You Know It, When You See It


Some years ago, I did some research to try to determine what self-confidence looked like to most people. The goal was to put a "face" to it thereby making it easier for persons to identify with it and have a clearer vision of how to achieve it.

That research grew into a 2-year study and a series of training interventions. What was revealing was that over 80% of the persons interviewed, out of a pool of 2,500, said that a business suit projected the most confident "feel and look".

Actually, for the majority of the respondents, if you wore a well-fitting, dark suit and you were appropriately groomed, they would class you as being highly self-confident. This self-confidence would have a magnetic effect and cause people to gravitate towards you.

That study was done between 1997-2000.

A Lot Has Changed In 20 Years


Fast-forward to today, 2020 and, without updating that study, I can put myself out there and say that self-confidence looks very different now. Most of that change has been driven by the internet and digital business.

Some of the most successful people of our time are casual wearing, young, bright individuals who have walked away from the traditional confinement of business and redefined what self-confidence is. Many did not complete their college degree or MBA.

The stuffy, pethouse boardroom has been replaced with beachfronts, forest retreats, home-offices and sofa comfort.

Thanks to the internet, self-confidence is something that you see and feel in words, sounds and numbers - and not necessarily dollars and cents. With this new slate, the opportunity to plant a confident footing and grow into a powerhouse can emanate from anywhere you choose.



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herzao63 Premium Plus
I'm use to ask so many peoples a question about the "Top and riches peoples in the USA." Most of the peoples said that "Bill Gates" is the only one. An Old man asked me "Kid" Do you wants to be riches like Bill Gates? I said yes!

My question to "Mr. Bill Gates" Is that I only have $1,000 on me, but I really need $50K by the end of this month! What can I do to make $50K?
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countrylife Premium
Hey I'd listen to Tony Robbins and his practical approach to compound interest, it is not the How but the Why in my opinion. I am Lula by the way hope you are having a terrific day.
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
A great recommendation, Lula!

Thank you.
Cassi
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Truckinshine Premium Plus
Thank you for this training. It is very interesting. I'm so glad you are doing so well. You should be very proud of your accomplishments and for paying it forward. That's what I love most about WA so far, is the kindness. The training is also very good. God bless you!
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
You are very welcome, Trina.

I am happy to know that you found the training helpful.
May you also find success here at WA.

Cassi
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1Rudy1 Premium
Am so glad I read this. Amazing how the timing was so apropo...
I never liked doing those exercises in from of the mirror, I never liked the way I felt when having to see myself. Interesting, even now, after reading those prompts, I realized how much I was hiding from myself. There's a lot more to the reasons behind that, but suffice it to say, now I understand what I needed to do to make it this far in life.

Six years ago, I emerged my true self and have traveled quite the journey. Now its time to face the mirror and, quote, 'Make that change ("Man in the Mirror" by Michael Jackson.).

Rudy
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
Rudy, for some reason, you have brought tears to my eyes.
Your sharing is so touching and hits home.

With such honesty, you are well on your way to strengthening your self-confidence and influence others.

It is only ourselves that we have to live with to the end - like it or not.
I prefer to like it. 🙂

Thank you so very much for sharing.
Cassi
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1Rudy1 Premium
Hands you a silk hankie...
Thank you...my pleasure to share.
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DaveBuckley Premium
Hi Cassie. Self confidence is something that can be natural or be earned rather than learnt. Many of those who you have highlighted were risk takers with no real idea of what was successful they just hoped it would be. I know what my limits are and having the knowledge of my limits gives me my confidence.
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
This is a perspective that I agree with, Dave.
When we take risks and are resilient enough to manage the consequences - good or bad - that further strengthen our confidence.

Thank you so much for taking the time.
Cassi
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LatinNomad Premium
Interesting idea about confidence on line. I actually dress for work on my site! Not a tie any more but smart casual with decent shoes, it puts me into a business frame of mind to treat it seriously. Im not sure if my writing style on line subsequently appears confident but I hope so!

Have a great day!

Trevor
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
I do the exact same thing, Trevor.
Whether I am having video meetings or not.
Once I am working, I am dressed for work, thankfully without the offline suit and tie. 🤦‍♀️

Business casual is the dress code now.
Cassi
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LatinNomad Premium
Interesting. Greatt minds!
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CassiOfTroy Premium Plus
So they say. 🙂

There is a flip side to that though. 🤦‍♀️
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