How are you, honestly?

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It is a common and instinctive practise that we ask people how they are when we encounter them. Most people respond with "I'm ok", "I'm alright" and similar sentiments. Often times, they are not "ok" or "alright" and many times, the one who asked does not really want to know how they really are anyway. It is just courtesy question.

As I reflect on the suicidal death of renowed comedian Robin Williams, I am left considering just how "not ok" people sometimes are, even when they appear to be or say they are. A man who made millions the world over laugh for many decades, struggled with irreconcilable depression within his own soul and few seemed to know. Robin Williams made me laugh and he probably made you laugh as well. However, when the lights went out and the show was over, there was one person left not laughing. In his darkest moments, Robin Williams could not make the most important person laugh, himself.

Today I ask you, not out of courtesy but out of a genuine concern, how are you? Are you alright, really alright or are you like Robin and have mastered the art of masking your inner pain with an outward exuberance? I don't expect you say openly here if all isn't well with you but be honest with yourself and those in your immediate circle and seek help if you are experiencing distressing circumstances. If you are not ok, admit it and get the necessary intervention before things reach crisis proportion and you become consumed with complete hopelessness.

As a qualified and trained social worker and counsellor, I encourage you, talk to someone, whether it be a relative, friend, co-worker, spiritual leader, counsellor or someone you trust, who can help you to get help. You don't have to keep up an impression for the rest of us, do what is best for your own sustenance. You are worth it.

Be blessed

Mustard seed

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Because of my faith in Jesus Christ I am happier than I have ever been. I just pray that Robin Williams knew Jesus before he left this earth. God bless his family and loved ones.

Amen Phyllis, God bless you.

No words can really describe how we are feeling. What an amazing world we live in.

Thanks for the post.

Sad, but still full of hope. Thanks for sharing.

I'm still crying for my friends who were shot on MH17. I'm still crying for my friends both in Israel and Palestine (yes, I do have friends all over in this globe). I'm still crying for my relatives who died very very young and I'm sad but I'm not going to be depressed. I have someone I turn to all the time, someone I really look up to, someone that a lot of people do not believe but it's ok. I'm sad but this is a trial and I shouldn't moan and whine and shouldn't do bad things to myself. Thank you for your post. Take care of yourself.

I agree with you completely Jenn. Keep your eyes on the hills my friend, from whence cometh your help. God bless.

Thank You for asking, I am doing GREAT> I also suffer from depression, but I have some how nipped it in the butt, and keep it at bay. Having WA here helps allot and staying busy.
I didn't really have anyone to turn to in the past, so I wrote in my Journal. I may some day publish that Journal. Now there's a scary thought.
I cried when I heard about Robin. I pray for those he left behind. And his billions of Fans.

Good to hear that you overcame depression Linda. Continued strength to you.

You really want to know how I'm this evening!
My social heart is fulfilled after a nice evening with friends.
My WA heart is suffering because I've have to read the same questions, the same answers ( sometimes wrong), the same self promotion of some of our fellow WA'lers. but as this isn't new and I have the choice to stop reading and quit, there's nothing new in the East ( coming from Europe).
But I will stay a while here, because some of you I really do like.

post scriptum
In the meantime some kids died in Gaza, East Africa, Syria, Northern Iraq, and around the world. Whatever my feelings were regarding Robin, he's just one of the thousands who left us today.

I appreciate your honesty Guy, that's what I asked for. Keep on keeping on, take what you need and leave what you don't. All the best.

For everyone who died yesterday if they have family and friends who survived I am sure they will be missed just as we who appreciated Robin Williams miss him.

Thank you Mustard Seed, I was absolutely devastateded to hear of Robin Williams passing from suicide.He made so many people happy and no one saw the deamons he was fighting until it was too late. I am an extremely private person and I keep people at length from me. I am not really depressed or suicidal but I don't like crowds and I like my privacy. When I get old I fear that I will be the little old lady with alot of cats, except mine would be dogs because I am not a cat person. I wasn't always like this, I used to be a fun outgoing person,but something changed in me a few years ago and I just don't enjoy anything anymore. I am sorry for dragging on about this, but you know to be honest, I feel a little better by saying this, I guess it is because my WA friends don't really know me in person and I don't have to worry about anyone hurting or judging me. Thanks for the great blogged. Have a great day. Thanks Wanda

Hey Wanda, it's ok to be private but at least, have someone or a few persons with whom you can share your concerns and feelings and who will not betray your trust. It's good that you feel fairly comfortable to share with us in this virual community. Feel free to drop me a line if ever you like. Take good care.

Thanks so much sometimes it is easier to talk online to WA friends than in person who knows maybe one day I can get to actually meet some of the wonderful and kind people I have met on WA. Wanda

VERY insightful, Mustard Seed! Your words are so important and so relevant especially right now when suicide is on everyone's mind because of Robin Williams. Thank you for being so thought-provoking!

Thank you Sugarbird.

Beautifully said.

What a great post! I agree, we are often so busy with our lives that we don't take the time to really, genuinely address people. I catch myself doing that all the time, usually in retrospect.

I am doing well. Like everyone else, I have my problems in life and my own internal battles, but I always remind myself, even in my darkest moments, to have faith. To have faith in my path, in myself..and that even if things get really bad, if I am still alive I have a chance to turn things around. Joy and fulfillment will always be waiting for you as long as you still believe in yourself and continue seeking.

Thank you Lyra. Continue staying positive and keeping the faith for better things to come your way.

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