The #1 Thing You Should do When You Feel Stuck

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We all feel stuck some time. It can be extremely painful and frustrating when you're trying to accomplish something and you feel like all of your efforts aren't getting you anywhere.

My Recent Experience

My son got sick this week. He had chest congestion that was effecting his breathing. I tried:

  • Teas
  • The humidifier
  • Going to doctors
  • Being patient
  • Taking prescribed medications
  • and nothing worked for one full week!

It was tough and really discouraging.

I Got an Idea to that Gave me Hope

I've been reading a book about King Solomon of Israel. It talks about how wise he was and some of his "laws for living" that led him to becoming one of the richest men who ever lived (arguably "the richest man who ever lived").

Researchers have attempted to calculate his net worth based on what he had (12,000 horsemen on his payroll, gold temples, gold bars, etc.) and they've said he'd probably be in the range of a trillionaire! Considering that no one else has hit the "trillionaire" status, many argue, he is the richest man who ever lived.

The cool thing is he had laws for living and they can solve many problems for us.

In books King Solomon wrote, he talked about how to deal with practical life challenges, what's worth your time, what's not, what shortens your life, what lengthens it, how to attain success, and how to loose it.

The #1 Law for Getting out When You're Stuck

One very important law of living Solomon talks about alot is having good counsel, and I've been trying more and more to find good counsel on every area in life where I want improvement--that brings me to the point of this post.

Odds are you have areas where want to see improvement. In my case, I wanted my son to get well, and I kept seeking counsel, but I wasn't getting good counsel.

Good Counsel vs. Bad Counsel

Good counsel pays dividends. Bad counsel costs. It's important to find good counselors. If you're here at Wealthy Affiliate, I'd suspect you want improvement in your:

  • Income - You want to make more money
  • Wealth - You want to create assets that bring you income without exchanging your time (passive income)
  • Professional life - You want to have a more successful career life
  • Recreation - You want to travel more and do "fun activities"
  • Family Life - You want to spend more meaningful time with family and cherish the moments
  • Social life - You want more friends, more meaningful friendships, and time to enjoy them

According to Solomon, "plans fail without good advisors", which means you need good counsel in order to make your plans succeed. Good counsel has proof, takes time to test and verify, and gives you good results.

Unfortunately, when you have emergency situations, it's difficult to have patience enough to find good counselors. Sometimes, you fall into the lap of bad counselors even when you and they mean well.

In my case, my son's school called me and told me to "take him to the doctor right away", so I scheduled the first-available appointment for his pediatrician's office.

  • I hadn't researched the doctor (because I trusted the office)
  • I hadn't researched possible treatments
  • and I rushed into the solution

It costed me $300 in prescriptions that didn't work and $100 for a doctor's visit that gave solutions and didn't relieve the problem. Bad counsel costs.

When Good Counsel Works

On the other hand, I've been looking at my goals over the last few months and analyzing which areas I want to see more improvement in my life and business. I've chosen some very good courses, books, and counselors in some areas, and I've seen great results.

A few months back, I wrote down my goals. I had things like:

  • I want to grow my email list
  • I want to grow my Youtube channel
  • I want to get more traffic on my website
  • I want to start working on courses on my website
  • I want to make more money

From there, I decided to find advisors who had mastered an area I want to improve on. Some advisors I connected with by buying their courses, some I was able to offer value to in other ways, and I've watched some of my goals get achieved. Of course, the goals I mentioned in this post aren't specific, but I have seen progress.

I plan to continue applying this law for living to my life and business. I want it to become like a natural reaction, so if I want to succeed with something, I instantly know to identify someone who's mastered it, and use them as a "template" and their advice as guidance.

Of course, I'll have to be discerning because every situation is different, but good counsel works all the same.

To sum this all up reach out for help with good advisors when you need a hand! It'll help you get out of ruts every time.

My Questions for You

  • What areas do you want to improve? SEO? Content writing? Copywriting? Traffic generation? Conversion optimization?
  • Have you found someone whose mastered that?
  • What's stopping you from reaching out to good advisors?

I know the "money excuse" is very real for most of us, but I already have an answer for that here. Hahaha. Get creative. If you want to accomplish something, you have to do what it takes.

P.S - Here are some places you can get counsel from me (right here at WA)

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Love this post.

I hope your son is feeling better now. One of the things that I like most about Wealthy Affiliate is the community.

Today, I needed a dose of Tiffany's thought processes. You are an perfect example of someone that has sought wise council.

I also like your post earlier this year about the benefits of high ticket items. I had a nice high ticket sale yesterday. A house. So today, as I am planning my next 6 weeks activities; I was seeking counsel of like minded person that encourages me to remember that we only have so many hours a day. You... lol

Although small commissions are great, especially when you get a bunch of them. Big commissions for legitimate, useful items or services are also great.

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Awww! I miss you Sondra. It seems like I haven't heard from you in FOREVER. Congratulations on the house sale! I bet that was a nice "high ticket commission".

He's doing okay, but I wish he was better 100%. The allergens here are really bad, and it's triggering his asthma. Hopefully, they calm down soon and the doctors can help us keep the cycle from happening again.

Great post Tiffany thanks, so much useful info, I'm going to look up King Solomon, sounds like I could learn a thing or two from him!

If you can get Manuka Honey and some lemons you could try your son with that. I have had good results with them myself. It at least shouldn't do him any harm unless he's allergic to honey or lemons of course. You just put a full teaspoon of Manuka honey in a mug, squeeze in some fresh lemon juice and add hot water. It takes a while to work but it does work. Hope he gets better soon.

Krs Caroline😁

Thanks Caroline! The Book I'm reading is called "The Richest Man Who Ever Lived". It's really good about Solomon. The book Solomon actually wrote is called Proverbs.

I'm all for alternative medicine and we've tried manuka honey for other things. Good suggestion. He's doing better than he was, but as odd as it sounds, I think the chiropractor may really help him. I'm going to schedule an appointment this week.

Hiya Tiffany,

Sorry to hear your boy isn’t better yet, hope the chiropractor does the trick. I read about King Solomon in the Bible and I’m sure I’ll get to Proverbs (I’m re-reading the Bible as an adult after a lovely lady gave me a copy) it was very interesting, I think I’ll try the book you mentioned too.

Krs Caroline😁

Hi Tiffany,
Always great to see your posts. I hope your young fella makes a speedy recovery
Michael.

Thanks Michael! It’s good seeing you also! My son is getting better. Thanks!

A very enjoyable post, Tiffany. And some great advice.

Thank you.
Valerie

Thanks Valerie! I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

Tiffany, you are my idol. Everything you write I treasure. I hope your son has recovered.

When we have everything going well it is easy to work out the right path, but when we have an emotional problem we tend to panic with our first response and take the wrong path.

I have just found out that I have a medical problem so I spoke to my brother-in-law who is a medical professor who travels the world with his work.

I wanted to go to the big hospital that my wife goes to but I have been sent to another one.

He said they are both World-class hospitals. End of discussion as I had the answer to my question. He is overseas somewhere now.

When I see your work I do not doubt it as you are World-class.

Thank you for your time,

Tom.

Thanks so much Tom! I really appreciate your encouragement. I hope you get the support you need to overcome what you're going thru. As for us, we're in the hospital now, and my son is getting better.

I think it's almost unnatural to sort thru things when you have an emergency. It's like your emotions get the best of you sometimes.

At times, our first response can connect us with good people and things work out, but if not, it's important not to get discouraged. Don't give up trusting people and keep looking for good advisors: 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th opinions if you need to--that's what I've had to do at times.

I hope you get better soon!

“People who cannot accept the opinion of others do not have an open mind and are not as lucky as those who have an open mind to grow their opinion which is their future lifestyle.” Tom Short.

“When doing Something without Thinking about it is the same Action as picking up a Rifle and Shooting at Something Without Taking Aim at it.” Tom Short.

“If we did not have any problems we would not have any solutions to grow from.” Tom Short.

Those are great quotes!

That is true, If someone have got problem it is necessary to ask,
I spent lot of time my site were bad because I was shy to ask it took me long time to fix, even now I am still fixing, but I will be fine soon, thanks for advise.

I've done that too where I try to troubleshoot by myself. It takes so much longer when you don't ask. Sometimes, it's necessary to learn, but if you find yourself spending too much time troubleshooting because you're stuck, then it's important to reach out for help.

Hi Tiffany. Great advice. There's always someone at WA who can offer advice on any situation we get stuck on.

I’ve gotten a lot of great advice over the years.

I look forward to viewing your training Tiffany and hope you find some assistance for your son. I get congestion a lot and at the moment we have 57 fires on the East Coast of Australia burning. The smoke is awful. I use natural oil drops in hot water to inhale the steam twice a day, it really helps. Simple but effective.

Let me know if I can help
Lily 😥

Wow! I haven’t heard of that before. We’re in the hospital and he’s improving. Thanks for your support!

Thanks Tiffany you offer such great advice. Hoping & praying that your son gets better soon.
Ray

He’s getting better and better. We finally got good counsel and things started to improve quickly from there. It takes persistence sometimes because bad advice made things so confusing.

I had to keep getting other opinions until I felt things were clear and solved the problems. Thanks for the well wishes. I’m confident we’ll be over this very soon.

Great message--Hope that your son is now feeling better! I like the way you tied real life experiences into your blog--so many do, but this was was poignant, especially when referring to King Solomon!!

Thanks Jeffrey! Many of the principles are relevant in business and life.

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