours were telephoned to see if she was at their house, no joy. So we went to her house expecting the worst and hoping it wasn't, me near to tears and asking my husband to get me their asap.
I happy to say the outcome of this was good, she had her great grandson for the day and decided to pop out to the shop.. PHEW i gave her a cuddle and said I loved her but next time to take her phone with her. "I've only been out half an hour " she said, with a smile. I said well at least you know how quickly we're going to respond if you don't answer your phone.
I am proud she took the steps to go out on her scooter without us, but I don't think she will be doing it again anytime soon, especially with these high winds.
We love our parents x
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Im so blessed have Bouth off my parrent my fatter is start to Getting old but him and my son have a blessed relationship
I just had a 94 year old great aunt to pass. Her 92year old sister lived across the street. You have two full time jobs. Don't forget to take care of yourself, also. Enjoy that time. By the way they had a brother to live to 95. You may still have considerable time so enjoy again.
I just begun taking care of my 86 yo Dad. What a time. Lot of Health, stability, always falling being on coumdain (blood thinner) , it's not good. , So now he has better health care insurance. Meds getting chang ed for the best. Now it will be filled w PT and Dr appt. ....One Day at A Time. :)
My mom takes DATS (transportations for the disabled), every day, and I am really glad that she does. It's good for her to get out in public. She had both hips replaced, with 1 revision, so she is no longer able to take buses, but other than that, she is healthy and living on her own, with some help from me, and nursing staff.
My mom 87, mother in law 86, and father in law 89, are all completely independent, and I think they would not like me when I followed them up, they have their own lives, don't get me wrong, we visit regularly, but we don't get in any panic when they are not answering the phone. There can always happen something, to me also, and I really don't want my mom to jump in a taxi if I don't answer the phone for ones.
Hi I understand what you are saying my mam is on oxygen 24 hours a day and sometimes when she has been out she forgets to change to her house oxygen and I wouldn't want my mam to jump in a taxi to come and see me if I didn't answer the phone, but if you had gone through the scares we have - you too would worry if she didn't answer any of her phones, and I love her to have her independence, I want her to live forever but realistically that isn't going to happen. xx
Hi Judiith I understand your worries, I had to let go of them, my father just died of Alzheimer, and he did the most dreadfull things, I surely was worried, but things you can't change or have effect on, you have to set aside, I asure you, I know you want to keep your mother forever XXLoes
My mom is almost 74 and still drives out of state. She has always been independent (retired school teacher) even when my father was living. I dread the day soon. She does not like to sit.
I have my Mother - 85, My step father - 83, My Mother -in-law - 80, My step-father-in-law - 78, and my step-mother-in-law - 79. How fortunate we are to have so many Mom's & Dad's still with us ... but someone is always needing something! LOL
I feel you Cookma54. I know you are a very good and patient woman. And definitely one of kind.
We are all unique, talented individuals, beloved children of the universe, each in our own way! Some of us may be just a little more "off the wall" than others ... lol. Blessings. Melody
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Happy to hear of a good outcome, and oh yes we do love our parents ! Both of mine are gone now, but I think of them often and miss them dearly.