The Love We’re Living

In a previous reflection, we acknowledged something honest , that what we often call love is sometimes affection, excitement, chemistry, preference, or comfort.

But here’s the deeper question:

What kind of love are we actually practicing?

Many of us feel deeply, care sincerely, and desire meaningful relationships, yet we were never truly taught the different kinds of love that shape our lives. Without understanding those distinctions, we can misplace expectations, overextend emotions, or misunderstand what others are offering.

Love is not one-dimensional.

There is philia — friendship love. Loyal and mutual. Built on shared values and trust. This is the love that stands beside you.

There is eros — romantic love. Passionate and emotionally magnetic. This is the love that draws you in.

There is storge — familial love. Protective, familiar, and often quiet but deeply rooted.

And then there is agape — selfless, sacrificial love. The kind that chooses commitment over convenience. The kind that gives without keeping score.

Each form of love serves a purpose.

Confusion begins when we expect one type to function like another.

We expect friendship to carry romantic intensity.
We expect romantic feelings to guarantee lifelong commitment.
We expect comfort to equal covenant.

And when the “recipe” feels off, we blame love instead of examining the ingredients.

Love is not failing us.
We are often misapplying it.

Understanding the types of love brings clarity.
It protects relationships.
It aligns expectations.
It strengthens how we live.

Because love is not just something we experience, it is something we steward.

When we learn the language of love, we stop misusing it, and start honoring it.

If this stirred something in you, take a moment to reflect:

Which kind of love am I offering , and which kind am I expecting?

Share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s grow not just in loving deeply, but in loving wisely.