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Hello everyone watching, thanks again for stopping by.
This training is a Q&A session from my Introductory Training and also provides an introduction to how homeostasis works to fix our mindsets and how we can use it to change our mindset tracks to something we want to be doing!
Engjoy and please comment below, ask questions by all means!
Marc
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LauraFuller
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Marc, thank you for addressing my question. It makes perfect sense.
I now have a better understanding of pride. Where does emotion come in?
Are we not ruled by emotions and when they arise we also have to stop and tell ego to quiet, address the emotions and move forward.
I am not sure we can have a mindset of success with emotions in the way.
There is a time for emotions. We have to appropriately choose that time.
I would imagine this is in your agenda to address.
Thank you Marc.
Laura
I now have a better understanding of pride. Where does emotion come in?
Are we not ruled by emotions and when they arise we also have to stop and tell ego to quiet, address the emotions and move forward.
I am not sure we can have a mindset of success with emotions in the way.
There is a time for emotions. We have to appropriately choose that time.
I would imagine this is in your agenda to address.
Thank you Marc.
Laura
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marchanna
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Hi Laura,
Please skip to 12:28 into the video and you can see I've written 'when someone shames us and we've a proud mindset, we feel hurt and anger.'
That's where the emotion comes in. Pride is a fixation, not an emotion.
Emotions regarding pride for oneself (not for others) come into play when someone questions the prideful actions they are proud of, or when someone doesn't acknowledge those actions as beneficial or important.
The proud person then experiences the emotion of shame or anger in relation to that situation.
No, we CANNOT use the ego to suppress what the ego is thinking!
Oddly enough, that is strengthening the ego and is part of a proud person saying to oneself, 'I shouldn't feel hurt or anger.'
Yes, that person SHOULD experience that -- because they ARE! :)
My suggestion is do not 'address' the emotions. Experience them fully until they dissipate. The ego will then be exposed as trying to cover something up. You'll find out what that is.
But it's not pleasant to go deep into those emotions and sit there and experience them. Your ego will try to rescue you. Don't let it.
You can't choose when to experience emotions and at the same time experience them fully in the NOW when they occur. You can suppress them as necessary, of course.
True --- some times are not the best to wallow in emotions that are deep and hurtful -- so yes they need to be put aside until you can fully experience them. But that still needs to happen to dissipate the false pride and find the true humility.
I hope this helps! :) Marc
Please skip to 12:28 into the video and you can see I've written 'when someone shames us and we've a proud mindset, we feel hurt and anger.'
That's where the emotion comes in. Pride is a fixation, not an emotion.
Emotions regarding pride for oneself (not for others) come into play when someone questions the prideful actions they are proud of, or when someone doesn't acknowledge those actions as beneficial or important.
The proud person then experiences the emotion of shame or anger in relation to that situation.
No, we CANNOT use the ego to suppress what the ego is thinking!
Oddly enough, that is strengthening the ego and is part of a proud person saying to oneself, 'I shouldn't feel hurt or anger.'
Yes, that person SHOULD experience that -- because they ARE! :)
My suggestion is do not 'address' the emotions. Experience them fully until they dissipate. The ego will then be exposed as trying to cover something up. You'll find out what that is.
But it's not pleasant to go deep into those emotions and sit there and experience them. Your ego will try to rescue you. Don't let it.
You can't choose when to experience emotions and at the same time experience them fully in the NOW when they occur. You can suppress them as necessary, of course.
True --- some times are not the best to wallow in emotions that are deep and hurtful -- so yes they need to be put aside until you can fully experience them. But that still needs to happen to dissipate the false pride and find the true humility.
I hope this helps! :) Marc
SaraPoyner
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You have given me a lot to go away and research further and to think about. I like your explanation of ego as a ball of wool (yarn). As an actor I see the ego as a character that forms an armour, an outside and outward image to the world. The inward ego is (some) of the emotions and voices we hear.
In a way to survive the world the ego forms a front/persona for us. However on the inside our same egos are whispering 'be the best', 'You are better than them' but then equally telling you 'You are not good enough' 'They are better than you'. The ego jumps from positive promotion, like a peacock displaying it's glorious tail, to a black bird, pecking at your confidence.
So when we are talking about Homeostasis this can affect the mind as much as it can our physical body. Within homeostasis, it is my understanding that is to aim for a relatively stable equilibrium. Like you said a little too much sugar, tips the balance and causes a physical reaction, just like a little to much alcohol can cause physical imbalance it can also tip the balance between drunken confidence, to hangover shame.
I loved what you said about sitting with the shame and negative emotions. It is often when we suppress emotions that they get buried deeper and can be called upon by the ego, when it is in it's self sabotage role. Like you say, the ego is not keen for us to look inward or sit with emotion for a while. If we did we would see that the emotion often would just float by like a cloud in the sky.
So back to success mindset. I have found that I have a success mindset about most of my life. I find my passion and then set goals and I tend to proceed with a relentless work ethic and dedication. Where I often fall short and fall out of the success mindset is the battle with ego or working relentlessly and passionately on something that actually I am not passionate about, so get bored or realise the goal doesn't really matter. My ego wants me to work tirelessly to be the best, to win the race, to be top, but my heart and soul really don't care about the end goal so give up.
My ego has done a fabulous job of keeping me believing that I should stay small, and not shine my light so brightly. I think when you reach a certain age you realise, there is so much more we were meant to be and do with this life, and start to see the ego for it's true worth. we unravel that ball and start to let the armour fall. We discover our purpose, our path and our authentic selves.
When you are heading towards your true purpose, the real success mindset kicks in, because then you will never quit, never stop until you reach it. You keep going with unwavering faith, that you will succeed you will reach that goal, regardless of what the ego or others say. Because reaching that purpose that goal, is far too important to fail.
Sorry I have rambled, and written a whole essay.
Thank you for this wonderful training, I look forward to the next
Much Love
Sara
In a way to survive the world the ego forms a front/persona for us. However on the inside our same egos are whispering 'be the best', 'You are better than them' but then equally telling you 'You are not good enough' 'They are better than you'. The ego jumps from positive promotion, like a peacock displaying it's glorious tail, to a black bird, pecking at your confidence.
So when we are talking about Homeostasis this can affect the mind as much as it can our physical body. Within homeostasis, it is my understanding that is to aim for a relatively stable equilibrium. Like you said a little too much sugar, tips the balance and causes a physical reaction, just like a little to much alcohol can cause physical imbalance it can also tip the balance between drunken confidence, to hangover shame.
I loved what you said about sitting with the shame and negative emotions. It is often when we suppress emotions that they get buried deeper and can be called upon by the ego, when it is in it's self sabotage role. Like you say, the ego is not keen for us to look inward or sit with emotion for a while. If we did we would see that the emotion often would just float by like a cloud in the sky.
So back to success mindset. I have found that I have a success mindset about most of my life. I find my passion and then set goals and I tend to proceed with a relentless work ethic and dedication. Where I often fall short and fall out of the success mindset is the battle with ego or working relentlessly and passionately on something that actually I am not passionate about, so get bored or realise the goal doesn't really matter. My ego wants me to work tirelessly to be the best, to win the race, to be top, but my heart and soul really don't care about the end goal so give up.
My ego has done a fabulous job of keeping me believing that I should stay small, and not shine my light so brightly. I think when you reach a certain age you realise, there is so much more we were meant to be and do with this life, and start to see the ego for it's true worth. we unravel that ball and start to let the armour fall. We discover our purpose, our path and our authentic selves.
When you are heading towards your true purpose, the real success mindset kicks in, because then you will never quit, never stop until you reach it. You keep going with unwavering faith, that you will succeed you will reach that goal, regardless of what the ego or others say. Because reaching that purpose that goal, is far too important to fail.
Sorry I have rambled, and written a whole essay.
Thank you for this wonderful training, I look forward to the next
Much Love
Sara
marchanna
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Hello Sara,
I don't think I've explained homeostasis well enough.
Homeostasis isn't something we have direct control over, in a sense, just as we don't have direct control over the force of gravity.
Such processes automatically arise and form a stable but dynamic equilibrium. Given new pressures on the system a new stabilization will arise to take into account those consistent pressures. So it's not about the odd over-sugar intake or getting slammed one night here or there.
I think what you might be saying is that, given moderate inputs over time, we stabilize in a more harmonious fashion. If one decides to eat too much sugar consistently (in the form of too many carbs), the dynamic stabilization eventually leads to the production of insulin but as that wears out the pancreas (or overloads it) this leads to a type 2 diabetes stabilization. That can degenerate further and further in a dynamically stable way.
I'm simplifying what I am saying about diabetes to make a point that processes automatically seek stabilization in a dynamic fashion at a difficult to predict rate.
You'll need to elaborate on this 'true purpose' mantra and why this leads to success mindset, if you don't mind? Because I don't perceive the cause and effect mechanism. Are you sure you don't need a success mindset *before* you can discover your true purpose (whatever that means)? What happens if we do fail at this true purpose?
I don't think I've explained homeostasis well enough.
Homeostasis isn't something we have direct control over, in a sense, just as we don't have direct control over the force of gravity.
Such processes automatically arise and form a stable but dynamic equilibrium. Given new pressures on the system a new stabilization will arise to take into account those consistent pressures. So it's not about the odd over-sugar intake or getting slammed one night here or there.
I think what you might be saying is that, given moderate inputs over time, we stabilize in a more harmonious fashion. If one decides to eat too much sugar consistently (in the form of too many carbs), the dynamic stabilization eventually leads to the production of insulin but as that wears out the pancreas (or overloads it) this leads to a type 2 diabetes stabilization. That can degenerate further and further in a dynamically stable way.
I'm simplifying what I am saying about diabetes to make a point that processes automatically seek stabilization in a dynamic fashion at a difficult to predict rate.
You'll need to elaborate on this 'true purpose' mantra and why this leads to success mindset, if you don't mind? Because I don't perceive the cause and effect mechanism. Are you sure you don't need a success mindset *before* you can discover your true purpose (whatever that means)? What happens if we do fail at this true purpose?
TDenise
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It's interesting how you suggest to allow the shame to inspire growth. You said we should sit there and let it have its impact. I agree with that. That's great!
Often times, people who "encourage" positive mindset try to get you to avoid discontentment, shame, guilt, and all of those "negative" emotions. Instead, I think you should face them head on and allow the discontentment to inspire you to make changes and grow--that's a part of character development. Developing character doesn't always feel good.
You're a great presenter. Our own personal "Mindvalley" inside of WA. Keep it up Marc!
Often times, people who "encourage" positive mindset try to get you to avoid discontentment, shame, guilt, and all of those "negative" emotions. Instead, I think you should face them head on and allow the discontentment to inspire you to make changes and grow--that's a part of character development. Developing character doesn't always feel good.
You're a great presenter. Our own personal "Mindvalley" inside of WA. Keep it up Marc!
marchanna
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Hi Tiffany, I'm glad you stopped by!
The very trick, indeed, is to immerse oneself in the pain, whatever it might be, observe it, and dissolve it. Of course, this is about 'illusory' pain avoidance as created by the ego, not physical pain, which is all too real.
I suppose one could call it character development, but I guess I call it the path to enlightenment!
cheers and please keep coming by with your insights as you have the time and opportunity.
Best, Marc
The very trick, indeed, is to immerse oneself in the pain, whatever it might be, observe it, and dissolve it. Of course, this is about 'illusory' pain avoidance as created by the ego, not physical pain, which is all too real.
I suppose one could call it character development, but I guess I call it the path to enlightenment!
cheers and please keep coming by with your insights as you have the time and opportunity.
Best, Marc
TDenise
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That's interesting. I didn't realize that was the "path to enlightenment". Thanks for letting me know. I'll definitely stop by again. Your content is very interesting.
TDenise
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Sounds like you've been very busy. No rush. The training will be there for you.