Letting Go

Last Update: December 21, 2014

12/18

Today was my birthday, and it also happened to be a very emotional day for me. The day started off fine. I went into work as usual, and put in my hours for my manager who asked me to come in even though he originally gave me the day off.

The bakery was pretty busy but it was my birthday so I just let everything roll off. (If only I could do that all the time :P)

It wasn't until later on this evening that I began thinking about a girl that I have been trying to let go of. A long story, but my main point is that it's hard to let go of something that you really care about. Something that is really important to you, but you know you have to move on because it's the right thing to do.

In this case, we aren't emotionally on the same wavelength, and it's very hard for me to come to terms with it because I really like her. I have not really felt this way about a female since I was 18 years old. I'm 28 today. It's hard for me to find that woman who I'm both physically and emotionally connected with. She has been that person.

The vibe that we both have created with eachother has been amazing and effortless. There is no drama. And that's why it's so difficult for me to let it go.

My grandmother is visiting for Christmas, and we were all downstairs eating. I approached the table with a heavy heart and sat down. I wasn't really in the mood to celebrate. After a minute or two my Grandmother says "Boy for someone who's having a birthday you don't look too happy!"

A minute or two passed and my mom said "What's wrong?" That is around the time where I lost it. I just broke down and started bawling my eyes out. She came over and held me and said "What's wrong?" And in between tears I explained to her the situation.

What really resonated with me was that she knew exactly where I was coming from. She finished my sentences and was basically reading my mind. I could not believe it. To have my mother there for me at that moment meant the world to me.

She told me everything would be alright and that I would get over it. She harkened back to the many times in her life when she was in the exact same situation. She comforted me and assured me that I would find someone. She also urged me to send the email that I was conflicted about sending to the woman in question (we will call her H).

I still have not sent it yet. What am I waiting for?

-Stu

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BI2Et19vDCM

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Gordi Premium
Sometimes mind and heart aren't in sync. That's when it's hard to make the right decision, not emotional decision
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StubearBlack Premium
exactly Gordi
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AllynBeekman Premium
Happy birthday, Stu. What would we do without mother's comforting touch some times? Having raised two children and now watching four grandchildren each day, I see it over and over.

Letting go can be hard but, as you say, necessary sometimes. It's a lesson you keep having to learn over and over as you proceed through life. Thanks for being open and vulnerable.

Being willing to face it and talk about it is a very mature statement about who you are!
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StubearBlack Premium
I am a very sensitive person. I feel comfortable enough with WA to be able to show that side. :) Thanks for the comment my friend. And yes, my mother was there for me and that is priceless.
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DannyH517 Premium
Send it Stu! As my grand pop says," You can't win the lottery if you don't play"! Lol Give it a shot...what's the worst that can happen? Happy Birthday by the way!!
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StubearBlack Premium
Meh i'm kinda leaning towards not sending it. It's not an email saying "i need to be with you" it's more of a "i'm letting you go" but as OG grover pointed out, I don't need to send her an email to get that point across.. I just need to do it and not talk about it. If it's meant to be it will be I guess.
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StubearBlack Premium
Thanks for the comment :) I hate being so busy with work .. I just want to be on here all day! :D
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AndyJ Premium
:)
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StubearBlack Premium
my man!
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jazminf Premium
Send the email Stu, you never know unless you try:)
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StubearBlack Premium
The email is to tell her I'm letting her go. That's why it's so hard. It's sort of final you know? At the end I did leave the door open but still.
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jazminf Premium
Well i wish you all the best Stu:)
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