About J-KWest
Joined October 2016
Update: June 4, 2019
It’s been a couple years since I updated my profile, so here goes :-)

There are a couple critical moments that brought me to Wealthy Affiliate… the first was in 2015 when I was packing for another 10-day shift (in what we Canadians fondly refer to as the “oil patch”).

My youngest daughter asked me, “Daddy, are you going home to tomorrow?”

Home???

I was home, or at least I thought I was.

It hit me like a ton of bricks. To a 5-year-old who rarely saw me, I was a just visitor who stopped in to visit for few days every couple of weeks.

Talk about a transformational moment…

To her, my home was somewhere else and in a way, she was right. I knew then and there something had to change. I mean… I always knew it, but that’s when I “really” knew it.

Me being away was all she knew though. My other daughter was old enough to remember when I did not work out of town. For her it was lot more difficult and I regret not being more aware of that.

And of course, my incredible wife was for the most part, raising our girls on her own. Besides the every day stuff, there were birthdays, holidays, swimming, dance and taekwondo lessons...

You may have had a similar experience. When you knew the path your were going down had to change.

I knew I wanted to do something online, but I had no idea where to begin. And I’m sure you know what I’m talking about when I say everything seemed so “shady” online. I checked out a few things, but in the end, decided to just figure it out on my own (aka... without risking my money).

I built my first website that summer with no idea what I was doing or how this “online thing” would eventually change my life. But it did…

That first website went nowhere and I eventually shut it down, but my feet were finally wet and I was learning.

To make a long story short, I found Wealthy Affiliate a year-and-a-half later on Google while trying to find a way make money with this new skill I had acquired.

Of course, I also found a ton more of the shady “make-money-online” schemes and I must admit… I was certain Wealthy Affiliate was just another one. In some ways I remember it like it was yesterday… the hope and excitement but also thinking it was a scam.

What I can’t remember though, are the reasons I decided to upgrade. I’m sure having access to Kyle was a big part of it. It might have been the first month deal but the more I think about it, maybe not... (if you’ve heard the “Alberta oil-patch” rumours of us throwing money (or patch-cash) at stupid things… they are mostly true).

Not that twenty bucks was a lot of money or that Wealthy Affiliate was a stupid thing to throw money at, but I didn’t really know what Wealthy Affiliate was at the time. I half-expected to see my 20 bucks disappear and a clown face pop up on the screen saying “Got You Sucker” :-D

It’s funny when I think about it now and I feel a little stupid that I thought that way, but it’s “making money on the internet”… how can you not be skeptical, right?

What’s even crazier though (and I don't think I’ve ever written about this before), is that I was mentally prepared to spend (or risk) 10K on a way to make money online.

That's where I was the day I sat down to seriously figure this out.

I had hit a serious wall. I hated what I was doing (and what it was doing to my family). I was burned out, depressed and I felt trapped. The program that caught my attention was called the Six-Figure Mentors (I’ve reviewed the Six-Figure Mentors since then and even with my 10K, I would have been another 10K to 20K short).

By comparison it seemed pretty stupid not to give Wealthy Affiliate a shot.

Anyway… here I am, 2 ½ years later.

There were times I wasn’t even sure this was something I wanted to do, which also seems pretty stupid when I look back on it, because I’m WAY happier doing what I do now. It’s not even in the same universe.

Of course, like just about everyone here I can’t count how many times I wondered in the beginning if this thing would even work.

And it’s been been an absolutely crazy journey. Ups and downs, a few wins and countless losses. There were tears along the way and people wondering when I was going to smarten up and quit!

At one point I got WAY off track for the better part of a year and spent a mountain of money on shiny objects, but I’m still here and as crazy as it is, this is now my full-time gig. There's still a long way to go before I reach my goals… but I’m no longer living up north in camps being a Dad by phone.

My next goal is to move my family back home (Vanvouver BC area) and for the first time in many years, it’s a real discussion.

[Update: On June 1st, 2020 we finally realized this goal. My family and I are now happily living in the Greater Vancouver area. I'm not a fan of talking about money specifics (as I've mentioned in some other posts)... but for perspective and insight into what an online business can do for you, the cost of our move was in the low five-figures and I was able to pay for it with cash (well, e-transfer... lol). I didn't put it on a credit card and other than the higher cost of living here... it's not something I'll have to spend the next few years paying back.]

If you’re new to Wealthy Affiliate and reading this, I also want to be clear that earning enough to no longer have a boss did NOT happen overnight.

And, although I can afford to not have a “job” and we can easily get away for a few weeks if we choose… I haven’t made enough to put us in a position that guarantees I’ll never have to work a regular job again.

In fact, to make sure we have a little cushion (and to save $$$ for our move back to BC) I’m currently doing about 10 Uber rides from the airport each week (yes… I said Uber).

The airport rides are great for me because I have to sit around for a couple hours to get a ride anyway. Instead of sitting at home or in a coffee shop, I use that time to work online.

Plus… my main site is all about doing side-gigs and having multiple sources of income, so this way I can practice what I preach :-)

[Update: Shortly after updating my bio here my online income grew enough that it no longer made sense to drive for Uber. A few hours online became far more valuable than a few hours driving... although I sometimes miss the driving 😀.]

My point is this though…

… for those just joining, please don’t think this a way to get-rich-quick. I know most of you don’t expect it to be, but I also think there’s a tiny part of us that secretly hopes it’s possible.

When I joined, I thought there was an outside chance I’d be able to quit my job within a few months if I just worked at it harder than anyone has ever worked at it. Nope.

I made a few bucks in my 3rd month but not enough to retire. It was more like a coffee and a muffin at Starbucks.

I’m not saying you won’t retire within a few months, but I also haven’t met anyone who’s done it that fast.

Another question you might have (and you’ll see it asked here by others over and over) is this…

“Does Wealthy Affiliate work?”

My new answer to that question is to ask another question…

“Does the gym work?”

Of course Wealthy Affiliate works. But like a gym, you get out what you put in. If you buy a gym membership and stop in for a few random workouts 3 or 4 times a month… you’re probably not going to see results.

If you hit it hard for a month or two and quit you're probably not going have a body like the guy or girl on Instagram you admire.

Wealthy Affiliate works like that.

This is a full-time income from home we’re talking about here and that’s a huge deal. The words “it’s worth it” don’t even come close to how crazy it feels to take a day off whenever you want. Take two or three… a week if you want.

It’s Monday tomorrow? Who cares…

Of course, you need to keep your foot on the gas but it’s funny in retrospect. There was a time when I’d wake up hours before I had to be at my "job" and think…

“Ugh, I have to write another blog post”.

Now I wake up and think, “I GET TO write a blog post”.

I could be working up north on someone else’s schedule, away from my family in minus 30 (or colder) weather, twisted like a pretzel 80 feet in the air, but instead…

I GET TO write a blog post.

People spend tens (even hundreds) of thousands of dollars to start a business or go to school. And it takes them years to reach the level of success they aim for. If you’re a business owner or post-secondary graduate you know what I mean.

When I became an electrician, it was nearly 6000 hours of on the job training and 36 weeks of full-time school broken up over 4 years.

I don’t regret it for a second but just to compare… I’ve been at Wealthy Affiliate for just 2 ½ years.

Anyway… I didn’t expect my bio/profile to turn into an entire blog post (sorry)… but I’ll finish by saying this…

If you approach Wealthy Affiliate in the same way a business owner would approach their business or University student would approach their studies… it’s absolutely crazy what you can accomplish here.

Thanks for reading :-)
Jay
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NWTDennis Premium
Hello Jay ... thank you for the follow. Wow ... your profile update is quite inspiring. And yes ... kinda reads like a blog post, but thank you for sharing.

I don't think I've seen you in the Vegas photos from the SACs, so I suspect the 'quit your job income stream' you have developed is from niche site success.

Actually, when I think about it, a couple hundred WA premium referrals a year may not get you to Vegas, but it's a nice income stream.

I'll bet you can't wait to return to BC, home for Kyle, Carson and Jay. It's beautiful up there. My wife an I took a vacation to Vancouver a few years ago. Gosh it's so beautiful there and a side trip to Whistler was such fun.

Warm regards.
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J-KWest Premium Plus
Hey Dennis, thanks for the kind words :-) I haven't had the pleasure of making it to Vegas yet although I'd love to. At my current pace it'll be a nail-biter this year though...

Having said that I try to set "task-goals" for myself rather than "results-goals" because I can't control results. I know what I want to achieve and I might call them goals in name (like getting my family back to BC), but I can't use results to directly measure and improve what I'd consider to be success or failure if you know what I mean.

I can measure and improve my work ethic and processes though. I can set a new skill I want to learn as a goal for example...

As far as income, WA currently makes up about 25% of my income depending on the month. I promote some other products as well and also earn money through ads and CPA offers.

I see you're in Northern California, not a bad place to live either :-) I've been down into Oregon but haven't quite reached California yet. It's definitely on my to-do list though.

Vancouver is amazing and my wife and are from that area but with the cost of living there now it doesn't make a lot of sense for us head there right now. We're planning to move to the Island where it's a little more affordable... about an hour and half north of where Kyle, Carson and Jay live actually. I went to school on the Island and we have friends and family there so it's kind of our second home.

Hopefully next summer we can pull it off... but I can't count on the results, LOL. I can only focus on the tasks required to make it happen and hope the results take care of themselves :-)

Thanks again for your kind words and I look forward to following your success.

Jay
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NWTDennis Premium
I like your thinking on Task Goals versus Results Goals. It's like you focus on being productive and measure the results. Sort of a Productivity Plan.

California has changed a lot as a result of the Global Warming issue, but I wont go there. It's getting too close to one of Kyle's NO NOs. But if you love wine, you'll love a visit to our Sonoma/Napa valley region.
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I posted this request for advise somewhere in here yesterday, but for the life of me can't find it. So, here we go again. I like WA and all it offers. It's a fit for me.
I have two current sites up and running...drbobdurham.com and testprepstudyguides. I've never made a dime off either.
drbobdurham.com lists my 3 books with Amazon, has a new blog, and other tabs. It was created by me using WIX. I own the domain name.
testprepstudyguides.com is a conglomerate of sites with tests for people seeking different careers. Seemed like a good idea...and still does - but somehow I've done that wrong. This site was also created by me with WIX. I own the domain name.
I also own other domain names I haven't published sites with yet.
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I want to keep the same name and domain drbobdurham.com. and the email. drbob@drbobdurham.com
I like the way this site looks - pictures etc.
I want to keep, if possible - unless you suggest changing the name, testprepstudyguides.com (seems like a good name for a site). All these affiliates are with clickbank.
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So why not leave them there and move on to WA?
First it doesn't take much to confuse me and while right now I may be able to switch, in the future this may become a serious problem.
If you look at the blog on drbobdurham.com you will see three questions: who are you, why are you here and what are you going to do about it. Under, what are you going to do about it, I'm wondering if that should wind up being a resource page for differient opportunities like, WA(this would be a wonderful suggestion to those wondering) and the affiliates I have already on testprepstudyguides.com - or each affiliate on that page a separate website.
The domains I secured through the WIX site builder; drbobdurham.com - testprepstudyguides.com and others owned but not yet used.
Seems to me if everything was moved over to WA it would be easier now and in the future...and besides, I need it.
I can't continue building out my first website here, because all my stuff is over at WIX.
How do I get it all over here....beyond my expertise.
Seems to me if everything was moved over to WA it would be easier now and in the future...and besides, I need it.
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I planned on marketing WA as one of, or the main suggestion, for those trying to answer the questions, "what am I going to do about it," on the resource page under drbobdurham.com or separate site, or addition to
testprepstudyguides.com
I'm not sure if I should take the boot-camp rout first or stay in the original and come back to bootcamp.
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I sent you a DM for this one :-)
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Shellback Premium
Just stopped by to introduce myself. Wow! I am truly inspired by your Bio. Yours is the most interesting I've read...by far. The way you illustrated the mental process you underwent to journey from where you were, to where you are now....is indescribable! I feel an immediate kinship with you.
I guess most of us here in the WA community can identify with each other precisely because we are here now.
I am 64 yrs old and approaching a retirement I am not ready for mentally or financially! I KNOW what I've got in my hands...I regret not finding this a decade ago.
At any rate, following you now, perhaps you will include me...
Regards,
Billy
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Thanks for the kind words :-) I think 80% or maybe more of what we do here is really a mental battle. In a lot cases of we have to rewrite the "scripts" or programs in our heads that have kept us from achieving what we've wanted before.

And I think it's true for all of us...

It's like you said... we identify with each other because we are here. If we were already where we wanted to be before finding Wealthy Affiliate, we probably wouldn't have been looking for it (or a similar opportunity) in the first place. So I think the vast majority of us begin with these mental barriers that have held us back before and dealing with those takes time.

That's the hurdle most of us struggle with to overcome. The actual actions we need to take here are pretty simple. Once you learn them it's just a matter of rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat, and so on...

But we get in our own way. Self-doubt, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of repeating past failures, procrastination, uncertainty, feeling undeserving...

I've experienced all of those and they still nag at me today even though I'm doing this full-time now. The trick is to just keep going forward whether you feel like it or not :-)

Thanks again for reading my entire profile/blog post. Following you back and glad to join your network.

Jay
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MDehaan1 Premium
Hello J-K, I am just joining Wealthy Affiliate and am excited to on this journey!! I know it will be some long hours and hard work at first but worth it in the future!! I loved reading your post about how your journey started out with Wealthy Affiliate--it shows that with the right mind set determination anyone can Fire The Boss!!
I look forward to speaking with you in the near future.
Mary Ellen
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J-KWest Premium Plus
Hi Mary Ellen, thanks for reading my long post :-)

Glad to meet you and look forward to speaking with you as well. The journey can be long yes, but I do believe it's not only possible for anyone who wants it, but a lot of fun too if it's approached in the right way.

My hypothesis on this is that we're conditioned for quick results. When we go to a "job" they show us what to do, maybe it takes a couple days training, and then we do it. At the end of the week or two weeks... we get paid.

A lot of us (myself included when I started out) approach this the same way. Just show me how to do it and I'll do it. So we do it, and while we know on a logical level that there's no paycheck coming at the end of the week... there's a hint of emptiness when that time comes.

It's like getting in the habit of having dessert with every dinner, lol. And then one night you finish dinner and go to the fridge or cupboard and there's nothing sweet in the house. You know it's not the end of the world, but it can sure feel like it.

Anyway, before I write another blog post...

It sound's like you have the right mindset already though :-)

Talk again soon,
Jay
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Hey J-K
I really enjoyed reading your candid blog post above. I've known for years there's no such thing and getting rich overnight.....I do know that it takes not just hard work, but working smartly. I'm just at the beginning of my journey, but hopefully, once I learn the ropes, I'll get to where I'd like to be. I'd better hurry....I'm 58 and sooo ready to launch into things in the online world. Just thought I'd mention that your honest post hit me right in the heart.....I too have fallen for soooo many get rich quick schemes....I've lost count. Time to do things smartly!!
Cheers
Andreas
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J-KWest Premium Plus
You're absolutely right about working smart, not necessarily hard... but I still haven't perfected that either, lol. A lot of times we think we're working smart but we're really just spinning our wheels, and we don't know that we're spinning our wheels until we spend enough time doing it to realize for ourselves that it's not the right thing to be doing.

I think this is the beauty of the things we accomplish in life though. It's what gives us wisdom, experience and a deeper knowledge of things that only come with actually doing it.

So glad you're here and like you say, ready to launch into the online world. Please reach out when you need help (that was definitely one of those mistakes I made along the way, not asking for help at key moments).

Also, thanks for reading my "blog post" as well and for your kind words :-)

Jay
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