What Stops You From Working Hard On Your Blog?
We all have reasons like work ,kids and life happenings that reduce the time we`d like to spend working on our websites, but what do you find stops you or distracts you from work?
To me what takes hours of my time, the time I could use to blog is ...........dare I say it? my husband.By the time I get home from work, cook,shop and the rest, hubby is home.From the minute he gets in to the minute he falls asleep, he`s talking or clowning around.
Now I`m happy to see him home but he plainly refuses to let me work, he can never stay quiet for 5 minutes and it drives me mad,you know those hyper active people who find everything funny and can make a joke about anything? he`ll never stop there but wants me to join in the laugh or to just listen.
I tried to convince him to join WA, bought him his own laptop even to keep him busy but it didn`t work, he`s not interested in online world,he keeps being like a spoiled 3 year old from morning to night every single day.
I`ve been home for 5 days now free but did not manage a single post because by bad luck for me, they had 2 days free at his working place too.
Keep workiing hard
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I have come to somehow accept it will not happen, honest he`s a clown( I hope clowns do stay quiet at times), an active puppy(puppies sleep a lot) a spoiled 3-6,7-year-old (without the tantrums) full of action and demanding your full attention.
It gets frustrating, especially when I have 5days free from my offline work and I end up doing almost nothing.
Totally there too Roamy. It's so frustrating with someone who needs your attention every second of the day, including after you've done the daily chores. And if I don't, I get the, 'I feel so disconnected line.'
Uggg. Just a little space to build a business, please.
Perhaps fain deafness?😁 Works for me most of the time.
Hang in there sometimes they grow up, fingers crossed. 🤣
Can relate, there have been times I`ve had earphones on just to block things out then I end up feeling guilty.
Here are a couple of other tricks I have used that seem to be helping.
1. When he interrupts give him your complete attention, stare at him quietly listening until he finally stops. Don't speak, don't add anything. When he stops just go back to your work.
2. Pick your time and patiently and in short sentences, without emotion say Why you are building a business, how long it will take and how it will benefit him!
3. When he gets home, give him an hour of 'playtime' be totally committed to him and his needs and then say 'well playtime over for me, I have to work now and make us a fortune. When I'm done we can have dinner, etc'. Set boundaries.
If he wants to act like a child, then you will have to deal with him that way. He may sulk when you first set these boundaries. Explain why you need to be focused and specifically ask him to go find something to do.
Tell him how much you appreciate him understanding.
4. Everytime he interrupts you, hear him out and then ask him to do a chore for you. Dust, vacuum, make lunch, make dinner. If you do this consistently, he will decide that it's no fun interrupting you.
There will be baby tantrums. I know I've been through them but now it's a fairer relationship. Most of the time.
It's called narcissistic behaviour and is more prevalent in men who think the world revolves around them. You can't ignore it as that just makes them worse. You have to deal with it in ways that will make them realise. But lots of positive input and appreciation helps too.
Now that we've gone through the thumb sucking stage, I allocate time that is just his (golf on Mondays and Thursday mornings) and I never cancel. He can but I won't. Seems to work.
Let me know how you go.
Hugs
Lily 😁🎶
Brilliant will have to try your tips, just wondering if they will work. Because honestly, I`m getting kind of desperate.
Really appreciate your input.
I really hope that they work roamy. He obviously loves you but feels uncomfortable that you are not giving him the time he feels he deserves. Working towards a compromise while staying positive about your business is hard. I know.
Woman are expected to drop everything when their men want their attention. Doesn't seem to work the other way around.
It's because they view our business as a hobby, not important.
They talk about balance but what they mean is, don't let it interfere with you giving me your undivided attention. You can do it in your spare time. What spare time?
Businesses take time and effort, consistent, persistence effort.
This is for your future and your dreams, you deserve to feel financially secure.
Sometimes you just have to tell him how frustrated it makes you feel and explain what you are trying to do. They can suck all the joy out of this journey by being so obstructive.
I've had this happen several times in my life and at the end of the day I gave in, they got my time and I lost my business.
It's ok for the guys to say they want time for there work or business or hobby!
Staying strong and positive is hard but I feel you can do this.
Consider it just another skill to learn!
Big hugs
Know what you are going through
Love
Lily 😊
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This is a difficult program about which I am not going to comment. I will say that, when my wife feels I might be wasting my time at WA, I show her my progress and what is happening with the site. At the risk of having people through things at me, your relationship is your priority so fitting WA and a website in, for awhile, may be slowed down. My thought is that it will work out if you are consistent and open.
I really have never thought he thinks I`m wasting time, I do show my progress, my wins, and all that, it`s just some people(grownups too it seems) demand constant attention.