What a day

byRicia121

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4 years ago

What a day

My best friend Mum died on Monday and her burial was today. In Ireland today with COVD-19 it is a totally different type of funeral we have.

The wake

The wake was last night where normally the whole county and relative form across the world come to give their condolences, in the family home, shaking hands with so many friends and family having a drink, talking about old time and telling stories with people you haven’t seen for years and local come out of the wood work to be part of someone passing.

This happened only in the country not in Dublin city funeral are quite different, a bit more commercials like.

Mass live on the web

Today was the 1st day I every watch a funeral mass live on the web, and I must say it was a lovely way to watch it, as I was never one for going to church, so I could listen to the family tells the tails of Nellie 92 years on this earth.

I the head off to the cemetery for the burial of Nellie, as we all stood outside the cemetery waiting on the hearse to arrive, everyone doing the social distancing and some few had their masked on. I decided to leave mine in the car purely out of respect for Nellie, it like the men heading in to the cemetery and taking their caps, same thing why would you want to leave a mask on your face.

The Burial

The priest Father Coffey gave a love talk at the graveside, everyone standing apart to show their respect. As the coffin was lower into the ground by her sons and grandsons, her daughters stood by with tears streaming down their faces, all I wanted to do was run over to Mags and hug her. My best friend of 41 years, I just stood where I was, not wanting to make a scene and I know Mags would have killed me if I had.

People wander over and nodded with the family to show their respect, and I stood their thinking should I make my move now, what will I say to my dear friend. I can honestly say I never know what to say at funeral.

Given my condolences

So I walk over slowly to Mags and I nod at her sisters and brothers, some small talk take place, another lady is in full-blown conversation with Mags and I know Mags so well (laughing as I write that) the look on her face says recuse me please.

So I butted in, Hi Mag so sorry to hear about Nellie, the other lady steps away, and Mags looks at me and says will we, or won’t we, as we wrap ourselves around one another, tears streaming sown both our faces and as write this the tears are flowing again

My goodbyes

Eventually we unwrap and chat for a while, I said my good byes and head back to my car, feeling loss and an unbearable sadness in my heart for Mags cause she said to me I just lost my lovely son Dan and now my Mum I’d never be same person again Trish. So, I sat in my car and let the tears flow.

So that was my day.