Being Hit On on WA? No Thank You!
Something that has become so common place on social media, especially on Facebook, is being hit on. At least once a week I get a message on Facebook from some random male that I don't know.
They usually say they "find my profile attractive" and want to be friends and get to know me better.
So yesterday I got hit on here in WA via private message from a member. The same drill about how he finds my profile attractive.
To any man on WA that hits on me here, let me share my full feelings here with you.
1) You find my profile attractive? Which part exactly? The married mother of 2?
I find this offensive, you have just insulted me and my marriage vows.
2) I am here on WA to make money and to expand my business.
Seriously if I was seeking an online relationship I would sign up to a dating website, I wouldn't be here looking for a relationship with anyone.
I am here for one thing only. To make money, to expand my business and yes to form relationships with people that have similar interests. I have made some amazing connections here. No, NOT romantic relationships. I am talking about colleagues, people that are also interested in making money online. We share tips and support each other - TO MAKE MONEY ONLINE.
Now I am not sure what Kyle and Caron's take is on this, but I'll speak for myself and I am sure a load of women will agree - I don't want to be hit on here with your sleazy come on lines about my "attractive profile".
It is not appropriate here or any other social media channel. The only place where that is appropriate is on a dating site. Take it there please. I really don't want this platform to turn into another Facebook where it becomes common place to hit on women.
I took the time to think about this overnight and I have decided if any man hits on me here I will hit that report button.
UPDATED - loads of women have confirmed they have been hit up by the same guy... how sad!
This makes me sure that this is scammer or con artist - what do we all have in common here at WA? We all want to make money online! And this guy is trying to get us all to contact him privately. Ladies please please report and block this guy.
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Hi Lynne, I got the same yesterday from CheersBrian as well, in fact I received it twice. This is not the first time I've experienced it here. I normally reply and then see what they come back with then decide if I want to befriend them or not. I wouldn't worry about it just ignore and he'll get the message. xxxx
Hi Lynne, I am the same as you in that my bio clearly says I am married with 3 children so was surprised when he said he liked my Bio. He obviously hasn't read them as he replied to me saying he was single with 2 sons.
I never even answered him back. xxxx
I get a lot of DMs from guys on instagram and it’s gross. Here I got a similar message from CheersBrian2, is this the dude??? I ignored his message but now I’ll have to block him. Loser!
He actually made me double check my profile to make sure I do say I’m married... and sure enough I say I’m a wife to an awesome man and I still got that message.
I just got hit on 2 days ago as well, he is a new member and said he wanted to get to know me better. He is the second one in the last month to do so. I gave him the benefit of the doubt with his first pm but in his second, he was very clear that he really liked my Bio and was single and wanted to get to know me better. I told him that WA is not a dating site and that if he had read my Bio, I clearly state that I have been married for 36 years and still am very much married. I noticed going to his profile, 99% of his followers are all women.
I am not shocked to hear that there are guys so thick headed and shallow that they use any platform - any social media connection - to do such a despicable thing!
These types of individuals are probably living in their momma's basement and only interact with others through their computers and iPhones. And, it is very evident that they have never been taught how to show respect and class when dealing with others - especially those of the opposite sex.
I'm truly sorry that one of these dork nerds have the unmitigated gall to do this to you, Lynne, or any of the other ladies here, in our WA community!
It doesn't bode well for those of us, males, who would never think of doing such a thing. And, I double-dog guarantee you that, if I ever see or hear of anyone admitting to this practice, I will report them, myself!
For these weasels to do this is an unthinkable breach of trust!
Jim
That's a terrible way to put it. Most likely is a scammer rather then someone battling with a mental health problem.
Just a bad overall way to think that all people as you described "dork/nerds" would ever do something like that outta disrespect.
Wish people would think before they say something so offensive.
Eric
As Eric said, generally these are fake profiles created by scammers looking to begin an online "relationship" to bilk money out of their marks.
Other than reporting them, they aren't worth a single second more of your time.
1st amendment, Eric. I calls 'em like I sees 'em.
My apologies if I ruffled your feathers but, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I can respect your opinion. And, that should be a two-way street.
Life is too short to be offended by something so trivial. IMHO.
Jim
Lynne you need to name and shame them types of people/profiles, so we can all avoid them.
If people are paying for premium on platforms such as WA then they should be, to the least, be learning or implementing the trainings here and not hitting on, or flirting with random people they don't know.
EIther they is some is something with thier heads, or it could be scammers way to try to manipulate people.
I've seen a few profiles on WA spamming their profiles and trying to sell services.
Thanks Lynne,
I suspected as much when I woke up to a message this morning. It must be the same man you are all talking about because his profile looked to me to be a copy and paste job too. I'm getting a bit tired of the Facebook messages, and now they are starting to use Twitter and Pinterest to sleaze on to women as well. I was surprised to see it happen here. Not the first time for me but thankfully it has not happened very often. I'm glad you have written this post because now I know other women have been contacted and I will report him too. How do I do that?
Ange
When you have the message open you will see an option to block or report. Let me know if you don't find it and I will send a screenshot. :)
I'll bet it is the same person! I also detest these sleazy hits.
Thanks Lynne
All done, managed to report the message at least. Hopefully someone higher up will give him a run down about what NOT to do here at WA. I don't want to see anyone banned who genuinely wants to start a business, but I also don't want to be fearful of responding to any genuine messages either.
Ange
I don't want any members being banned for no reason and I don't expect him to be banned or request it. However I don't want to be harrassed by members like this either.
That happened to me last year. I reported him at the time. I agree, it was just like the kind I got every week on Facebook...and Twitter...
Luckily, it has NOT been a regular occurance here. I don't blame WA. There are bound to be a few who get through from time to time and amount of great people here far outweighs anything else!
Most of the men here have been complete gentlemen.
What really bugged me where the ones who followed me to Facebook and Twitter from here. That happened several times.
Yeah I don't accept any friendship requests from anyone on Facebook anymore unless I personally know them! There are a few members here that I have gotten to know really well and we have connected on other social media platforms. I am even on phone call terms with Lauren now... but as a rule I keep my friendships business like here.
Yup, me too. Ever since joining WA, I've had friend requests on Facebook from men who appear to be stalkers. When you go to their Facebook pages, there is very little activity there, and that always makes me suspicious. Calling me 'Dear', is a big tell.
Totally agree with you, Lynne. Let's keep Wealthy Affiliate a safe space for building business. I also received a similar message yesterday and just deleted it.
For ages, I only followed women on Wealthy Affiliate and a handful of men (the leadership here) for exactly this reason. My marriage and family are more important to me.
However as a Super Affiliate in training and as an Ambassador I have relaxed my own rules a bit and so far, everyone has been all about business and it's been fine. If my hubby expresses concern, I will unfollow all men again.
I guess newcomers need to learn the rules of engagement here? Perhaps a poor choice of wording. Ha ha. Just send them the anti spam rules? I did hear of one successful WA romance a while back so I guess it's fine for the singles?
Regarding the part about insulting marriage vows... I think only we have the power to do that, if we responded to these kind of messages. It's pretty harmless if we don't respond. I hope.
Well done you for sending such a clear message.
Well I don't think there is anything wrong with building a friendship and then that evolving into a romance....but this is nothing like that. This is a sleazy come on being copy pasted to a number of married women at WA.
I'm single Lauren and he hit on me too, even though he didn't know I am single because it's not on my profile purely to avoid people like this. I do tend to ignore these requests on Facebook due to the nature of social media, but I truly hope this does not become a norm in WA though. To be honest, it annoyed me to be 'hit on' here in such a manner because it is a .place of business and should be treated as such by everyone. I'm not opposed to the thought of meeting someone here but its certainly not in any part of my mind and I would think twice about it, and am definitely not interested in being approached by someone who clearly has the dating skills of a 3 year old. I thought about responding to him, then I decided not to because I'm not interested in wasting my valuable time on it. To be honest, I think the more we ignore it, the more this platform is at risk of becoming another Facebook so I've happily reported this member in the hopes of it deterring him from telling his 200 Facebook friends to come here because at the moment it's an unsaturated meat market. I would consider sending the anti-spam rules, but realised that might open a conversation with him so decided against it. It was nice to hear that there have been some romances developed here, but I'm sure they were approached in a more socially acceptable manner. You're doing really well with your SWAG training I have seen. Keep up the great work with it.
Ange
Thanks for sharing your take as a single woman, Ange. You make excellent points. And appreciate the compliment on my SWAG training. Thanks.
You tell 'em, Lynne! Go ahead and hit that report button. It's kind of like bullies: if you don't put them in their place they'll just keep on bullying.
I support you 1000% and if I had a share button, I'd be sharing this to help it "go viral"!
I have religious and political views but I don't bring them here for the same reason: I don't want WA to become like Facebook. We are here for business and networking. Period!
You are an amazing member here, Lynne! You are so supportive and helpful to so many people. Don't let this idiot distract you too much.
And, if the jerk is reading this: Why don't you grow up, get a clue how to behave socially and in a business-like manner and, by all means, shut up and get to work!
With respect and support,
~Bob
Nor should you tolerate it! I see from other comments you did report it. Thank you for taking that step. Like Craig said, "Take out the trash"!
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Hi Lynne,
What a smart move to write a blog about this, so that we could all come together in recognizing these members. Thank you!
I got couple of messages recently: one from the same guy cheersbrian2 - ignored. Another one, just a few days earlier - from oldskool - left him a public "Welcome!" message on his wall.
I think Kyle should know.
And yes, I agree that the number of similar messages on Facebook has increased lately.
~ Julia
Yes it is the same guy cheersbrian2! I have reported him and emailed Kyle about it.
Great, thank you, Lynne.