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Joined December 2016
I am new to all this website building. I served 15 years with the 1st Infantry Division and was in combat in Iraq.

June 27, 2016
With a country so open to changes, one issue is still being spread around in the media and social circles. I face the issues every day of my life, that I’m weird, unstable, and so many other phobias’. My childhood was very stressful. I have been a part of discrimination, violence, public accommodations, discriminated by family and friends. I believe that I should not have to face discrimination in any form. I don’t want anyone to get the wrong impression. I am a Christian and believe the bible 100%. With that said let’s read my thoughts. Religion is the cause of most hate and discrimination. Myself I have tried to commit suicide many times. Being transgender means that I was born male, which was completely the opposite to what I believed, I believed I should have been born a female. An example would be I dress as a female and live full time as Heather, (female). Most people fear what they don’t understand. Being on your own with no one to help you makes it very hard.
Additionally, media and social circles do damage to transgender individuals. A big part of the media has used the religious aspect of making me out to be a freak, I assault children in the washroom, and I'm a spawn of Satan. Right now many states are passing bills to limit what washrooms I can use. The fact is I committed no crime using the washroom. (Bryann Tannehill 2015) wrote in the Huffington Post, that said,” The Actual Numbers Make It Clear, (Luke Malone, 2015), Why Anecdotes are just Anecdotes When looking at this statistically, it is pretty easy to understand why this is true statistically. Over the 35-year history of NDOs protecting transgender people all over the world, only one case of a person abusing an NDO and committing sexual assault, (in Canada), has ever been found, even by those most interested in demonizing transgender people.” (P4) Question; Do you think it is safe for transgender individuals to use the washroom that fits their gender identity?[G1] [G2]
Further more[G3] my childhood and early adulthood was not a good time. My family, (father, mother, and three brothers), could not accept the fact I was acting more girl than a [G4] boy. When I would try to play with Barbie’s, little teapots, fairy wands, and anything else little girls played with, they would tease me and take anything away that was for girls. They always replaced them with boy toys. In my mind looking back, religion had a lot to do with how they perceived the gender roles. At such an early age of 5. I knew something wasn’t right. I always felt like playing with girl toys, and I was born a male. I started hanging around boys and never played with girl toys. I had to stop acting like a girl, which hurt me very deeply, but what choice did I have?
There is also the fact, I have many friends who beat up, murdered, or denied access to public accommodations. I faced the bathroom issue. I was hit by women and men because I used the women’s restroom. I have been spit on to name a few things. I have been to many trans days of remembrances, there they read all the names from that year of sisters and brothers that are transgender and had lost their lives. It was very emotional for us all that were there.[G5]
Furthermore, I know that religion plays a very big cause for the discrimination. I have had many friends that have said what I was doing was against God. I was born male and should remain male. My answer to this is; there are a lot of people born with something wrong with them and had surgery or counseling to fix themselves. So using their terminology if they have surgery to correct what is wrong with them. Then why would it be any different for me, being transgender is no different. Right now many states are passing bills to limit what washrooms I can use.
I have tried to commit suicide many times myself because I couldn’t handle the pressure of being alone. No family or friends. I have lost so much being me. Suicide rates are very high for transgender male and females. (Luke Malone, March 2015), “Ash Haffner died in North Carolina last Thursday—another transgender teen lost to suicide. His mother says the 16-year-old had encountered bullying, which worsened when he began to transition publicly. "Ash had been so strong for years," she said, using the female pronoun. “Ash started enduring the most bullying when she cut her hair short Haffner’s death follows that of Leelah Alcorn, the 17-year-old transgender high schooler from Ohio, whose suicide attracted international attention last December and ignited a broader debate about early transition and conversion therapy. But perhaps most troubling about the deaths of these two young people is that they’re part of a broader trend in the U.S., which sees a disproportionate number of transgender and gender non-conforming teens and adults attempting suicide. The most recent, comprehensive data on suicide attempts was gathered by The Williams Institute, in collaboration with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Its report, Suicide Attempts Among Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Adults, analyzed responses from 6,456 self-identified transgender and gender non-conforming adults (18+) who took part in the U.S. National Transgender Discrimination Survey. The results are staggering. Beyond the overall number of suicide attempts, the rates are consistently high from respondents ages 18 to 65, when they begin to recede. Trans men are the most impacted, with 46 percent reporting an attempt in their lifetime. Trans women are close behind at 42 percent, and female-assigned cross-dressers report rates of 44 percent).”
Additionally, I am on my own. The family and friends I once had are all but a few disowning me because I'm transgender. I have been beaten up by my family and friends to many times. When I needed them the most they weren't there for me. I was on my own except for a few friends. My roommate is female and she is the most precious thing to me in the world. Without her, I would be lost and not have many reasons to go on. She is my rock, and I love her.

Let me introduce my daughter, she is 23 and has always been there for me and she is very dear to my heart. (Lee Ann, 2016),“Growing up my mom taught me to love everyone. Judging people was something she never wanted me to do. Love thy neighbor as thyself. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. Never in a million years did my mom think I would actually be as excepting as I am today. When I found out my dad was transgendered, I was very shocked. But I knew there was nothing in this world that could ever make me want to stop loving my dad. All I was afraid of is everyone else in his life. Would they accept him? It doesn't matter, though, it's not [G6] their body. It doesn’t hurt anyone. What matters is his happiness. She will always be my dad. I will never stop loving her.” [G7]

As you can see the issues I face every day are hard to comprehend. (media, childhood, family, religion, and suicide.) There are good points to each side. Put yourself in my spot, do you think I should have to put up with discrimination, the media, religion, no support from family or friends. Not to mention, should family try to influence child development from one gender or the other? All crimes committed washrooms are committed by non-transgender individuals. Most crimes committed against transgender Americans do not get prosecuted as hate crimes, which have mandatory minimum sentences. Ask yourself this question, if your brother, sister, husband, wife, and told you they were transgender what would be your reaction? (Nicole Russell, 2015), her article said, “The Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the ESPY’s, Bruce Jenner used his experience to discuss the next generation of transgenders", (Nicole Russel 2015) “trans people deserve something vital; They deserve your respect. If You want to call me names, make jokes, doubt my intentions, go ahead, because the reality is I can take it, but for the thousands of kids out there, coming to terms with being true to who they are, they shouldn’t have to take it”

There is a saying, (I was US Army for 15 years), that says that I fought for your right to ______ me.

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:) Heather
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EricWogbe77 Premium
Hi Heather thank you for sharing your awesome story of survival and strength. I know the LORD has great things in store for all his Creations and you are not out of his loving reach for he knows his thoughts for all of us and it is GOOD... You my dear are an inspiration for all others, keep blazing forward.

I will see you succeed and I want to be there at the top with you and everyone on WA.

Go be great.
Cheers.
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DoYourBest Premium
Thanks for the follow - Life is so interesting- for some so challenging - I don't pretend to know or understand all that goes on in peoples lives, minds and hearts - that one day we will live in great peace and joy - not only because of what we choose to do with our lives but because - we all can grow and improve on being better - to one another - in greater love and unity - My hope is that I with many others will be able to come back during the second coming and find - that peace and joy we missed in our current lives - and therefore work together in great love an unity - to that end - may we all find great peace and joy in this life. Best of success in WA - you are so right we often leave alone those things we don't understand - but no one should be treated any better or worse than any one else - unless those individual by their choices have chose to be destructive to others! Than they have to be controlled for the safety of mankind - so I don't support - those actions which - demean or belittle or abuse others in any way - we all can choose to be better than that - will we - that remains to be seen - Love one another as I have loved you are still the most powerful words of all holy writ and if we use them - like we are supposed to - this world would be a very very great place to live - to that end may we dedicate our lives - to being our best - in every way - in every situation - good day - Roger Lee Martin
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Hi Heather, Thaks for the follow and i am following you back. Thanks for your service. My heart goes out to you. I could feel the pain when reading your profile.

I was raised as you were. Don't judge and all that. You are who you are and the way i see it, family is family no matter the situation and you are suppose to support. Sorry to hear all of the issues you have had to deal with.

My thing on the bathroom is, I don't want guys that may have been a child molester to be around little girls, but having said that, they have also molested little boys and they go in the bathroom with them. An adult should be with a little child that is in a public bathroom anyway.

Now there are lots of transgenders out there that uses public bathrooms and nobody has any idea that they are.

I know it's easy for me to say, but from here on out try to brush it off. The person talking about you, in reality has skeletons in their closet. They ain't no one perfect.

So enough of that. lol only good stuff from here. Right!? I hope things are going well for you here at WA. I hope you understood what i was trying to say. It was not nothing bad on your end.

Stay in touch. I will talk to you and treat you with respect as the person you are today. There are non blood families.

Take care Michelle
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loriC1 Premium
Hello Heather, thank you for the follow. I was taught at a young age not to judge others by any kind of discrimination, what matters is what is on the inside. I might not know much about WA, but I do know a lot about how to listen. Have a wonderful evening.
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ChrisScott Premium
Welcome aboard. I don't feel grown men should be in the bathroom with little girls but such is the world I suppose. Just my opinion, please don't attack me.
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HCM Premium
Chris,
I respect your views. But just keep in mind, I said the discussion was on my site and not to be discussed here. What I choose to put on my site is up to me and no one else. If you wish to discuss this further go to my website and we can there. As a service member, I fought for your right to feel that way. We as Americans cannot pick and choose what we want to follow in the constitution. I don't believe anyone should be attacked for what they believe. I won't discuss religion here because like you said it's not allowed. So thank you for breaking that rule. You make us all proud. Oh and If I choose to share my faith with someone else that is none of your business. I do what I am taught just like I suppose you are doing what you were taught. But like the person I am, I forgive you for you know not what you do. Good Bye and thank you for your comment.

:) Heather
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ChrisScott Premium
All I did was express an opinion. You are rather aggressive don't you think, sweetheart?.

How did that break a religious rule. What are you talking about?

PS. Thank you for your service....Jez!!
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barbaraA Premium
Hi Heather, Welcome to the W A family. Thanks for your military service.
The statistics are indeed sad. Everything is so hard when you are young and trying to figure it all out and someone says or does something to hurt you.
I'm glad you are here at W A. Consider me on your friend list if you need to talk.
Barbara
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HCM Premium
Barbra than you so much for your kind words.

I wish more people were accepting as you.

God Bless
:) Heather
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HCM Premium
Infuse your life with action. Don't wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen... yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.
http://quotesgram.com/cherokee-quotes-on-life/
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Hi there Heather, welcome with open arms to WA. Unfortunately, there is still such a divide with so many issues in our world and it is sad. We should love one another no matter what.

I wish you the very best, and if I can ever help you with any questions, please feel free to reach out!

Many blessings, and much success here at WA. there is a whole world here at WA. many good people here so reach out and enjoy meeting people here, and asking any questions to help you succeed here.
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HCM Premium
Sylvia,
Thank you so much for those kind words.

:) Heather
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Marcel92 Premium
Hello Heather and welcome to our Wealthy Affiliate community.
You are in good hands here with all kinds of training and people always ready to help out with your online journey.

Thank you for following.

Wishing you the very best with your online journey.


My profile page - https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/marcel92

>>>> A simple act of caring creates an endless ripple that comes back to you..



Marcel...
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HCM Premium
Marcel, thank you.
If you need anything, let me know.
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immistermike Premium
Thanks for the follow, Heather and most of all, thank you for your service! I think that everything you wrote about can be summed up in your final sentence: I fought for your right to hate me. Of course, it would be preferable to be able to use "love" instead of hate so it's not hard to change that to: "I fought for your right to _______." And the reader fills in the blank.

If we take that and change it around to the following and fill in the blank:

I would like to help someone by _______________.

Now you have the beginnings of a niche taking place.

Wish you the best of success!
Mike
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HCM Premium
Very great way of putting it.

Thank You
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immistermike Premium
You're welcome!
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SamiWilliams Premium
Finding our place in this world is always difficult. More so for some than others. Hopefully, your journey into building your business will offer some paths that are not available in the traditional world. To love and help our fellow man is our duty and our calling as well.

Thank you for adding me to your network. Will watch for you along the way.
Sami
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Loes Premium
Hello Heather,♫Welcome! Nice to meet you ツ I wish you a lot of learning pleasure and fun on WA. Thank you for adding me to your network.

From the start, I have written training for every issue I had problems with myself. I made an addition for After The Walkthrough. Also a list of 1001 niche ideas, a checklist with 25 points to go through before you publish a post, 101 blogging ideas when you get stuck and an A-Z WA dictionary. I just love lists:) It has been very helpful to a lot of people. I have listed them in one blog you can find on my profile. It's the first website link right under “Follow me on” (click on my picture to get there). I hope to help you with those.

If you have any questions, please reply to this message or leave a comment on my profile.
Success building your business in 2017. See you around, Greetings Loes
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Loes,
Thank you and I will be checking the training you have out.

:) Heather
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Norselark Premium
What fascinates me the most with WA is getting to know people from all walks of life, with all kinds of experience - and wisdom, too. Reading the profiles and sites of the people here is something I really enjoy, learning, being inspired. There is more to absorb in this community than I would ever have imagined, having been quite a bit around from early on. This place is Quality.

My perspectives at WA are long-term, one step at a time, continuing earlier 'Net activities, knowing more or less what I'm going to do. The sincerity and diverse abundance is what made me decide to join for real. At WA are troves, yielding new ways - knowledge and insight - only Time is in short supply...

Thank you for inviting me to follow, Heather!
Let's talk more later. All the best to you!
Jan P. :)
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HCM Premium
thank you for the kind words and I look forward to it also,

:) Heather
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Lady May Premium
Hey thx for following me it's an honor! I'm sure you'll do really well at WA! Here is one of my blog articles to help you move forward I hope we can continue to connect and share ideas with each other in the future. Sharon :)
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Lady Mary,
Thank you. The one thing I need to really understand is Google analytics.

Thank You
:) Heather
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Gwen2 Premium
Hello and thanks for following me, i will do likewise. Thank you for serving our country so valiantly. I am a Christian and my sister related to me, that she had seen a video that was just precious. It was of a 2 or 3 yr old. little girl. When asked by her Mom who is God, she replied very quickly LOVE... Momma, God is Love. Can you believe that a child that small has the insight that many grown adults do not? She is right God is Love, and God loves you!!
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P.S. Great luck with your all your endeavors!!
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HCM Premium
Gwen,
I read in the Bible that we must become like children when we are saved. Such a pure thought from such a little child. I saw that video also. There is no doubt that God loves me, He sent his only son to die for my sins and everyone else's sins. God Bless and thank you.

:) Heather
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Gwen2 Premium
Yes no doubt. Yes he did and you are so right!! Thank you also and may God bless you more than you can think, dream, or imagine!
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MartinRay Premium
Hi HCM- Thanks for following me. God taught us to love. We are born a free will person. Choices you make are your choices. As long as we do not hurt or threaten other freedoms it is okay. You have to live with your decisions. I am not your Judge but God is. My job is to respect and love people, do what is right, and get along with all without doing wrong actions. We all are victims of political and religious decisions. Some are right and some are wrong. Thanks for serving our great nation. I am a veteran of the US Marine Corps and honor all who are serving and have served. We are overcomers when we put forth the effort. I will need help and will help others as I learn more. Have a great week and congrats on your accomplishments.
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HCM Premium
Martin Thank you. My thoughts exactly.

:) Heather
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MsMerry Premium
Hi Heather and thank you for following me. Your profile is very interesting and informative. I believe from the heart and that it is the same for gay, transgender and anything else. I wish you continued success here and I think you have a built in niche that is needed. All the best to you,
Merry
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Ms Merry,
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I have found a great family here at WA. Yes this niche is very much needed.

:) Heather
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DShensky Premium
thanks for following me---don't know what your niche is it's obvious what it should be---educating people about transgender issues---just like mine is employment issues for people with disabilities, but I have to look at who can pay my fees and it's not thje disability community because they don't have the disposable income

believe me I know what it is to be discriminated against both because of my disability and religious beliefs---I'm just glad I was raised in the Jewish faith because that's the difference between me having an education and employment opportunities
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HCM Premium
Thank You,
Here in the near future, I will be adding products tothe site for the LGBTQ community.

:) Heather
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GrahamHod Premium
Hi Heather really nice to meet you and you have definitely joined the best community in the world. Everyone is here to help each other and continue to do every day.
Thanks for sharing I am sorry to hear what you have experienced I wish you all the success for you and if you ever need anything just ask :)
Graham
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HCM Premium
Graham,
Thank you for your kind words. About the only thing I really have to learn is how to put a product in to woocommerce using csv and api. Is there a plugin for both??

Thank You
:) Heather
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Gerlinde Premium
Hi Heather!
It's a pleasure to meet you! Thanks for the follow...

I hope we all are finding better days on this earth... life is not easy and we are here for a certain purpose, which is not always easy to find out... I'm getting answers but many questions are still unanswered for me! :)

Wishing you all the best!
Gerlinde
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Gerlinde,
Always a pleasure and happy to meet you. Why we are here is a big mystery and one we may never really understand. I think we were guided to certain paths. Just be rest assured that God's love for us is everlasting and pure. A love we can really not fathom. Our love and understanding fail at times, but His love will never fail.

I'm always around and if you need anything, let me know.

:) Heather
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Gerlinde Premium
Thank you for your kind words and for offering your help, Heather! Appreciate it!

Have a great weekend! :)
Gerlinde
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angieina Premium
Hi Heather, You have obviously had a very rocky path through your life ,but now be sure that you are in a community that will not `judge` or descriminate` against you, they will do their utmost to help,when you need it and just concentrate on perseverance to make a success of WA.
Remember there are hundreds to help and be friends with here.
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angieina,
Thank you so much. That means a lot.

:) Heather
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BManor Premium
Thank you for the follow, Following back. I was in the Army also but received a medical discharge. You will do awesome in this business. A big part of ranking in google is content of your website and after reading your bio, you are an excellent writer. You will have no problems writing content. Best of luck to you.
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HCM Premium
Thank you so much.

:) Heather
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Compsol99 Premium
Hi!
Thank you very much for following me and welcome to the WA community! Be sure to follow all the training that is available on this site and don't be afraid to ask questions. The people in the WA community, myself included, are happy to help you. Best of luck to you in your endeavors.
Regards,
Shawn - Yearly Premium Member

P.S. Please check out my websites on my profile page to get an idea of what the Wealthy Affiliate training can do for you. Any feedback or comments would be greatly appreciated.
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HCM Premium
thanks so much.

:) Heather
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Compsol99 Premium
My pleasure Heather!
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JanSwe Premium
Hi Naomi and thanks for the follow!

There's a lot of interesting thing to learn here at WA as a "newbie" so and I wish you all the best!

I also like to add that the world should be thankful to have a army that has helped with world conflicts since the world war 2.

Welcome to connect more with me if you would like to share or discuss anything.

Regards, Jan
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Robert-A Premium
Hello Naomi and welcome to Wealthy Affiliate.
Since you joined you will no doubt have come to realise that internet marketing can be a steep learning curve.
If you do get stuck then can I suggest you browse some of the 280+ blogs I have published within WA.

You have decided to follow me so thank you for the follow and I will follow you as well.
Enjoy your day.
Robert Allan
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despatis Premium
Dear Naomi, welcome to our WA community, you're on the right place to start an online business! Thanks for sharing and for adding me to your WA network, most appreciated. Success with your course, keep on track and let's stay in touch.

Desmond
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JasonHeard Premium
I hope things are going well. I know you are getting rolling within the training and there is ONE thing that always tends to confuse people and that is "what is my niche?".

I know, same thing happened to me when I started.

I just wanted to reach out and let you know that I am here if you ever want to run any niche "ideas" by me or you have any questions about finding your niche.

Get back to me when you get the chance! :)
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