Anticipations That Disappoint
Anticipations That Disappoint
We get disappointed in ourselves, in others & in outcomes.
The question is: Why?
Disappointment is an internal feeling that does not originate from external sources.
All disappointment comes from the same source.
It is self-manufactured internally.
It’s our emotional response to an EXPECTATION.
We attach expectations to most things in life; thus, we are vulnerable to disappointment.
Positive expectations are the source of joy & happiness.
Negative expectations are the source of anxiety & unhappiness.
When positive expectations don’t come true, we experience disappointment.
When negative expectations don’t come true, we experience happiness.
Controlling disappointment requires control of expectations.
> Be very realistic with expectations.
> View life as an adventurous journey.
> Find valuable lessons in every experience.
> Learning is a result of life’s experiences.
> Appreciate all outcomes & experiences.
> Our attitude determines the value of our experiences.
Eager anticipation & enthusiasm makes for a positive life’s journey.
Do you find it difficult to maintain enjoyment while working on long term goals?
Is it difficult to stay focused on a project for long periods of time?
Thinly spread focus, interferes with long term motivation & completion of projects.
> Eliminate physical, mental, & emotional clutter.
> Have a Routine-Of-Daily-Activities (ROTA) but don’t fear something new.
> Develop a balance between things that you Need-To-Do & Want-To-Do.
> Avoid things that consume time & energy, without a payoff and that cause stress.
> Free your mind of mental stress, anxiety & worry.
> Contribute to others with generosity.
> Recognize things for which to be grateful.
> Re-evaluate your priorities & beliefs.
> Make your own choices rather than being guided by others.
> Decide what is important to you & why.
The next step is “Cognitive-Behavorial-Therapy” - CBT - (coming soon).
WALLY WIKI
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Can't live with one without the other.....but we can choose to make both a positive...Thanks for the post Wally!
I am not expecting anything from anyone, so everything they do positively is a gift, and everything they do negatively doesn't bother me.
In the first sentence of this post, I stated: "We get disappointed in ourselves, in others & in outcomes." You spoke of only one of the three. What about the other two?
When you do not expect anything, you will not be disappointed in yourself ( you rely on yourself), not in others (you do not expect anything) and not in outcomes (an outcome is either an expectation or a fact. And a fact just is), it covers, in my opinion, all three.
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Awesome Wally, thank you I am sharing this.
Have a great weekend my friend.